How do you handle depression?
Ok, so here is the thing. I am not depressed by the terms that are set out (two weeks or longer), but I do have those days. You know! THOSE DAYS. Where everything seems to suck, no one is around for you to lean on, and you just CRY. So, I had that this last Friday night. It started with the guy I am dating, his ex-wife get e-coli - none of the treatments are working and they tell her she may die - her kidneys fail - everything. I feel so bad for him and in my mind I say... there is NO WAY his kids are ever gonna like me now... I will be THAT GIRL that dad dated while mom died! Then I try to make plans with some of my friends to keep my mind off of stuff... and low and behold, most of them are busy, and some of them don't even bother to respond! Of course there is the normal day to day stuff with being a single mom and a full time working mom... So... do you guys experience that? If so, what do you do to lift your spirits? I am debating therapy, but is it worth it?
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Permalink Reply by Cara on -
My Step Number One.... I JUMP ON HERE!!!!
I have never found a better and more wonderful group of women than those I have befriended online here and a few other sites! They always have some way to lift my spirits and remind me of the great friendships I hold in them and others.
I also make myself (yes, sometimes I have to FORCE myself) on a beauty night. I take a hot bubble bath, shave, paint my nails, take extra care of my face, etc. The little extra pampering always goes a long way to lift my spirits.
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Permalink Reply by Sunshyne76 on -
I am hoping this site will bring me some luck and some friends - near or far that can relate! We shall see...
Cara said:My Step Number One.... I JUMP ON HERE!!!!
I have never found a better and more wonderful group of women than those I have befriended online here and a few other sites! They always have some way to lift my spirits and remind me of the great friendships I hold in them and others.
I also make myself (yes, sometimes I have to FORCE myself) on a beauty night. I take a hot bubble bath, shave, paint my nails, take extra care of my face, etc. The little extra pampering always goes a long way to lift my spirits.
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Permalink Reply by Sunshyne76 on
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Ilike to write peotry, in fact I have been published three times now! But I generally write when I am happy - the muse never finds me while I am sobbing! But I like the idea of an accomplishments list!
antoniasmom8 said:Hi, I am a single mom as well and I do have those bluesy days 4 no reason...where I start cryin washin dishes or something...I realized that I am overwhelmed and I try 2 do 2 many things in one day just 2 keep my mind off of my own personal struggles that at any point within the day I can break down but not often and none of my friends are around when I need them... I sit at my computer and start writing whether it be poetry or wateva and then I write a list of wat I want 2 accomplish 4 that month 4 myself...last but not least I play some gospel or upliftin music and meditate...good luck
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Permalink Reply by Carolyn on -
Depression is something I have struggled with for a very long time. Due to life strssors or just being sad. I for so long fought it by just ignoring it and saying it's just a bad day.
But it took over so much I finally had to see a doctor, I wasn't happy about that at first. But now nearly a month later, I can finally feel the difference. I am so thankful I made myself go. I believe that having friends would help me a lot too, but you just never know if they will be healthy for you to hang with, So I have become a loner...till my babies get home that is. Hope you feel better!
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Permalink Reply by Sunshyne76 on
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that doesnt sound good that you are a loner - depression+loner=more depression??
Carolyn said:Depression is something I have struggled with for a very long time. Due to life strssors or just being sad. I for so long fought it by just ignoring it and saying it's just a bad day.
But it took over so much I finally had to see a doctor, I wasn't happy about that at first. But now nearly a month later, I can finally feel the difference. I am so thankful I made myself go. I believe that having friends would help me a lot too, but you just never know if they will be healthy for you to hang with, So I have become a loner...till my babies get home that is. Hope you feel better!
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Permalink Reply by Tammy Dantzler on -
When life throws me a curve ball. I just think positive thoughts and not think about the current thing that has made me feel sad. Life happens ... if it didn't then we would all be dead or in heaven. Truly walking on this earth means "tests" how we handle them reflects our moods and emotions. Pray and think positive thoughts, because in reality it could be a lot worse. Count your blessings and soon the bad stuff will be out numbered. You are the captain of your life. Choose your destiny and when a road block happens map out a new direction "take a detour" to create your own happiness.
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Permalink Reply by Genell Hodges on -
I know first hand when things get you down, it truly is up to you to make the first step to things around. Whether, you lean on a dear friend face to face, or online buddies. I personally like to listen to some upbeat music that has a positive message to keep my spirits up. Affirmations are a great tool! Also, keep a good check on, enough rest, eating right, taking your vitamins/other supplements. Life is all about the ups and downs of the good and the bad and doing what you can to keep your mental state in the best of terms is alway's a constant battle, but when things are "Great" relish those moments and reflect back on those "Great" moments. Oh, I also like to use positive visualization and can't rule out prayer, a MUST for when you want things to your way. Trust me, I just lost my purse for two day's and what got me through some MAJOR yuck moments was visualizing someone turning it in, and guess what? They did! You can alway's "Lean On Me" for any positve advice. Check out my playlist on my myspace page too: http://www.myspace.com/nelliesplayhouse My most favorite of ALL songs is "Dream BIG" by Ryan Shupe and the Rubberband. Seriously, Listen to it the words are awesome and the beat is awesome!
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Permalink Reply by Synolve Craft on -
I write poetry and take lots of vitamins! A good multi-vitamin (low vitamin A) plus Selenium, B12, B6, and B5 (Pantothenic Acid) and Vitamin E are all very good for depression! Try it, but consult your doctor 1st. I get my vitamins from Wal-Mart, Target or Kroger. You can also get them from the Health Food store or Vitamin Shop...
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Permalink Reply by Ruthie Appleby on -
What kind of person would I be if I didn't share this?...I have been through depression 3 x's in my life.... The first time...the first time I was around 13 (hormones?) I couldn't stop washing my hands, etc... , the 2nd time was when I was pregnant with my son and had a lot of stress around me... marriage problems, working long hours, and the third time was when I was working long hours, family moved, death of father, about 10 major things happened...Anxiety in the heart of man brings it down the bible says....
first time I suffered through and tried to read bible etc...was ok in year
2nd time went out meds...made me feel worse so suffered through...
the third time I waiting and waited, and finally I found out a medication my dad took after he
had a stroke that made him feel better he got depressed...I thought since it was a family med
I would feel okay...I was really scared...after having a bad experience before. I felt better immediately
and had a Xanex as a back up....Felt 100% normal in couple weeks and couldn't even tell I was on
anything.
Bottomline...we think we can take on more than we can handle... Some people smoke, some people drink and some people wash thier hands, or other compulsive behavior usual related with some type of fear-- because they don't know how to handle the stress...It doesn't mean your crazy etc...it's just that after working in church work etc... people like to hush this stuff up because they feel embarrassed, it happens to most women and it doesn't mean your crazy it just means you had too much stress and some people are just wired that way I talked to a old preacher friend and got counsel before going on meds and my preacher friend said he used to discourage medication until his daughter got raped and he couldn't handle it and had to go on something and he felt like he had to apologize to everyone he told not to...medication may not be everyone but if you have a really good doctor they should be able to put you on something that should make you NORMAL not all doped up...but it will take about a month of feeling tired until it kicks in. I told my doctor I am afraid it will make me feel worse she said what if makes you feel better? I prayed and prayed and felt like the Lord told me it was a sin not to take care of my body and that included my mind. Looking back now I think...
Jesus is the great physician and has many under him...
Oh your mind is another thing...READ YOUR BIBLE EVERY SINGLE DAY! -Change the channel in your mind...don't keep talking and repeating negative stuff and don't hang around people that pick on you etc... get a prayer buddy to PRAY WITH EVERY DAY. I believe it's more than just med get your spiritual life strong - We were made to be overcomers... Keep busy reading, and being active etc...Do fun stuff...
Depression makes you stronger and you can turn around and help others...Forget the shame that comes with it...Jesus came to heal the broken hearted and to set the captives free...Would you be ashamed to have a broken arm ? If your chemistry gets off because of too much stress - stop being mean to yourself...You are very valuable...just love yourself for who you are. I had a major car accident, family moved, father died, marriage problems, lost a ton in stock market, went bankrupt, started a new job, had rabies shots, all win 2 years! ...and I thought I could just be normal...As TD Jakes says life happens...but I am still here and I can turn around and rise up and say....God saw me through :) Get the stress out of your life...Too much stress (anxiety) brings you down...don't sweat it... take care of what you can...the rest ask God to help...Secret- Most women go through depression...they just aren't the type to share it because some people feel it 's a negative...those of us who have been through it...and have been on the other side...say oh well...that's part of life. I hope this helps and is a encouragement. I am a better person for going through it...and it taught me a lot about just enjoying life and other people and to not take myself so seriously. I am a child at heart I dance, sing, play...who cares? People love me... and the people that think I am bad for going through depression are either ignorant - never went through it so they can get jugemental, or just mean....Most seasoned women are like hey I went through that...or my good friend did...like all things it will pass :) I pray this is encouragement to some..and just pray about what you should do...get on your face and say God what should I do...God will tell you..for me it was medicine for a season...someone else may need a good friend to just vent it all out or both. :) Just felt my story was "typical" for many ...but not something everyone would feel comfortable with I'm way passed that what's big deal...it's just life. :)
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Permalink Reply by Becky Sue on -
I clean.. organize... focus on something that NEEDS me. Many times I focus on my kids, but lately they cause some of it! haha I dont have family near by.. and I too struggle with who to turn to. I dont make friends easy.. and I do not understand why. Then when I do.. it's always scary to open up and let someone in on personal stuff
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Permalink Reply by Deana Pierce on -
been there done that, God brought to me a natural fruit ,mangosteen that saved my life. I just wanted to runaway and didnt care what happened. Dr. wanted to put me on prosac and I new there was terrible side effects, 4 years and counting www.deaner.gomangosteen.com
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