Please tell me I am not the only one with an older bed wetter
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Hi,
I guess I am starting this discussion to know there are others out there feeling the same. My daughter is 7 and half and she still wets the bed. In my heart I know she will grow out of it eventually - she is a very heavy sleeper. We take her to the bathroom before we go to bed (around 10.30pm) and this usually works - if we don't take her there is probably a 50% chance she will wet the bed. I don't really want advice as to how to solve it, just want to know if there are others out there with the same problem or if they have kids that have finally grown out of bed wetting.
I guess I am starting this discussion to know there are others out there feeling the same. My daughter is 7 and half and she still wets the bed. In my heart I know she will grow out of it eventually - she is a very heavy sleeper. We take her to the bathroom before we go to bed (around 10.30pm) and this usually works - if we don't take her there is probably a 50% chance she will wet the bed. I don't really want advice as to how to solve it, just want to know if there are others out there with the same problem or if they have kids that have finally grown out of bed wetting.
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Permalink Reply by Kimberly Perreira on -
I am so glad that I read this. My 5 1/2 year old still has this problem one night out of seven. I was starting to get worried because I was hearing more stories about 3 year olds staying dry through the night. Thank you for starting this discussion!
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Permalink Reply by Michelle Hutchison on -
I know what you mean about the hearing about younger kids who have not wet the bed since 2 or 3. 1 night out of 7 is pretty good - hopefully he is just about there.
Kimberly Perreira said:I am so glad that I read this. My 5 1/2 year old still has this problem one night out of seven. I was starting to get worried because I was hearing more stories about 3 year olds staying dry through the night. Thank you for starting this discussion!
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Permalink Reply by Forum 4 Women on -
We take them to the bathroom before they go to bed. Then, a couple hours later when we go to bed or are still up, we will take them to go potty again.
It's a pain, but their bladders are most often full within that 2 hours. When you do that, it gets most of the water out of their digestive system, so they awake dry even if they sleep later.
We tried the goodnights and all of that, but waking them up just seems to work and is much cheaper. I never blamed them though. Many children just sleep through it.
Mine are 3 and 4, but we will probably always be waking them up. It's just so nice, because they sleep sound the rest of the night and don't wake us up to go potty until they wake up in the morning. The other way, they'd either be wet or wake everyone up in the middle of the night. Then, it's tough to get them to go back to sleep and so on.
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Permalink Reply by MotherofConfusion on -
My youngest son is five and still not potty trained. We've been working on it since he was 2. He's tall for his age -- so goodnight pullups (come in much bigger sizes than regular pullups) work for overnights.
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Permalink Reply by Marti Gilchrist on -
My son was a bed wetter until around age 12 I believe. I finally took him to a pediatric urologist who prescribed a medication that helped until he out grew it. Sleep overs were difficult but he had a good attitude and we worked it out. This too will pass! :)
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Permalink Reply by Paula Cowan on -
This is such a sensitive subject and one that I know ALL about. Both my children had "immature" bladders and urinary systems, and they both went through intensive testing at Scottish Rite Childrens Hospital. We ruled out any dangerous medical condition and then moved forward. One must be so very careful in this area, as to not damage the delicate psyche of a young, impressionable child. Once the real condition was revealed, I remembered all the old wive's tales and myths that I grew up hearing about bedwetting and it made me cringe. If a chronic bedwetter has not been medically diagnosed, I suggest contacting a doctor. We bought protective bed gear and used the pull-ons as long as they fit. Many many nights I changed sheets and pajamas in the middle of the night, but always with a supportive and loving assurance to my child. They are already so embarrassed by the problem so it was imperative that I never faulted them for the act itself. They do in fact grow out of this, although it differs per child.
*Note: often a child with this problem may experience "bowel" control issues, as in with-holding; because they fight for control in the areas that they can control. Watch for this and should you sense your child is with-holding, talk to your pediatrician. With-holding can lead to bowel obstruction and a serious medical situation.
Good Luck and stay Positive.
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Permalink Reply by shehnaz hoosen on -
helo michelle. my kids are three and two years. both are potty trained but stil wear nappies at night?? can you hep me??
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Permalink Reply by The Triumphant Child on -
I think plenty of two and three year olds are wearing diapers at night. I wouldn't worry at this stage.
shehnaz hoosen said:helo michelle. my kids are three and two years. both are potty trained but stil wear nappies at night?? can you hep me??
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Permalink Reply by Tonya on -
Michelle, my eldest child was sporadically wetting the bed until he was about 10. I'd say on average he'd have one or two accidents a month. He too is a VERY heavy sleeper, nothing short of shaking him would ever wake him. I used to feel sick sending him to friends for sleepovers and remember I would call late at night (pretending to be saying goodnight to him) just so that I could remind him to go to the bathroom before bed without his friends knowing. We tried all kinds of things. Making him drink a lot in the hopes that he would feel the urge to go to not letting him drink an hour before bed. We tried doctors and I sat in on seminars for bed wetting. Nothing helped until one day he just didn't wet the bed anymore and never looked back.
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Permalink Reply by Michelle Hutchison on
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thanks for sharing. It's great to hear stories of kids who grew out of it. I think that is what will happen with my daughter. (eventually)
Tonya said:Michelle, my eldest child was sporadically wetting the bed until he was about 10. I'd say on average he'd have one or two accidents a month. He too is a VERY heavy sleeper, nothing short of shaking him would ever wake him. I used to feel sick sending him to friends for sleepovers and remember I would call late at night (pretending to be saying goodnight to him) just so that I could remind him to go to the bathroom before bed without his friends knowing. We tried all kinds of things. Making him drink a lot in the hopes that he would feel the urge to go to not letting him drink an hour before bed. We tried doctors and I sat in on seminars for bed wetting. Nothing helped until one day he just didn't wet the bed anymore and never looked back.
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Permalink Reply by Patti Smith on -
Hi, I just joined and wanted to intruduce myself. My name is Patti and I have 2 kids and they are 8 and 4. My 8 year old daughter is nowhere near dry at night and I can count on one hand how many times she has woken up dry. The main issue I have with her is the fact that it doesnt even bother her that she still does it. There are more times then not I will find her downstairs on the couch watching TV still in her soaking wet, pee soaked pj's! When I ask her why she didnt change I get the same excuse everytime....I forgot to change mom! I dont get it, how can you forget to change when your sitting in pee soaked clothes?? I am SOO overwhelmed having to wash sheets and bedding and clothes every morning I just cant do it anymore. Its so hard not to get mad at her but there are times when I go in her room to check on her at night before I go to bed I have caught her numerous times still awake in bed and already wet....BEFORE she was even asleep yet. All because she got too comfy in bed (her words not mine) and didnt want to get up to go. Its so hard not to get mad at her but when she blatently does it when she is awake, that bothers me. If she were truely asleep thats one thing, but awake??
I have been to her pedi at least 4 times so far and was even referred to a urologist and they all assure me she is perfectly healthy! I just dont know what else to do anymore. I just want her to care that she does it and make the effort to want to stop and not sneak drinks at night when I am not watching her. I am hoping someone here is experiencing the same issue with their older child. I am looking forward to hearing back from some of you real soon! Have a wonderful day!
Patti
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Permalink Reply by The Triumphant Child on
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Wow Patti,
that does sound overwhelming. My daughter would do anything to be dry! Not sure if this is right, but I think I would get mad at her if she was peeing in bed when awake. That is not an accident. I would be getting her to change the sheets, wash the sheets and even contribute money to all of the extra washing. Does she have any other issues? Or is this isolated behavior? May need to explore other areas of her life.
Patti Smith said:Hi, I just joined and wanted to intruduce myself. My name is Patti and I have 2 kids and they are 8 and 4. My 8 year old daughter is nowhere near dry at night and I can count on one hand how many times she has woken up dry. The main issue I have with her is the fact that it doesnt even bother her that she still does it. There are more times then not I will find her downstairs on the couch watching TV still in her soaking wet, pee soaked pj's! When I ask her why she didnt change I get the same excuse everytime....I forgot to change mom! I dont get it, how can you forget to change when your sitting in pee soaked clothes?? I am SOO overwhelmed having to wash sheets and bedding and clothes every morning I just cant do it anymore. Its so hard not to get mad at her but there are times when I go in her room to check on her at night before I go to bed I have caught her numerous times still awake in bed and already wet....BEFORE she was even asleep yet. All because she got too comfy in bed (her words not mine) and didnt want to get up to go. Its so hard not to get mad at her but when she blatently does it when she is awake, that bothers me. If she were truely asleep thats one thing, but awake??
I have been to her pedi at least 4 times so far and was even referred to a urologist and they all assure me she is perfectly healthy! I just dont know what else to do anymore. I just want her to care that she does it and make the effort to want to stop and not sneak drinks at night when I am not watching her. I am hoping someone here is experiencing the same issue with their older child. I am looking forward to hearing back from some of you real soon! Have a wonderful day!
Patti
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