The Last Time I Had An Orgasm Was...

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Permalink Reply by Viki Stanley-Hutchison on November 10, 2008 at 6:59am

F ;o)

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Permalink Reply by Angie Dagenhart on November 10, 2008 at 9:33am

F) The last time DH and I made love.

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Permalink Reply by Booperkit on November 10, 2008 at 9:44am

E) I don't remember

I used to have multiples and often - but I'm 6 months pregnant and in the past coupla months I just can't - it's terrible I tell ya - awful! I have a huge sex drive but it's like taking a journey and never quite arriving. Any suggestions welcome - I can manage on my own actually, but not with the old man.

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Permalink Reply by Felicia Pratt Ellis on November 10, 2008 at 4:38pm

I think I'll add a new one (J) The day I conceived. I just gave birth 3 months ago and I have sex twice since then. Sex is just not what it use to be. Moms, please tell me it gets better.

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Permalink Reply by JuneIn2 on November 10, 2008 at 7:53pm

I am in the J grouping blushing

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Permalink Reply by Cathy C on November 10, 2008 at 9:48pm

I can honestly say "F". He is thorough, that's for sure, bless his heart.

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Permalink Reply by sensuouswife on November 11, 2008 at 5:33am

Thank you for sharing your story, Pam. There's something so powerful when a woman speaks vulnerably to share her story. Stories like yours inspire me. I started my blog 2 years ago when there was nothing sex-positive, marriage-positive written by or for sexual abuse survivors. I started telling my story because our therapist encouraged me to. At first I was afraid no one was listening and (wry grin) I was afraid that if anyone was listening, I'd be tarred and feathered for talking about hot healed monogamy the way I was. But after getting so many priceless letters from readers I knew I was on the right track. And when husbands who were living in sobriety from porn addiction started writing me asking for a place to buy Liberator shapes without lots of skin that would trigger them, I could tell in my heart that this was a need I was meant to fill. An online store that is classy, friendly, and makes Liberator shapes and a variety of other upscale delightful objects available to couples with sexual abuse or sexual addiction issues as well as couples who don't want to see anyone's skin but each others while they shop for Liberator products. I especially appreciate you and Momof2 (did I spell that right?) sharing your experience about toys and whether you need them or you don't. Some couples prefer a "totally organic experience" and some couples like to add toys for spice and variety. Some couples find toys are a very important part of them having the bonding experience of both partners having orgasm in a lovemaking session. Either option is okay. And couples' experience might change over time. I know for me using toys and Liberator shapes is not always about "hanging from the chandelier" moments. For us, toys and Liberator shapes often give us the boost to have great sex on a night when fatigue might make "100% organic" not work for us. And for many couples like us who have back problems, the Liberator shapes mean comfortable pleasurable sex with no soreness in the morning. and hey, there's always a woman's right to accessorize! (grin)
Thank you both for sharing. You all add so much to the discussion! -Sensuous Wife

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Permalink Reply by sensuouswife on November 11, 2008 at 5:50am

Dear Felicia and Junein,
It does get better. It can get much, much better. I wish I could make each of you a cup of tea and hear your stories. I'm drinking Ginger Peach with Splenda right now, so know I have a virtual cup for you. Each of you will have to journey to find what works for you. I'd love for each one of you to visit my blog and read my story. My hope is that you will see that it's many different solutions and answers that have made up my healthy sex life. Each new discovery is like another piece of the puzzle.

And a special cuppa tea for you booperkit. Oh pregnancy changes our bodies fifty ways for Sunday, doesn't it? You know what? I want to offer encouragement to you in a way that may seem a bit creative or out of the box thinking. Is that okay? I wonder if it might be a good idea for you and your husband to do some old fashioned petting and kissing and then bring yourselves to orgasm while kissing or talking to each other. As unconventional as that might sound, this experience can be very erotic. can still strengthen your bond and help the two of you feel connected and satisfied. How do I know? I just know. (sly smile)

Oh speaking of talking to each other during sex, I just posted a new article on that recently, called Simple Erotic Nurturing. You may want to check it out.

Love y'all! Thanks for talking about something so special with me. Thanks for letting me share too.

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Permalink Reply by Pam on November 11, 2008 at 6:39am

Beautifully said, Sensuous Wife. I have done parties where women prefer to have no toys at all show, some where I show everything but some women prefer not to touch them and some where that's all they want to see. It's ALL okay! It's also okay to be happy with your sex life as it is - if both partners are happy, whether you're doing it every day or once-a-month - it doesn't matter. If all you have time for is a sexy quickie where there's not a lot of time to work on your orgasm, that's fun too (and very hot for some of us!) It's about finding what suits you and your partner if you have one and being okay with your choices! Just because I sell PR and feel like I finally know myself doesn't mean I don't have dry spells :) I work two jobs, have three kids and go to college part-time. There are definitely times I could care less! It takes work (and understanding) to keep both my husband and I happy.

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Permalink Reply by JuneIn2 on November 11, 2008 at 9:19am

This just in from RealAge

The Nearly Dirty Dozen: 10 Frisky Foods

Fill Your Cart with Sexy Food
As if there weren’t enough reasons to shop for good food, here’s one more: A boost in desire. This sexy shopping list will help spice up your kitchen and your bedroom. Although there's no proof that any one food will consistently work romantic magic, the anecdotal reports recur enough to probably have some validity.

1. Apples (sweet breath)
2. Asparagus (rich in vitamin E, which helps build hormones)
3. Cabbage (increases blood flow)
4. Celery (contains androsterone, a hormone released by male sweat; turns women on)
5. Chocolate (long considered a love drug because the ingredients -- phenylethylamine, tryptophan, and anandamide -- have a feel-good effect)
6. Figs (high in amino acids to increase libido)
7. Garlic (contains allicin, an ingredient that increases blood flow to the sexual organs)
8. Nutmeg (significantly increases sexual activity in rats)
9. Oysters (high in zinc, which helps produce testosterone)
10. Wild yams (may increase genital sensitivity)


Plus, try these seven simple ways to maximize your sexual health.

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Permalink Reply by Stephanie @ MomTV.com on November 12, 2008 at 7:26am

Ha ha - how about the FIRST time I had one??
Now that was something... like giving chocolate to someone for the first time - no stopping the addiction!

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Permalink Reply by Joyce on November 12, 2008 at 4:13pm

F---Last night?

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