House Rules ?
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Do you have house rules... for those who only VISIT your house??
I have just about had it with a clump of hubby's friends who just DON'T think! Over the past couple years I have added a couple things here and there to the "house rules" for those who visit, and this is why...
We are currenly surviving on one car, so during the day while hubby is at work, Little Bit and I are stuck at home. Well, before Little Bit came along, hubby had some friends from out of town up and they stayed at our place. Not a problem, as long as they're fine with dealing with a pregnant girl. So they end up leaving and seven month pregnant me goes to get my breakfast. IT WAS GONE! They had eaten LITERALLY everything in our pantry and left SEVEN MONTH PREGNANT ME with no food and no transportation to GET any food!! Ooooooh I was so irate!! A lot of hubby's former friends also smoke, um, yeah, and tried to bring it into the house when our son was barely a couple months old.
So at that point I made the rules that everyone MUST ask before eating anything, and there is to be no smoking in, around or near our home.
Well, last night, after hubby had already been gone 5 hours with his friends, they ALL come back here. After our family night earlier in the week, we were left with two 2 liter bottles of Pepsi, which I can not drink, and had ONE Coke Zero left, which is the only thing I can drink, and have got to have in the mornings to wake up sometimes (yeah, we're working on cutting the sodas, but they are very rare these days). Well, they do NOT touch the Pepsi and drink my very last soda!!!!! I was already mad enough that hubby had been gone for so long, and then dragged these guys back with him and they were here at ONE A.M.!! I wanted to sleep, and then they drink my means of staying awake!!
OK, anyway, sorry for the rambling I guess I just needed a venting. But does anyone else have a set of house rules like that for similar (or other) reasons? I do believe after last night that I am going to be making up a list to hang where ALL can see it, because otherwise I will either end up pulling my hair out or someone will end up confronted by mad me, and I always try to avoid that side unless necessary ya know? LOL
So far my rules are:
No smoking in or around our home.
You're welcome to anything we have to offer, but please ASK FIRST.
If you would like the last item of something, YOU must replace it before leaving; or leave it be.
Any evening hours that children are sleeping, voices must be kept down. (Reason for this being that where they sit at the dining table is LITERALLY right next to our son's room, and they get LOUD!)
OK... I got to rambling again. I'll stop now, promise lol!
I have just about had it with a clump of hubby's friends who just DON'T think! Over the past couple years I have added a couple things here and there to the "house rules" for those who visit, and this is why...
We are currenly surviving on one car, so during the day while hubby is at work, Little Bit and I are stuck at home. Well, before Little Bit came along, hubby had some friends from out of town up and they stayed at our place. Not a problem, as long as they're fine with dealing with a pregnant girl. So they end up leaving and seven month pregnant me goes to get my breakfast. IT WAS GONE! They had eaten LITERALLY everything in our pantry and left SEVEN MONTH PREGNANT ME with no food and no transportation to GET any food!! Ooooooh I was so irate!! A lot of hubby's former friends also smoke, um, yeah, and tried to bring it into the house when our son was barely a couple months old.
So at that point I made the rules that everyone MUST ask before eating anything, and there is to be no smoking in, around or near our home.
Well, last night, after hubby had already been gone 5 hours with his friends, they ALL come back here. After our family night earlier in the week, we were left with two 2 liter bottles of Pepsi, which I can not drink, and had ONE Coke Zero left, which is the only thing I can drink, and have got to have in the mornings to wake up sometimes (yeah, we're working on cutting the sodas, but they are very rare these days). Well, they do NOT touch the Pepsi and drink my very last soda!!!!! I was already mad enough that hubby had been gone for so long, and then dragged these guys back with him and they were here at ONE A.M.!! I wanted to sleep, and then they drink my means of staying awake!!
OK, anyway, sorry for the rambling I guess I just needed a venting. But does anyone else have a set of house rules like that for similar (or other) reasons? I do believe after last night that I am going to be making up a list to hang where ALL can see it, because otherwise I will either end up pulling my hair out or someone will end up confronted by mad me, and I always try to avoid that side unless necessary ya know? LOL
So far my rules are:
No smoking in or around our home.
You're welcome to anything we have to offer, but please ASK FIRST.
If you would like the last item of something, YOU must replace it before leaving; or leave it be.
Any evening hours that children are sleeping, voices must be kept down. (Reason for this being that where they sit at the dining table is LITERALLY right next to our son's room, and they get LOUD!)
OK... I got to rambling again. I'll stop now, promise lol!
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Permalink Reply by Kipling on -
Wow Cara! Sounds like you definitely needed to put those rules into place! I have two boys four & six and I do have a rule that they & their friends take their shoes off in our mud room when they come over. I am very lucky I have a very neat husband, so I don't have to worry about him making a mess :) And I do know that I am lucky in that regard! LOL!
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Permalink Reply by Cara on -
Yeah I'm sure I'm going to have another full set of house rules when our son gets older, too. Hubby knows what he will get in trouble with around the house, so I usually never have to worry about it with him, but his friends oh my goodness!! Hubby told me that I will scare off his friends if I make a whole set of rules, but when we are on a VERY strict budget and can barely afford enough for ourselves - I am just tired of them coming over and eating me out of house and home!
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Permalink Reply by DianeStJames on -
I feel for you and your need for rules there!
My only rule is no smoking in the house, but I really don't
need any of the other rules as my hub doesn't have friends that
hang out here at home.
Sounds you me like your hub sometimes thinks he is still in the
ol' days of being a bachelor hanging with the guys. One would think it was
enough for him to be out for 5 hours..but to invite them IN after that?...Yah..
that wouldn't go over well with me. Hello!! You have a wife and a little one
now. Show some respect.
I had to say I love my hub and really have little to complain about.
{{{Hugs to you}}}
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Permalink Reply by ComfyMom~Stacey on -
Our rules
Ask before getting food or drink
No smoking
Shoes off
Keep the volume moderate at all times (this means if half the people are watching TV and half are talking, either the TV gets turned off, the talkers shut up or the talkers leave the room. I have had way too many incidents where the TV volume goes up so the talkers get louder so the TV volume goes up so the talkers get louder, until I am practically deaf)
No closed doors except the bathroom
One person only in the bathroom
(those last 2 are directed at the boys & their friends)
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Permalink Reply by Cara on
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Those are very good rules!
And yeah, he sometimes has his relapses of wanting to live the "I don't care" life still. The sad thing about those guys, is that over half of them are in their THIRTIES with grown kids, and yet they are never home or actively involved with their families. I am SO thankful hubby is active in our lives (now), but it took a lot of adjustment for him. He's growing, slowly. And he learns, I am very thankful for that.
ComfyMom~Stacey said:Our rules
Ask before getting food or drink
No smoking
Shoes off
Keep the volume moderate at all times (this means if half the people are watching TV and half are talking, either the TV gets turned off, the talkers shut up or the talkers leave the room. I have had way too many incidents where the TV volume goes up so the talkers get louder so the TV volume goes up so the talkers get louder, until I am practically deaf)
No closed doors except the bathroom
One person only in the bathroom
(those last 2 are directed at the boys & their friends)
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Permalink Reply by Kathryn Abrahams - Lazy Daisy Glass on -
Stick to your rules Cara - I certainly dont blame you. Afraid to say this, but sounds like hubby and his friends are very unthoughtful, especially when you are probably stressed with a young child. I'm lucky in that we dont have many visitors - we live in a very rural hamlet. We have just a couple of simple rules - no smoking in the house (we have a 16 month old daughter) and no dirty/muddy shoes on carpets. Oh... hubby has to make me a cup of tea every morning! And he does lol.
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Permalink Reply by Cara on
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LOL AWW! I wish hubby would make me a cup of tea every morning! That is so sweet of him!!!
Hubby is learning. He has changed SOOO much in the last three years that we've known each other! He is a completely different person and I love him every day for the changes he has made for our family! We typically never have company either, but there's a few here and there that just get busy! (See my "Family Night" blog to read what happened Thursday!!! And then all that action last night, and we wll be going to my parents' tonight, too!!! It seems the busy always comes in spurts! HA!
Kathryn Abrahams - Lazy Daisy Glass said:Stick to your rules Cara - I certainly dont blame you. Afraid to say this, but sounds like hubby and his friends are very unthoughtful, especially when you are probably stressed with a young child. I'm lucky in that we dont have many visitors - we live in a very rural hamlet. We have just a couple of simple rules - no smoking in the house (we have a 16 month old daughter) and no dirty/muddy shoes on carpets. Oh... hubby has to make me a cup of tea every morning! And he does lol.
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Permalink Reply by Dani C. on -
Our house rules:
No Smoking or Drinking
No pets
No foul language
Do not help yourself to our food, ak first
Do not hurt anyone
These rules are for everyone.
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Permalink Reply by Working-mom-of-2 on -
I sooooo agree with you.
This is just the case when guys are used to girls filling up the fridge again.
Why don't you just buy YOUR stuff, put it somewhere where only you have access and then hubby and his friends can party on what is left.... nothing.
I'm telling you, the party will be over soon !!
Smoking near kids is defenitely OUT OF THE QUESTION !
In our house, nobody is allowed to smoke. If they can't resist, they have to go out in the garden.
But what bothers me most is your husband. He must notice this ??? He must be able to "control" his gang and take care of his wife musn't he ??
I feel for you LOL
Hold on and let me know on the progress. Very interesting issue !
Manuëlle
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Permalink Reply by Linda Sellers on -
YOU GO GIRL!
I'd post them on the front and back door so they see them when they walk in...seriously, I agree with you completely! We had visitors who smoked who thought that meant stand outside the screen door and talk to those of us who were inside...might as well smoke in my face!
Fortunately the kids that come over (teens) all seem to have wonderful manners, maybe better than my own. thank goodness!
One pet peeve is ordering a movie on on demand w/out permission. I don't want to lock them out b/c I want them to be able to order when I'm not there, and they should be old enough to follow the rules. I'm sure I could come up with more!!
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Permalink Reply by Abernook on -
Friends and family are very kind and considerate when at the house so we haven't needed to post any rules. Everyone knows there is no smoking in the house, kids/friends always take their shoes off, etc.
Having some teenage kids, I am always grateful that their friends come over because I know where they are and what theya re doing. So for friends (and family) that are over often, they know they are welcome to help themselves to food/drinks.
I guess my big pet peeve with my kids is if you take the last of something, THROW AWAY THE BOX.
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