When 5 or 6 yr old asks...Mommy, What is Sex??
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I recently blogged about this. What do you tell your little girl or boy age say 5-6 if they came home and asked, "Mommy, What is sex?" You can find my quick response in my blog!
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Permalink Reply by Lisa Survillas on -
Funny you should talk about this...
without having read your blog, I had an inquisitive little girl (only 9 now) and at 8 years old, we sat down and had THE TALK!! She had heard the word from kids at school with high school aged siblings and I wanted to make sure she understood what was being talked about before someone else explained it WRONG or inappropriatly. I looked on the net for info on how to and for the most part, got nothing. But i did find that experts agree she was the right age in fact, the best age because she still trusted me, thought i was important, and wasn't afraid or wierded out so much that she wouldn't ask questions. I warned all her friends and dance friends moms that i was doing so and told them that although i was going to tell her not to share, i could not keep it from happening. they were all mortified and a few responded angrily...i just told them to trust that their kids could handle it. It was a great experiend for her and i.
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Permalink Reply by Duong on -
Yes, you are absolutely right! I tried to edit my discussion to say exactly that----That Sex is a gift from GOD to married couples and a beautiful thing---and as each age, we introduced more and more when age was appropriate. Thanks for sharing!!
MichellePotter said:A child that age doesn't need a graphic explanation, just a simple answer. My answer would be, "Sex is something beautiful that God created for married grown-ups to show their love for each other and to make babies."
With my first couple of children I was afraid I'd give that answer and they'd ask me for more details, but they just said OK and went back to playing. After that I gave more information as they asked for it -- always making sure to answer the question that was being asked, and not trying to add in more information than they were ready to hear. My 10yo daughter now knows how it actually works, but she doesn't find that nearly as interesting as hearing about DNA, genetics, and how babies are formed in the womb.
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Permalink Reply by Lori on -
As the mother of a 13 year old daughter, I had the opposite problem - she never asked about it. She's relatively quiet, and doesn't like talking about things that make her uncomfortable. But she loves to read. So I would slip in books onto her bookshelf on the subject at appropriate times, and then chat about things with her a little at a time. There are a lot of books for all age levels - you just have to find one's that approach things the way you want to introduce them. She's a lot more open now, and we have some amazing conversations. It really just comes with time, and as long as they know you're open to discussions, things seem to fall into place.
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Permalink Reply by serendipity joy on -
I actually found a series of books. The first being suited for children ages 3-5 and then the next for 5-8, and then it goes up from there. I found them on the Focus on the Family website. It's called "God's Design for Sex" Book 1-The story of me (ages3-5), book 2-Before I was born (5-8), Book 3-What's he Big Deal? Why God cares about sex (8-11), Book 4-Facing the facts:The truth about sex and you (11-14). My son also heard it at school at age 6. He became very distraught over the whole issue so I had to find a way of sharing with him. I wanted to do it in an age appropriate way and this is what I found. I was lead to Focus on the Family by my pastor. It's a great series and I would highly recommend it.
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Permalink Reply by TheScrappyMama on -
I agree with Mel and Jessica. My daughter is 4 and very inquisitive about things. Anything she asks, we answer honestly and openly in terms that she can understand.
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Permalink Reply by Celebrity Chitt Inc on -
Ditto Michelle's post above! It's just that simple and hopefully the children won't require to much more details.
A boy in my son's first grade class told my husband (who was 100 times bigger than he) one day during lunch volunteering that he wanted to have sex with a little girl in his class just like he sees on his video game when he plays with his dad!! We were BLOWN AWAY!!
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Permalink Reply by Duong on
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Thank you...I will have to recommends these to friends who always ask!
serendipity joy said:I actually found a series of books. The first being suited for children ages 3-5 and then the next for 5-8, and then it goes up from there. I found them on the Focus on the Family website. It's called "God's Design for Sex" Book 1-The story of me (ages3-5), book 2-Before I was born (5-8), Book 3-What's he Big Deal? Why God cares about sex (8-11), Book 4-Facing the facts:The truth about sex and you (11-14). My son also heard it at school at age 6. He became very distraught over the whole issue so I had to find a way of sharing with him. I wanted to do it in an age appropriate way and this is what I found. I was lead to Focus on the Family by my pastor. It's a great series and I would highly recommend it.
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Permalink Reply by Duong on
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Oh, boy....the world we live in...
Celebrity Chitt Inc said:Ditto Michelle's post above! It's just that simple and hopefully the children won't require to much more details.
A boy in my son's first grade class told my husband (who was 100 times bigger than he) one day during lunch volunteering that he wanted to have sex with a little girl in his class just like he sees on his video game when he plays with his dad!! We were BLOWN AWAY!!
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Permalink Reply by Sherri McKnight on -
I have found that living on a horse farm has been very beneficial for becoming comfortable with sex and anatomy. We breed some of our horses and foal out right here, both of my boys see this regularly and understand from that perspective what sex can be like. One part that I do talk to them more so about is the love that is involved in humans compared to animals of course :)
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Permalink Reply by Mama Grimtribe on -
Our youngest son was bathing with his little sister and he asked why she doesn't have a weenie. He was 5 at the time. I calmly explained that boys have "outie" weenies and girls have "innie" weenies. The same way you have an innie or an outie bellybutton.
The following year, while in the play center at school, another boy started talking trash. He was baiting my son with "I bet you have a small dick" and such. Steele, in his desire to prove he did not, whipped out his junk in the middle of class. Yeah, kids. This other child had some kind of serious issues as he tried to convince the Principal of the school that Steele was also humping a girl in class. Not true, but certainly indicative of some sort of issue in this kid's household. We took the incident for what it was: an error in judgement. We asked if he knew he messed up, he agreed. We explained that there are some body parts that it's not the best idea to yank out in the middle of class. If the other child had asked about a mole on his back, a particularly large scab or being double jointed, it would have been closer to the realm of ok to show it off. Weenies, not so much.
If he were to ask about sex, I'd probably tell him that it's when you put and innie weenie and an outie weenie together. Kinda like legos fit. And instead of making a tower, -like with your legos - it makes a baby. If you hear anything strange about it at school or something you really don't understand, come home and ask. We'll set you straight. It's only for grownups, though. Like driving a car. And if anybody wants to do it with you - until you are a grownup - it's really really not ok and I need to know immediately. We'll talk again when you start getting hair down there.
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Permalink Reply by Carolyn on -
WOW..I haven't gotten there yet, with my lil guy who is also 6.
How did you handle it?
I have been discussing sopme things with my girls, since the age of 7.
But the hard stuff is yet to come:(
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Permalink Reply by Duong on
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I think that they only need to know little bit at a time per age level. One the replies, offered some great book tips, you can prob get at the Library. My husband talked to our boys and at each age level, we share a little more. At 6 & 7 they don't need to know all the details!
Carolyn said:WOW..I haven't gotten there yet, with my lil guy who is also 6.
How did you handle it?
I have been discussing sopme things with my girls, since the age of 7.
But the hard stuff is yet to come:(
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