Are Homemaker's Capable Of Working?
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Are Homemaker's Capable Of Working?
You are venturing out into the work force, researching the available jobs, hitting the pavement, and filling out those applications. The interviews follow with the same tedious questions that make you wonder, 'just how difficult do they think their job is? Have they EVER raised children?' Yes, the interview will contain the same mundane questions that have you laughing inwardly. Are you able to multi-task? How are you under pressure? Are you Bilingual? Do you handle confrontations well? How would you rate your negotiation skills? How would you handle angry clients?
Are you able to multi-task, why yes, I am able to multi-task....On a given hour, I can have a load of laundry started, children feed, washed, diaper change, dressed, read to until asleep then proceeding to feed a third child while answering emails.
How are you under pressure? Maybe they should start wording this as stress instead of pressure. The inevitable situations when you have JUST gotten the children washed, dressed and turn for one second and they are half naked, playing in ketchup and you have only two minutes to spare before they need to get on the school bus. Panic, HA I laugh at the word....Oh no, there is no such word...I prefer to think this question should actually be, 'How are you at adjusting to change?' Quickly a plan evolves in your head and is executed within seconds. New clothes in hand children under the arms, marathon run to the car, strapped in, back out of driveway BEFORE the school bus can even flash it's caution lights, drive to the school, redress the children, straighten out hair, and calmly walk into the school just as the bus approaches.....Ah, now that is what I call adjustment and determination!!!
Are you Bilingual? Well, let's put it this way, anyone who can have a conversation with an infant and two toddlers throughout a day and be able to hold an adult conversation should be considered Bilingual. That's is switching from one language, baby google, half spoken English language of the 3 year old and the 2 year old one word conversations. Then moving on to the world news, politics, and how your day went. Occasionally, those bilingual languages pop in and out of a conversation, so you must be able to hold three to four conversations at one time. Shouldn't this be considered a skill???
Do you handle confrontations well? Let's see...I have been able to successfully distract the angry screams of a toddler that just has to have that chocolate bunny so conveniently placed at his level right before lunch. How you may ask? Yelling back? Ignoring this behavior? Laughing the problem away? Oh yeah you can see just as well as I can how well these options would pan out. Just for kicks, let’s see what it would look like shall we? Yelling back, now that's classic. How would you look yelling at a three year old that just does not understand WHY he can't have what he wants? Are you going to yell at that employee to move out of your spot? Would you keep yelling and yelling till one just gives up. Of course not, how silly. Ignoring this behavior, yeah, that will really make it go away. It could even escalate to a tantrum on the floor. It will always come back and continue to bring you that anxiety JUST knowing it will happen again and it's only a matter of time. Laughing the problem away, hmm not too good as well. I'm sure the patrons at the store and the staff would think 'Boy this lady is crazy and the child is a brat!!' Laughing it off only instigates the situation and let's them know you are not to be taken seriously and you don't take them seriously. Once again this will to re-occur until you can actually take care of the problem appropriately. The best thing to do, take the child aside, maybe to the car, wait for the situation and each other have settled down, then explain to the child how they can not act that way. NEVER would you want to hurt your child or encourage this behavior, You begin to handle these situations coming in knowing what will happen, how you can avoid the problem and if you can't make that negotiation that will appease both sides.
How would you handle angry clients? I would handle them the same way as I would negotiate with them. Take a second to step back, assess the situation and keep an open mind upon hearing each side. Every situation can be handled in a calm, respectable manner. No one needs to walk away from a situation feeling as if nothing was accomplished or the problem was never fixed. Treat everyone with respect and you will be respected. This is a skill learned by parents and used all to well.Ah, interview over, hand shake given, with the promise of a call back. You realize it went well and are positive you will get the job. There is no way you are not qualified for this job. In fact, you may be OVER qualified for the job. If only he could see that this job is nothing compared to being a Homemaker.
Lion Tamer, you try telling me I can't do it!!!!
Kristie Pomposelli
Virtual Assistant
Hard Working Mom
HardWorkingMomE@gmail.com
http://www.HardWorkingMom.org
You are venturing out into the work force, researching the available jobs, hitting the pavement, and filling out those applications. The interviews follow with the same tedious questions that make you wonder, 'just how difficult do they think their job is? Have they EVER raised children?' Yes, the interview will contain the same mundane questions that have you laughing inwardly. Are you able to multi-task? How are you under pressure? Are you Bilingual? Do you handle confrontations well? How would you rate your negotiation skills? How would you handle angry clients?
Are you able to multi-task, why yes, I am able to multi-task....On a given hour, I can have a load of laundry started, children feed, washed, diaper change, dressed, read to until asleep then proceeding to feed a third child while answering emails.
How are you under pressure? Maybe they should start wording this as stress instead of pressure. The inevitable situations when you have JUST gotten the children washed, dressed and turn for one second and they are half naked, playing in ketchup and you have only two minutes to spare before they need to get on the school bus. Panic, HA I laugh at the word....Oh no, there is no such word...I prefer to think this question should actually be, 'How are you at adjusting to change?' Quickly a plan evolves in your head and is executed within seconds. New clothes in hand children under the arms, marathon run to the car, strapped in, back out of driveway BEFORE the school bus can even flash it's caution lights, drive to the school, redress the children, straighten out hair, and calmly walk into the school just as the bus approaches.....Ah, now that is what I call adjustment and determination!!!
Are you Bilingual? Well, let's put it this way, anyone who can have a conversation with an infant and two toddlers throughout a day and be able to hold an adult conversation should be considered Bilingual. That's is switching from one language, baby google, half spoken English language of the 3 year old and the 2 year old one word conversations. Then moving on to the world news, politics, and how your day went. Occasionally, those bilingual languages pop in and out of a conversation, so you must be able to hold three to four conversations at one time. Shouldn't this be considered a skill???
Do you handle confrontations well? Let's see...I have been able to successfully distract the angry screams of a toddler that just has to have that chocolate bunny so conveniently placed at his level right before lunch. How you may ask? Yelling back? Ignoring this behavior? Laughing the problem away? Oh yeah you can see just as well as I can how well these options would pan out. Just for kicks, let’s see what it would look like shall we? Yelling back, now that's classic. How would you look yelling at a three year old that just does not understand WHY he can't have what he wants? Are you going to yell at that employee to move out of your spot? Would you keep yelling and yelling till one just gives up. Of course not, how silly. Ignoring this behavior, yeah, that will really make it go away. It could even escalate to a tantrum on the floor. It will always come back and continue to bring you that anxiety JUST knowing it will happen again and it's only a matter of time. Laughing the problem away, hmm not too good as well. I'm sure the patrons at the store and the staff would think 'Boy this lady is crazy and the child is a brat!!' Laughing it off only instigates the situation and let's them know you are not to be taken seriously and you don't take them seriously. Once again this will to re-occur until you can actually take care of the problem appropriately. The best thing to do, take the child aside, maybe to the car, wait for the situation and each other have settled down, then explain to the child how they can not act that way. NEVER would you want to hurt your child or encourage this behavior, You begin to handle these situations coming in knowing what will happen, how you can avoid the problem and if you can't make that negotiation that will appease both sides.
How would you handle angry clients? I would handle them the same way as I would negotiate with them. Take a second to step back, assess the situation and keep an open mind upon hearing each side. Every situation can be handled in a calm, respectable manner. No one needs to walk away from a situation feeling as if nothing was accomplished or the problem was never fixed. Treat everyone with respect and you will be respected. This is a skill learned by parents and used all to well.Ah, interview over, hand shake given, with the promise of a call back. You realize it went well and are positive you will get the job. There is no way you are not qualified for this job. In fact, you may be OVER qualified for the job. If only he could see that this job is nothing compared to being a Homemaker.
Lion Tamer, you try telling me I can't do it!!!!
Kristie Pomposelli
Virtual Assistant
Hard Working Mom
HardWorkingMomE@gmail.com
http://www.HardWorkingMom.org
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Permalink Reply by Mandie on -
Great article!
I went from being a GM of a fine dining restaurant to being a SAHM that was the hardest transition EVER!
If you can manage a household and muti-task can go back to work.
My biggest problem when I started staying home was I couldn't fire my kids when they back talked me ;P
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Permalink Reply by Kristie Pomposelli on
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I agree Mandie. It's times like that, I really miss my dog. Was always happy, never complained, listened to everything I said and above all NEVER talked back...My biggest problem is Diaper time!! Seems never ending. I'd rather write a proposition, give a public speech, wrestle an alligator...just Please No More Diapers!!!
Thanks for your feedback Mandie. I look forward to learning from you.
Kristie
Mandie said:Great article!
I went from being a GM of a fine dining restaurant to being a SAHM that was the hardest transition EVER!
If you can manage a household and muti-task can go back to work.
My biggest problem when I started staying home was I couldn't fire my kids when they back talked me ;P
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Permalink Reply by April Dowdy on -
Great post Kristie! I agree 100% with your comments. I am trying to step back into the workforce after being home basically 18 years. It is extremely difficult for me to participate in the interviews. The experiences we have as home makers have well prepared us for interactions with other people, ie. customers, clients, co-workers, etc. Even though I did assist with a business with my spouse for 12 of those years, because my work was performed at home, employers don't see it the same as being "employed". I know there are others in my situation and it's very frustrating! Thanks for your post, it made my day!
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