Helping pay for Senior Prom.

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Me and my husband have been at odds as to how we'll deal with the prom. It's expensive, tux $165, tickets $55, dinner $20, hair cut and misc probably $35. We are getting off cheap cause he's riding with someone else in their limo, their uncle owns the service so it's free. I have been making a big deal about him getting a job since he was fired from the last once last Dec. He's 19 and a senior. I feel he should pay for some of it. I mean he's 19. I feel he should get a job and help pay. I also have to pay $136 for invitation and crap, another $32 for cap and gown. Not to mention graduation party $200. I mean it never ends. He doesn't have a job and I was like FREE LABOR is how you are going to help out. We will be moving to Florida 2 days after graduation and then 3 wks later his father will go back to Iraq for 2 months and then we'll lead a normal life. But I just feel because of his age, he should help.
Tell me what you think....

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Permalink Reply by Anne Marie Goodrich on May 18, 2009 at 2:57am: I thought it would be great if my son went to prom, but he didn't have a job either. So after thinking over the money I was going to pay for his graduation party, etc. I told him that there was no way he could go to prom too. He didn't mind, thankfully. However, if he did mind, he would have had to find a way to earn money and pay for it himself, and that can be a very good thing. You have a lot more appreciation when you pay for something yourself, and the responsibility always adds to your maturity.

So yes, he should help pay. You'd be helping him grow into a fine man with great character!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Mrs. C on May 18, 2009 at 4:32am: Thanks for the advice. That sounds good to me.
DeAnna

Anne Marie Goodrich said:
I thought it would be great if my son went to prom, but he didn't have a job either. So after thinking over the money I was going to pay for his graduation party, etc. I told him that there was no way he could go to prom too. He didn't mind, thankfully. However, if he did mind, he would have had to find a way to earn money and pay for it himself, and that can be a very good thing. You have a lot more appreciation when you pay for something yourself, and the responsibility always adds to your maturity.

So yes, he should help pay. You'd be helping him grow into a fine man with great character!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Michelle Gjerness on May 18, 2009 at 7:50am: I completely agree... we have had 2 kids already go through that, and now another is in the process. We have always figured about how much we thought it should all cost and offer to pay a percent of that. That way, if they choose to do "extras", they're on their own for it. However, we have also done the "free labor" trade. It seems to be a growing issue for teens now days... they expect everything to be handed to them!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Mrs. C on May 18, 2009 at 8:23am: I do agree that they expect everything handed to them. My son wanted to go in a limo and I said I'd only pay so much or I'd take him. If you take me they will think I'm poor. I said you are poor. All this is ours not yours. It was funny. I like the fair labor trade. I'm using it now since we are moving.
thanks for the advice.
DeAnna

Michelle Gjerness said:
I completely agree... we have had 2 kids already go through that, and now another is in the process. We have always figured about how much we thought it should all cost and offer to pay a percent of that. That way, if they choose to do "extras", they're on their own for it. However, we have also done the "free labor" trade. It seems to be a growing issue for teens now days... they expect everything to be handed to them!; ▶ Reply to This