I am a MIDDLE (age-ish) MOM-Kids are getting ready to leave the nest--NOW WHAT
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Ok, so I am in my mid 40's and it a little confusing as to what to do next. When you have little kids, there are alot of activities, events, sleepless nights, playdates etc., or when you get to be a senior there are also alot of activites, events, discounts,trips etc. But as a middle age-ish girl, lady, women. What do we get, what do we do. We have some great years to fill.........lets fill them up with...ideas.??
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Permalink Reply by Betty Ray-Mydland on -
Honey, I can certainly relate to what you are going through. I am 57 and recently got custody of my almost now 10 year old grandson. It has been an adjustmet as the youngest of my own 5 chidlren is 35. What I have found to be quite helpful is this helpful website: http://www.grandparents.com/gp/home/index.html
Although it is for grandparents, I have found that us "olderish" caregivers can really benefit from the suggestions on this site.....Let me know what you think and if it has helped....
HUGS
Bet
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Permalink Reply by Linda Cameron on -
Betty Ray-Mydland said:Honey, I can certainly relate to what you are going through. I am 57 and recently got custody of my almost now 10 year old grandson. It has been an adjustmet as the youngest of my own 5 chidlren is 35. What I have found to be quite helpful is this helpful website: http://www.grandparents.com/gp/home/index.html
Although it is for grandparents, I have found that us "olderish" caregivers can really benefit from the suggestions on this site.....Let me know what you think and if it has helped....
HUGS
Bet
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Permalink Reply by Linda Cameron on
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Hi Betty Ray I'm Linda Ray,
I have been wondering where the grandparents where. I see lots of mom sites not many grandma sites. Thanks for the link. You have your hands full raising your grandchildren. I wouldn't mind taking my granddaughter she is awesome.
Linda
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Permalink Reply by Evelynmarieg on -
I started working from home with a great company. I want to make the planet safer for my kids and grandkids. This seemed like a worthwhile cause. http://www.thewhycircle.com/raemgarcia Made lots of friends along the way!
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Permalink Reply by Dale_Kelley on -
You can do ANYTHING YOU WANT!! That's the beauty of it!! :) I don't have enough hours in my days to do all the things I want to do. Still!
Remember all those things you wished you could do when the kids were younger but had to set aside because you just didn't have the time, energy, or maybe it just wasn't feasible? That's what you do now!
Be a rockstar!!!! (I still wanna do this one lol) Start a business. Travel. Train for a marathon. Go back to college. Explore new hobbies. Become a yogi. Dedicate yourself to a cause and save the world!
Socially I've found it to be a bit more difficult - especially given I'm single. There are some social groups/activities on meetup.com. Some specifically for age groups. The younger one's are more active. Go figure. My so called social life is based around interests and hobbies.
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Permalink Reply by Marsha Hudnall on
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I'll be an empty nester in the fall, although I feel close to it now as my son is off doing his own thing most of the time. We have our own business and I've found the energy again as my kids have left the nest to focus on doing what needs to be done for it. Fortunately, I enjoy our business so it's not a hardship to return to it. If it were, I'd vote with the other comments to find a passion and immerse yourself in it. And certainly, being an involved grandmother is a great idea. If you're lucky enough to live close to your grandchildren, your children can probably use the help. I wish I had had my mom living close by when my children were young.
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Permalink Reply by Marina Kamen on -
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Mar. 23rd, 2009 at 10:56 AM
How many of us go through our days feeling like the weight of the world is on our shoulders? Doesn't matter what age...what stage of life...we often feel like nothing we do may ever really count or amount to anything. Why continue to dream or have goals when everyday we put on the news to hear about more disasters or the futility of our own purpose. Simple. Keep it simple. Maybe that is all it is. Hear that inner voice....you know, the one that speaks to you in the back of your head. Breath...take that breath of life...movement...Maybe the "Unspoken" words that make up our own feelings are enough. Listen to those feelings. They have no IQ...they are your feelings...valid! Surrender to them and validate "you!"
Do not leave "you!". Take a deep breath...inhale through your nose...exhale through your mouth. Keep breathing. Drop those shoulders and lengthen your spine.....relax....and find peace in your own words that may be and remain forever "Unspoken!"
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Permalink Reply by Joanna Trusdle on -
Maybe some moms out there might be offended at this, but Celebrate!! I am 44 and I still have a 15 and 10 year old. It's hard work and I am looking forward to enjoying life a little bit more after they are grown and on their own. You also now have the opportunity and time to volunteer - goodness knows it is desperately needed right now. That's one thing I'm looking forward to. There are so many things available to use your time productively. And if you miss kids that much, for goodness sakes, volunteer at your local schools - that is definitely needed. Just a thought.
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Permalink Reply by anne on -
Get out there and live life to the full girl. My kids are 20 & 14.
It's a great time to catch up on all those things you meant to do or wanted to do but put them aside to raise your children. Write a list and promise yourself to try and achieve as many of those wishes as you can if possible. Then tick them off the list as you achieve them. I'd been meaning to learn to drive since I was 18.Even got my provisional license at that time BUT never learnt to drive until 2 years ago.(I'm 49) It felt so much less stressful and I passed first time too! It felt great to get in a car and drive wherever I wanted without waiting for someone else to do it for me. Then I joined a singing group because I'd always loved to sing but never got round to bothering to search for a group. It takes me out of the house in the evening and gives me a chance to socialise with others.
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Permalink Reply by Andria Lake on -
If you are married you can date your husband again and try to bring back those butterflies that may have flew away........start a business, volunteer, write a blog about your kids, work part time at a place you have always wanted to, spend lots of time making friends on twittermoms :)
My only son is 10, in 4th grade and I have been feeling a little the same way, I work from home all day and do miss having him around. But it gives me plenty of time to get things done, work on my business and go out to lunch with a friend or two without the kids.
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Permalink Reply by Jeannie on -
My youngest went away to college two years ago, and I couldn't wait? To have the time to the things I wanted to do, I couldn't wait! It's not that I didn't enjoy the band competitions and concerts, the twirling competitions, the baton lessons, etc. But when you've done them for over 15 years, it's time for a break!. now my husband and I can go for walks when we want to, I can sew when I want to, watch what I want on TV, read a good book when I want....etc etc etc. I still love my daughters, and am glad when they come back 'to visit', but I don't think I could live with them full time anymore!
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Permalink Reply by Jen M on -
I'm not an empty nester, and won't be any time soon. But I can tell you this: You're able to do the things I dream about! SO many things....An R rated movie. Take off in the middle of the day to go to see the new exhibit at a museum - there are long lines on weekends, after all. Or take a girlfriend getaway with an old friend. As much as I adore and dote on my elementary-school age kids, I live for those weekends I can fill with a girlfriend getaway vacation!
Of course, not everyone's been bitten by the travel bug. What did you dream about doing when your kids were younger? Now's the time, and I think you're lucky. Being middle aged these days doesn't mean it's the end of the road by ANY stretch; you're young and healthy, and in the perfect time of your life to set new goals and experience the path to meeting those goals.
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