Please tell me I am not the only one with an older bed wetter

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Permalink Reply by Patti Smith on August 10, 2009 at 3:49pm

Thanks....she really doesnt have any other issues other then me having to constantly remind her to go to the bathroom during the day because she get so caught up in what she is doing that she will wait and wait and wait till the last possible second to go and by then its too late. She just doesnt want to take the time to go when she has to (day or night). She knows she has to go, she just chooses not to.

As far as her cleaning the sheets and the mess, I do make her help me (although its a huge fight everytime) and its even harder on school mornings where she is always late for school because of her fighting me. Time outs dont work, taking things away, grounding, nothing after 6, talking to her, waking her etc....nothing gets through to her! I am just at my wits end with it. I dont know ANY other child that still does it and doesnt care. I see myself comparing her to a 2 year old because thats basically how she is acting. I hope that doesnt make me sound like a bad mom saying that. I am looking forward to hearing back soon. Have a wonderful day!

Patti

The Triumphant Child said:

Wow Patti,
that does sound overwhelming. My daughter would do anything to be dry! Not sure if this is right, but I think I would get mad at her if she was peeing in bed when awake. That is not an accident. I would be getting her to change the sheets, wash the sheets and even contribute money to all of the extra washing. Does she have any other issues? Or is this isolated behavior? May need to explore other areas of her life.

Patti Smith said:

Hi, I just joined and wanted to intruduce myself. My name is Patti and I have 2 kids and they are 8 and 4. My 8 year old daughter is nowhere near dry at night and I can count on one hand how many times she has woken up dry. The main issue I have with her is the fact that it doesnt even bother her that she still does it. There are more times then not I will find her downstairs on the couch watching TV still in her soaking wet, pee soaked pj's! When I ask her why she didnt change I get the same excuse everytime....I forgot to change mom! I dont get it, how can you forget to change when your sitting in pee soaked clothes?? I am SOO overwhelmed having to wash sheets and bedding and clothes every morning I just cant do it anymore. Its so hard not to get mad at her but there are times when I go in her room to check on her at night before I go to bed I have caught her numerous times still awake in bed and already wet....BEFORE she was even asleep yet. All because she got too comfy in bed (her words not mine) and didnt want to get up to go. Its so hard not to get mad at her but when she blatently does it when she is awake, that bothers me. If she were truely asleep thats one thing, but awake??

I have been to her pedi at least 4 times so far and was even referred to a urologist and they all assure me she is perfectly healthy! I just dont know what else to do anymore. I just want her to care that she does it and make the effort to want to stop and not sneak drinks at night when I am not watching her. I am hoping someone here is experiencing the same issue with their older child. I am looking forward to hearing back from some of you real soon! Have a wonderful day!

Patti

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Permalink Reply by Michelle Hutchison on October 4, 2009 at 3:52am

Just thought I would let you all know that we have just had two whole weeks without a wet bed and without having to wake her to pee. I know she will have the odd accident, but I can tell we have turned the corner. Whew - she is two months away from being 8 - a long time in coming.

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Permalink Reply by Lorie on October 4, 2009 at 1:31pm

Not alone. It really is a bladder muscle development issue and they will eventually grow out if it. Get some Goodnites or a similar product to keep from having to cleanup after accidents and just remember it isn't anyone fault. Thus too shall pass.

Michelle Hutchison said:

Okay - I am feeling like I am not alone. You guys are so great for helping me be patient. I guess I will just have to wait until she grows out of it. I hope it is the end of this year - I know she has a school camp next year.

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Permalink Reply by Lorie on October 4, 2009 at 1:31pm

Not alone. It really is a bladder muscle development issue and they will eventually grow out if it. Get some Goodnites or a similar product to keep from having to cleanup after accidents and just remember it isn't anyone fault. Thus too shall pass.

Michelle Hutchison said:

Okay - I am feeling like I am not alone. You guys are so great for helping me be patient. I guess I will just have to wait until she grows out of it. I hope it is the end of this year - I know she has a school camp next year.

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Permalink Reply by Tami Sperr on October 4, 2009 at 2:00pm

I have a son who is 12 and still wets every night! We have tried everything possible. He was finally diagnosed with a deep sleep disorder. We've been trying treatments through an enuresis clinic to break his sleep pattern but are still not having any luck. The doctor said it's one of the harder cases they've had. It has really affected his life in so many ways that we hope there will be an end soon. He can't go to camps, sleep overs, overnight class trips or have friends stay here for that matter. Eventually his body should change so he can quit wetting the bed but he won't "out grow" the deep sleep part so we continue to keep trying to help him. It has been very hard on our whole family and I feel so bad for him to miss out on fun childhood experiences. Now that he's in junior high it's much more embarrassing to him. Does anyone else have a child this old still wetting the bed?

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