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How as moms do you get any "me" time?
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For years I struggled with finding "me" time without my children and husband. Has anyone else had that challenge?
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Permalink Reply by Cindy Callinsky on -
Can your husband keep the children so that you can do something of your own once a week? If he is too busy or just too worn out you may want to swap a few hours with a really great girlfriend that has kids. I used to do that with my best friend Cat before we moved. She had three children; I had one. I would keep her kids for a few hours every couple of weeks and vice versa. It worked really well. If you don't have a close friend that you can do that with you may want to get involved in something parent related locally. You may meet a girlfriend that is wonderful that has children.
Our husbands were in the same battalion in the military and when they were not deployed they would keep all the kids on Thursday nights so Cat and I could go to the gym. It was nice. I know that’s not much gym time, but it was more about getting out and about.
Cindy
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Permalink Reply by Patrice Blakemore on -
Those are great suggestions. I have used some of them. It sounds like you crafted a great way to do it. How old is your child now?
I must admit that I am curious how other moms find time for themselves also.
Cindy Callinsky said:Can your husband keep the children so that you can do something of your own once a week? If he is too busy or just too worn out you may want to swap a few hours with a really great girlfriend that has kids. I used to do that with my best friend Cat before we moved. She had three children; I had one. I would keep her kids for a few hours every couple of weeks and vice versa. It worked really well. If you don't have a close friend that you can do that with you may want to get involved in something parent related locally. You may meet a girlfriend that is wonderful that has children.
Our husbands were in the same battalion in the military and when they were not deployed they would keep all the kids on Thursday nights so Cat and I could go to the gym. It was nice. I know that’s not much gym time, but it was more about getting out and about.
Cindy
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Permalink Reply by Cheryl Petran on -
i dream of the day when i can walk by a cute neighborhood bar/cafe and slip in and enjoy a nice glass of wine without having to worry about getting home at some specific time! i call it hiding....and i dream of it every day. i adore my husband and daughter but somedays i feel so handcuffed!
so yes....i get it!
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Permalink Reply by Patrice Blakemore on
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You are too funny. It's amazing how much time it takes being a wife and mother. I think finding more time for me made me nicer to my husband and kids. And there were times when my husband would make me go out for "me" time. I guess I was really hard to be around at that time.
I remember asking a SAHM if she ever thought of going back to work, and without hesitation she said, "everyday!"
Cheryl Petran said:i dream of the day when i can walk by a cute neighborhood bar/cafe and slip in and enjoy a nice glass of wine without having to worry about getting home at some specific time! i call it hiding....and i dream of it every day. i adore my husband and daughter but somedays i feel so handcuffed!
so yes....i get it!
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Permalink Reply by Dawn on -
I don't get much if any, but I know that time is slipping by so quickly and that soon I will have all the me time I want and then I will want them back! ;) Hey, It gets me through he day!
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Permalink Reply by Summer on -
I have my me-time after the kids are in bed. I've had to change my expectations of what will and won't be done. I could spend all that time catching up on cleaning and such, but that only leaves me more stressed out than a dirty house does. So once they are out I do the minimum I feel like doing, then head off for some me'time
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Permalink Reply by Mallory Powers on
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Boy, good question. My husband is in grad school and is also a TA. He works 12+ hours a day, six days a week. Not only do I not get a break, I don't get out. I try to give myself some time when my son is sleeping by blogging or reading. It is very hard. I am fine without a break for a few weeks, then I will reach my limit and have to get out that night. Many of my friends have children so they can relate, but it's hard.
If anyone has any ideas, let me know! Thanks! :)
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Permalink Reply by Jacqueline on -
I like with a partner and four kids, 11, 13, 15, & 17 in a small three bedroom trailer. I have very little me time, but I do manage, even in this environment to get some, and when I do, I enjoy it to the best of my ability. My best me time comes when my partner occasionally takes all of the kids with her somewhere. Usually she does this when she knows I need alone time, and she usually takes them to run errands (which they like) as opposed to doing something super fun in which case I might have mixed feelings about alone time vs. missing out on a fun family outing.
My other alone time is in the mornings. I about 4 out of 5 days, I get up at least an hour before anyone else does. This is my primary alone time, and I spend it a variety of ways including thinking deep thoughts and writing without the noisy household being up an about. Sometime I just sit and enjoy the quiet.
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Permalink Reply by Patrice Blakemore on
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I think you ladies have really gotten to the heart of finding "me" time and that is, you have to carve it out of your schedule. But most importantly, we as moms, not only deserve but need time to ourselves to be better parents, spouses/partners and friends. Having a supportive spouse/partner doesn't hurt either.
Cindy had a great suggestion about watching friends' kids and having them watch your own. I did that consistently for a year and it was wonderful, but now circumstances have changed so we can't do it as often. But I will definitely be getting "me" time this weekend. I am conducting a workshop at a conference I am also attending in Chicago. Yea for me. :-)
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Permalink Reply by Cindy Callinsky on
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Hey, Patrice,
I am new here and failed to hit the "follow" button. Sorry. My son is fifteen. He will be driving soon (crazy screaming in my head). I have all kinds of me time now. He is always running around with his friends. I miss him terribly. I wouldn't change the me time I had when he was younger, though. Everyone needs it. You can't give of yourself properly if you have nothing to give. People need me time to recharge.
Have a fabulous day.
Cindy
I tried to post an old photo of John. He was five I think.
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Permalink Reply by Anitra Elmore on -
I usually have to lock myself in the bathroom or just jump in the car by myself and pull off as quickly as I can :-). My husband is great about giving me "a moment" away from the kids when I ask. I honestly have a very hard time taking those moments because I always find something else to do!
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Permalink Reply by Lindsay Erhardt on -
I'm a morning person, so I make sure the coffee is on "autostart" and I wake up about 30 minutes early and read my favorite blogs. It's a great way to get something I enjoy out of my day all with a quiet house!
I also ask my husband to watch kids for me while I go get a pedicure on a Saturday and then stop by a few of my favorite shops on my way home.
