Would you send your kindergartener home to a friends house you barely know?

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Permalink Reply by Cara on October 28, 2008 at 9:38am

I tend to agree with you with the "family" play dates and doing things together with the parents while the kids are off playing to get to know the entire family together as a whole.

I personally would let the parents who want to do the play dates know that I would have no problem sending my kids to their houses for play dates, as long as they are willing to do a few "family" dates first in order to get to know the family before allowing your child to be there alone. They SHOULD be understanding to that fact. But there are going to be a few who take that offensively thinking that you just don't trust them and will either just come off rude or stop inviting. Those are typically few and far between, but I have seen my share of them around.

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Permalink Reply by Whirl_wind on October 28, 2008 at 10:15am

Nope. In kindergarten, the only friend's house my oldest was allowed to go over was a friend we knew for years. For playdates, we invited the family over after school. Even in first grade (despite her having ALL the same kids in her class) I still didn't allow alot of playdates.

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Permalink Reply by theparentpack on October 28, 2008 at 10:28am

I would not at all. I am not a trusting person with regards to my kids. No regrets.

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Permalink Reply by TheScrappyMama on October 28, 2008 at 8:28pm

I am almost in the same boat. We'll be starting Kindergarten next year and I'm already dreading this subject! I am very protective of my child in this area. I will only be allowing family play dates for the first few years of school. There is just too much that can happen, even if it's someone you think you "know."

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Permalink Reply by Working-mom-of-2 on October 29, 2008 at 1:13am

Hi there,

Whenever other kiddies invite my kids to go play home with them I always join them the first time.
I want to see how they live, what kind of environment and the get an overall idea of their way of living.

I defenitely would never leave my child/children with people I only know by seeing in Kindergarten.

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Permalink Reply by Working-mom-of-2 on October 29, 2008 at 1:15am

the worst thing in this case is, if your kids like other kids and you can't stand the other mom LOL
It happened to me and I feel very sorry for the kids but I cannot spend an afternoon with a person soooo not on my wavelength.

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Permalink Reply by Michelle - Pitter Patter Creations on October 29, 2008 at 5:49am

My daughter started kindergarten this year. We only allow play dates with children of families we know fairly well. I agree with you that you never know what that family might be like and the type of environment your child would be in.

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Permalink Reply by Lori on October 29, 2008 at 6:17am

I agree, we as a family had a standing rule, you are not allowed to go over to anyone's house until I know their parents. Period. It is scary that parents let their kids go over to others peoples house they barely know. This rule still stands for my teenagers.

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Permalink Reply by Jennifer on October 29, 2008 at 8:13am

I agree with you. I have to have met and talked to any parent and child's siblings before I let any play dates happen. My friends daughter was molested by her friends 14 year old brother and that has made me mega paranoid with my two girls.

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Permalink Reply by Mary on October 29, 2008 at 8:36am

I don't let my children go to anybody's house and they only get to play with their friends when they visit us, which is something I don't allow from M-F due to their homework and after school activities and even on weekend there are things that we do as a family and we are over protective of that time together. I don't trust other people and it gets to my nerves when someone invites my children to their house w/o even caring enough to introduce themselves to me. My daughter is in Girl Scouts so she can be around girls her age but I'm one of the leaders so I can be around the parents that want to be around these girls. My children go to The Little Gym and I've seen some parents dropping off their kids and coming back when the class is over which I don't understand at all, I'm with them all the time and If I'm not with them, is because they are in school.

I always think the worst can happen and though some people citizes me for this I think is the best thing a mother can do for her children. Who will keep them safe if is not us??!! As I tell my 10 y/o son "I will let go of you when you're big and strong enough to defend yourself from a stranger in the meantime they are stuck with me".

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Permalink Reply by Sangeeth Raghunathan on October 29, 2008 at 8:43am

ofcourse it is better if you know the kids parents and family. I will surely not allow my kid for a play date with a person who I dont know! This is not only for a kindergartener.. even the same goes with a teen .. till they become 18..or sometimes even after t hey become 18....it depends..In India we take care of our kids till they are married :) and sometimes even after that! Completely different culture...

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Permalink Reply by Lisa Survillas on October 29, 2008 at 11:17am

My kids are 9 and 8 and I still have to know the families well before the kids get to go there alone. =) My kids have many friends at school that they are not able to go to's house. It works though.

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