Dealing with unwanted advice from friend

How do you deal with a friend who is always telling you how wonderful their kid is and how you can 'fix' yours?

Permalink Reply by Heather Tucker on July 20, 2009 at 6:41pm: Omg that really gets on my nerves that is when i just go on about how great my kids are which usually shuts them up; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Dawn on July 20, 2009 at 6:57pm: Sounds like you want to keep your friend and your daughter wants to keep hers . Can you gently but firmly tell her that you don’t need any advice, but when you do, you'll be sure to ask for it from her. She should get the hint and then you can go back to enjoying the things you really like about her - plus you get to keep 2 friendships going!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Renegade Mom on July 22, 2009 at 3:07pm: I laugh when her kid flips out in the store and makes her look stupid! yes I do. I laugh in her damn face.

Any other time I just say "oh really? She is that good huh? wow I just read this study they did that kids who seem perfect grow up to be serial killers"

I am the queen of making up "studies" that I read to get her all paranoid because she actually believes me.

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Permalink Reply by Michelle Hutchison on July 22, 2009 at 3:54pm: Wow... that advice made my day - I am not feeling very well today and it has cheered me up.

Renegade Mom said:
I laugh when her kid flips out in the store and makes her look stupid! yes I do. I laugh in her damn face.

Any other time I just say "oh really? She is that good huh? wow I just read this study they did that kids who seem perfect grow up to be serial killers"

I am the queen of making up "studies" that I read to get her all paranoid because she actually believes me.

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Permalink Reply by Michelle Hutchison on July 22, 2009 at 3:55pm: Thanks Deb,
I like this advice

Deb Maubach said:
Wow, lots of great advice here! I wouldn't point out a fault in this mom's child, then you are doing the same. Distancing is probably the best idea, but sometimes that isn't realistic. If you're secure enough, I'd point out what she is doing, she may not be aware of it. She may just think she's helping you. Do it in love, and hopefully she'll receive it in that. If not, when you move on, at least she'll know why.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Tracey Morin on July 22, 2009 at 8:11pm: Arn't those so called friends wonderful? I was sitting for a friends 2yr. old and he was horrible for me. When mom showed up he was an angel. I have sat for him most of his life. When my 2yr.old was acting up at home she had the nerve to say ' so glad mine doesn't do that he would NEVER act that way ugg I bit my tounge so many times not to say anything I might regret, but girlfriend my day came and I saw them at the grocery floor and he was actually laying on the floor having a tantrum..OOO did my insides smile..Yep I said the same thing back to her."so glad mine never acted up in public like that" Needless to say I don't sit for her anymore.
Your day will come or simply say " that bothers me when you say that."; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Michelle Hutchison on July 23, 2009 at 4:25pm: Thanks for all of your advice. I have let my friend know how I feel - she had no idea and was pretty upset. We will see how we go over the next couple of weeks - either our friendship will survive this or it won't.
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Permalink Reply by emely chariza mejia on July 24, 2009 at 8:31pm: wow>>>>wellll me i would just tell her to stop telling me what to do .. cuz i gave birth to my kids.. thats would piss me off; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Kid Organizer on July 26, 2009 at 9:33am: Why not come straight out and tell her how her comments make you feel. Put everything out on the table so there is no confusion or assumptions.

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