Bratty neighbor kids
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Permalink Reply by Jen Vasiliades on -
I lived on a corner where there were 20 children - yes, 20 and needless to say it was the hang-out for all other neighborhood kids. We quickly became known as "kid's corner"! My sister called my house Grand Central Station and said I needed a revolving door. I'm pretty laid back and very little bothers me but I had to make a few rules and those who broke those rules were sent home. Occasionally someone really got out of control then I sent them home with the option of telling their mom what happened and then asking her to call me OR I would call her. If I didn't hear from her within an hour I called. The kids usually preferred giving her their side of the story first. I can say in hind-sight that each of those kids even the bratty ones made for good memories for my family! haha
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Permalink Reply by Momof4girls on -
Your house rules should be told to both the parent and child so the parent can reinforce them before their child comes over. For example, in our house there is no jumping on the furniture in the living room, there is plenty of other rooms for that, which I don't mind. However, we need to keep in mind the age of the children and remember they are still children, think of how many times we have to remind our own kids of the rules! It's not easy but unless the behavior is completely out of line, the more positive we handle these situations, the more cohesiveness the relationship with the neighbor will be.
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Permalink Reply by Kristen Andrews: Featured Contributor of Style on -
we are just having to deal w/ this as a new kid moved in next door and he is 3 yrs older than my son so to start I have that excuse but I have no problem telling him he can't come over, but realized it is going to be a continued problem over the summer months.
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Permalink Reply by the chic chauffeur on -
We have experienced the gamut of naughty neighborhood kids. It kind of depends on the level of bad behavior for me. If and when I send them home, I just say that it's time for everyone to play on their own for a while. If it has escalated to the point where correcting all the children, and trying to enforce your familes rules don't work, then my thinking is that it is time to call it a day. After the stinkers have left the building, I explain to my own children why they got the boot. (and believe me, I totally recognize that my own little sweeties are sometimes right in there with the naughy ones....)
There are some kids that are just inherently bratty. You may just have to say to your own, 'they don't seem to be able to play nicely.... why don't we invite so and so instead????'.
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Permalink Reply by Sandy Barnes on -
I would take the kid home and explain to the parents why! (nicely of course) Although, I am a little more bold than some. But I would not be tolerating the rules being broke in my home. It doesn't set a good example for your kids to tolerate such things from others and not them in your house! JMO : )
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Permalink Reply by Mindi on -
I have experienced this myself and I can tell you that those kids dont come over much anymore. My best advice would be to be consistant about how you handle things. Talk with your own kids about how important it is to behave at home and away from home and also talk with the neighbor kids and let them know up front that they will have to go home if they dont behave. Don't let those kids get away with misbehaving in your house and don't feel bad about sending them home if it comes to that.
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Permalink Reply by ECHOage on -
I have a friend in the same situation. She treats the neighbors kid exactly as she would her own. If the kid is rude, she tells him that that behaviour is unacceptable in this house. If the kid opens up her fridge and takes food out, she asks him to please ask first (she would hope her kids would do the same at someone else's house). Finally when her kids have someone else over, she has no problem sending bratty kid home.
Slowly but surely, bratty kid has figured out there are rules in her house and he must follow them or he'll be sent home.
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Permalink Reply by Evangelia Biddy on -
This is just a matter of setting the expectation of what appropriate behavior at your house looks like. Before you even let them in, I mean right at the door. Tell them they are welcome, but at my house there is a code of conduct. I like using those exact words especially for boys. The code thing they can connect with. If they can not follow the code they will not be able to stay. My house is always filled with kids even though my son tells me that his friends like I am the meanest mom on the block. Kids need to know that you have order and a way of doing things because you care about them and their safety. When they come to your house they are also role models for other kids. By having rules you make sure all kids under your roof have the same playbook. I publish a parenting magazine called Junior. Check it out www.juniorthemagazine.com. This is a great question for an upcoming issue.
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Permalink Reply by Toni D. Johnson on -
As everyone else has said, don't deal with it, send them home. You set the rules for your home. Consistency is key. What's really a problem is a mom who doesn't believe her children do anything wrong, but that's another discussion.
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Permalink Reply by Emilyb on
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Thanks for all of the advice. Meanwhile I have been doing a combination of some of these things. After explaining the rules and sending him home a few times, the kid has started to behave a bit better at my house. I still find myself telliing him he will be sent home if he can't follow the rules, but at least now that has some effect on his behavior. I think if I give him a little more time he will be able to play nicely with my kids for the most part. I do find that there is a time limit to how long he can maintain this "good" behavior so we try to keep the visits short.
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Permalink Reply by Karen Reynolds on -
OMG! The 2 twins that live next to us are totally out of control. They totally ignore their mother, throw things at her, run away from her when she tries to correct them. They will not look at her when she talks to them. Absolutely no respect for any one. They got ask to leave a Bob Evans because they were so out of control.
When they come to our house, both me and my husband tell them flat out, it will not be tolorated. We send them home and they can't come back unless they behave. We have rules and when you are here you have to follow them. The mother doesn't mind me correcting them. I think she is looking for help. I keep telling her, you need to make good on your threats. They know they are empty, that is why they totally ignore you. She refuses to spank them, but what she's doing isn't working.
Even if you don't believe in spanking, trust me if you saw these kids, you would change your mind. I dare my kid to throw a pop can at me.
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