Birthday party help!!
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My son will be turning a whole year old on Saturday, November 1st.
Of course everyone in the family, and friends, and their kids all want me to throw this huge party for him... And while I truly appreciate their love of my little guy, and their support and love of my family, I really don't want to have a huge party for him. He doesn't understand what's going on yet, and I really don't want to overwhelm him.
I tried to nicely tell this to my family and friends and I got a lot of negativity from them all. I was only planning on having his two grandmothers, his grandfather, and his godparents. Of course my husband and I will be there, and possibly my old friend/doula who helped me through my pregnancy. I feel like she should have a right to be there.
That's 8 people already! And I feel like that's almost too many. I mean, heck the day is about him, not them, right? Or am I being selfish?
Another thing that bothers me is all the buying that's expected. I don't want to buy a bunch of plates/decorations/napkins that will just end up in the landfill. I also have no idea what to buy him. I know that his grandmothers will get him some toys. He doesn't even really need any new toys right now, as it is. I feel like it's wasteful to go out and buy him a toy because everyone is making me feel obligated.
I guess I'm letting them make me feel like a bad mom.
Any suggestions or thoughts?
Of course everyone in the family, and friends, and their kids all want me to throw this huge party for him... And while I truly appreciate their love of my little guy, and their support and love of my family, I really don't want to have a huge party for him. He doesn't understand what's going on yet, and I really don't want to overwhelm him.
I tried to nicely tell this to my family and friends and I got a lot of negativity from them all. I was only planning on having his two grandmothers, his grandfather, and his godparents. Of course my husband and I will be there, and possibly my old friend/doula who helped me through my pregnancy. I feel like she should have a right to be there.
That's 8 people already! And I feel like that's almost too many. I mean, heck the day is about him, not them, right? Or am I being selfish?
Another thing that bothers me is all the buying that's expected. I don't want to buy a bunch of plates/decorations/napkins that will just end up in the landfill. I also have no idea what to buy him. I know that his grandmothers will get him some toys. He doesn't even really need any new toys right now, as it is. I feel like it's wasteful to go out and buy him a toy because everyone is making me feel obligated.
I guess I'm letting them make me feel like a bad mom.
Any suggestions or thoughts?
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Permalink Reply by Bev on -
He's turning 1 yr. old, he won't know the difference. If you don't want to do a big-to-do party, you shouldn't feel obligated to do so. When he gets to about 3-4 years old, birthdays really start getting fun! But, if you are running around like a crazy woman trying to get everything ready for a blow-out party, you're right, you won't be spending much time with the birthday boy. I made that mistake with my firstborn. Looking back at the video of his party, I can tell that he was pretty overwhelmed with all the attention. So, follow your instincts, and do not let anyone make you feel like a bad mom for doing so! :)
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Permalink Reply by Lisa Survillas on -
I think sometimes you have to let go and realize that somethings are important to others and that first birthday's are a big thing for some. You by no means have to use disposable stuff if you are ready to do dishes and such. But, don't feel like you have to push your son to do a lot of hoopla and for longer than he can handle. Both of my kids took their scheduled nap during their first birthday and we did cake when they awoke. The kids in the family had a blast and so did our friends kids. They enjoy getting together and playing with each other. It is a good excuse to have a get together and be together as a family. In today's busy life, these are events that bring people together who wouldn't ordinarily take time to do otherwise. Just another way to look at it!
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