How did you decide you were ready for kids

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I have peed on a many sticks over the years--praying it was negative, but now I’ve got the house, the career, and I was married.. so what was I waiting for?
I had always thought that I’d come to this revelation that "NOW" was the time. but a few months prior to becoming pregnant, I had a "scare" and remember that when the test came back negative, there was a twinge of disappointment.
So unconsciously I found a tool online to track my ovulation, and on the night of our anniversary, I knew I was "pretty fertile" and the fact that I didn't have any birth control pills that month, I knew it was possible but never thought it was going to happen LOL

Low and behold 2 weeks later i was late, which i rarely am...and hubby bought the test... and almost 9 months later Dominic was born.

So ladies how did you decide?

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Permalink Reply by Cheryl Hill on September 15, 2008 at 9:41am: This is a great questions and very interested to read everyone response!

Ted and I had been married for almost 5 years and I was teaching full time. A part of me just felt the need inside to be home with babies. I started feeling a different direction in my life then teaching full time and knew that it was the need to be at home.

I knew we were at a stage in our marriage and life that it was time to add to our family!

So we began the journey and I have been blessed ever since. I LOVE being a WAHM which still gives me time at home with the girls and allow me some adult interaction and time to be ME.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Laura on September 15, 2008 at 9:42am: We never really decided. It just happened and we were excited about it.

3 kids later, we're pretty sure we're done. :); ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Mutha Mae on September 15, 2008 at 10:09am: We were in our late 20s when we got married and were not ready for children. We wanted to party and travel and work on our careers. When I turned 30, something went DING and I realized I was ready for the next stage of my life.

It happened in Wendys, the fast food joint. One minute I was eating fries and the next minute I said, "I want to have a baby." Husband replied, "Can we finish eating first?"

Turns out I was infertile and it took four years to conceive our daughter. I can't tell you how heartbreaking it is to spend four years seeing negative pregnancy tests.

It's now three kids later. Two pregnancies from treatment (lost one), one surprise pregnancy on from a cruise, and one adoption that took place a few months after the baby was born.

I'd like one more, but I am DONE with pregnancy. Perhaps we will adopt again.
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Permalink Reply by Laurie Mapp on September 15, 2008 at 1:31pm: We're boring - lol, we sat down on our one year anniversary and agreed that we were ready to have a family. I started charting and went off the pill and about 4 months later we were pg with our first! We were very lucky it was so easy and I always try to appreciate that fact. I've been pregnant three times since then (1 miscarriage in there) and now we are just as sure we are done as we were sure we were ready!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Theresa Moss on September 15, 2008 at 2:02pm: Wow. You ladies sure do come up with some good topics of discussion.

I've always said I never decided to have children, they decided to have me. I was 21 and had been dating my (then) boyfriend for 2 years. i guess I got a little antsy and thought it would be a good idea to take a break. I was not being very good to myself, and was definitely heading down the wrong path. about 5 or 6 weeks later, I went to the doctor and he confirmed I was pregnant. I was very scared to tell Kevin about it, but when I did, he immediately said we should get married and start a family. Long story short, Shane was born 8 months later, and we've all been together ever since. I believe he was a miracle who kept me from making a big mistake with my life. He's 19 now and his brother Alec is 16. I am grateful every day for all my guys!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Christina Gayle on September 15, 2008 at 3:02pm: I don't remember the actual decision, but at some point we decided, "Let's start trying now." Our parents and grandparents had been badgering us about grandkids ever since we'd gotten married, but that didn't affect our decision at all. '

We didn't tell anyone we were trying. As the months went on and we still weren't having any luck, the constant "When are you going to have kids?" questions were beginning to hurt more and more. But we still kept quiet, because we didn't want anyone to worry. Finally, a year had passed, and we started down the road of infertility testing. Tom got his part done, and I started my part with a HSG - hardly fair that his part involved girly videos while mine was a balloon pushing radioactive chemicals through my Fallopian tubes. A few weeks later, at Christmastime, the test came out positive!

Now TJ is 3, and we're celebrating our 8th wedding anniversary this year. One big happy family.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Erin on September 15, 2008 at 3:14pm: Wow that's a fantastic story!

Theresa Moss said:
Wow. You ladies sure do come up with some good topics of discussion.

I've always said I never decided to have children, they decided to have me. I was 21 and had been dating my (then) boyfriend for 2 years. i guess I got a little antsy and thought it would be a good idea to take a break. I was not being very good to myself, and was definitely heading down the wrong path. about 5 or 6 weeks later, I went to the doctor and he confirmed I was pregnant. I was very scared to tell Kevin about it, but when I did, he immediately said we should get married and start a family. Long story short, Shane was born 8 months later, and we've all been together ever since. I believe he was a miracle who kept me from making a big mistake with my life. He's 19 now and his brother Alec is 16. I am grateful every day for all my guys!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Erin on September 15, 2008 at 3:15pm: Yes, isn't that wonderful how much women go through (not knocking men at all) in comparison to the men for fertility testing? Congrats on becoming a mommy :)

Christina Gayle said:
I don't remember the actual decision, but at some point we decided, "Let's start trying now." Our parents and grandparents had been badgering us about grandkids ever since we'd gotten married, but that didn't affect our decision at all. '

We didn't tell anyone we were trying. As the months went on and we still weren't having any luck, the constant "When are you going to have kids?" questions were beginning to hurt more and more. But we still kept quiet, because we didn't want anyone to worry. Finally, a year had passed, and we started down the road of infertility testing. Tom got his part done, and I started my part with a HSG - hardly fair that his part involved girly videos while mine was a balloon pushing radioactive chemicals through my Fallopian tubes. A few weeks later, at Christmastime, the test came out positive!

Now TJ is 3, and we're celebrating our 8th wedding anniversary this year. One big happy family.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by linda.harrison on September 15, 2008 at 3:18pm: Erin said:
Yes, isn't that wonderful how much women go through (not knocking men at all) in comparison to the men for fertility testing? Congrats on becoming a mommy :)

Christina Gayle said:
I don't remember the actual decision, but at some point we decided, "Let's start trying now." Our parents and grandparents had been badgering us about grandkids ever since we'd gotten married, but that didn't affect our decision at all. '

We didn't tell anyone we were trying. As the months went on and we still weren't having any luck, the constant "When are you going to have kids?" questions were beginning to hurt more and more. But we still kept quiet, because we didn't want anyone to worry. Finally, a year had passed, and we started down the road of infertility testing. Tom got his part done, and I started my part with a HSG - hardly fair that his part involved girly videos while mine was a balloon pushing radioactive chemicals through my Fallopian tubes. A few weeks later, at Christmastime, the test came out positive!

Now TJ is 3, and we're celebrating our 8th wedding anniversary this year. One big happy family.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by ComfyMom~Stacey on September 15, 2008 at 5:07pm: I was never going to have children. I didn't particularly like them & was the worst babysitter in town. I received a message very on in my life that having children Ruined Your Life! You Life Was Over when you had kids. That's it, no hope, you are doomed if you have kids. Now, admittedly the rest of the sentence was "While You Were a Teenager" but that part never really registered with me. Just the Doomed part and I took that message to heart. I was vehemently childfree in teens & 20's.
When I was 32 the last of my close friends got married and it occurred to me that the last of life's happy transitions had happened. Everyone had finished school, everyone had married, no one had or wanted kids, what of life's big moments were left? Funerals. and remarriage, but there would have to be an end to a marriage first for that to happen. Kinda depressing really. That got me rethinking the whole Doomed thing. DH & I talked about it a lot. We're selfish people, adding kids was going to require some radical changes.
But in the end we decided to make them & I started charting my cycles in Sept 2001, I got pg in Jan 2002, Ds1 was born in Oct, when I was 35. I got pg again in April 2003 & DS2 was born Jan 2004.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Suzanne on September 19, 2008 at 7:35am: I got married. Although it took nearly two years before we finally got pregnant.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by leendaa on September 20, 2008 at 9:13am: it just happened.. not longer after me and my husband get married
suddenly "BUM" im pregnant..
it's amazing to know that there's a something living in our tummy..
i love every single day when i get preganant.. i love the kicking and everything..
i cant forget when i said to myself " wow its moving, the baby is moving and kicking .. its alive "

i am now (again) pregnant, i think for now 2 is enough.. maybe another 4 years..
ok lah.. to have one or two more babies, i hope twins :P; ▶ Reply to This