Question: Are Dads Allowed on TwitterMoms?

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Permalink Reply by Sheryl Loch on November 7, 2008 at 2:10am

I look at it this way - If a guy is brave enough to be in here with all these women GREAT!

But, he should understand that if I post that my period cramps are so bad I think my uterus is falling out then he can ignore the post or leave me any helpful tips he has. Just do not freak out and say something stupid - he could be in for an earful plus. LOL!

Everything online is open for ALL people to see. Even locked private sites can sometimes be gotten into.

I have seen some guys on the WAHM forums and most of the men are far more respectful in post then some of the 'ladies'.

Sheryl Loch

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Permalink Reply by Viki Stanley-Hutchison on November 7, 2008 at 7:57am

From what I've seen most of the men seem to be here for a "valid" reason. They're dads interested in parenting information, or they have a product or service that is woman/mother/child oriented that they're looking to network/promote. I'm sure we'll get a few who are here simply to meet women, which I'm not thrilled about, but if anyone steps over the line I'm positive that Meghan would take care of it immediately. So I'm not really concerned about the men being here, and I still intend to share in the same open, honest manner I would if they weren't present ;o)

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Permalink Reply by Viki Stanley-Hutchison on November 7, 2008 at 8:00am

Well said Lois ;o) And as a grandmom I think you'll add a lot of value to the boards!

Samantha said:

Well said!

Lois Linquist said:

I'm a Mom and oh so ready to be a Grand Mom. Should I start a TwitterGrandmoms? Nope, not yet, but as an old Mom, perhaps I shouldn't have joined either since most of the Moms I've met are young with young children. Still, when I checked out Twitter Moms I thought perhaps I might have something to add at some time that might help a new Mom, pick up ideas about marketing, learn new skills, find new friends and maybe end up adopting a Grand or two (lol).

I'm old enough to remember women and girls forcing their way into mens groups, little league, football and other groups which all started after the bra burnings. It's actually hard for me to believe that women who fought so hard for inclusion in these groups and recognition of our perceived rights to be there would now question whether men shoud be allowed to join a group clearly designed for women. I'm no activist and abhored a lot of what I saw as the "revolution" but I am a big believer in "what's good for the goose". So, it is my belief that to exclude men, who just might have something to offer here, would be a mistake and in the end hypocritical if you truly believe in equal rights.

Lois

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Permalink Reply by Rossy on November 7, 2008 at 11:26am

my husband asked me the very thing when I joined, then I assumed no, but i think its cool! there maybe many men/dads who have the same concerns or questions as we do when it comes to parenting. And I think the men who do join would be respectful of the culture of this community and that we are mostly women and talk about women things as well as parent related things. Lets not forget that there are many stay at home Dads and only Fathers out there in need of support.

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Permalink Reply by Laura on November 7, 2008 at 12:29pm

I just got a tweet from Twitter dads. so the have a place too. http://twitterdads.ning.com/

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Permalink Reply by Meredith on November 8, 2008 at 7:00am

Lois~ Love your comment by far the most. I can see everyone point of view. I understand that some women are standoffish and protective at this time in their life, like a mama bear protecting her cubs, plus some have been hurt by men in their life and might be looking for a soft place to land so to speak.
As far as Christopher goes, I am friends with him both on this site and twitter and he is a good guy, from what I can tell. He is never intrusive and is ALWAYS upfront with his reasons for being here, asking any questions and is never pushy or overbearing. Not that all the men will or are this way, but he is open and upfront and that is what I ask from all my online friends.
All sites have men, women, organizations, and companies flooding them for promotional, marketing, advertising reason, you can pretty much spot them a mile away. I see it on every site I am on and it makes me push my little online store less. The way I see it is if people are interested in you they will look up your bio, and that is where all your sites, links, and stores are on. I mention it once in a while, and show some of the things I am proud of but not every listing or relisting.
So guess I am in the middle. Plus I have been members of groups with strict rules and some with more relaxed rules and enjoy both, it is not what makes the group, the people and the setup are.
Like I stated when I started I can see everyones point of view and can see how a case can be made for each. Wonder how Megan, the groups founder, thinks? She must be okay with it for Christopher is not the only man I see on here.
Y'all enjoy your day, SMILE!
~Meredith~

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Permalink Reply by Duong on November 9, 2008 at 4:54am

I added one dad to my friends, as his book caught my eye-twitter revolutions....but then, after doing so and reading other posts that there are more dads on here..nothing against dads, looovvee dads. Dads would benefit from belonging to a community---Why not have their own twitter dad site--

I like what Sister Talk said, "If dads are allowed, should this community be named Twitter Parents?"

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Permalink Reply by Tammy Dantzler on November 9, 2008 at 9:00am

Christopher, I welcome you as a friend and value your knowledge. I believe that you are honest in your purpose and respectful with non intruding in female conversations.

Personally, I believe that TwitterMoms Rocks! It's my favorite site on the internet. After high school or college our circle of friends narrows down to your surroundings. Have you ever made an awesome friendship at an office, but just to lose contact with them after the left the company? I've made some wonderful friendships here on TMs that I personally cherish with women around the globe. TMs care and share their wealth of knowledge and experiences regarding motherhood and more. I've giggled, cried, prayed, learned, shared and hopefully returned the same to TMs. Megan and TMs has made this site a wonderful and giving place. There is a reason I never joined WAHM.com and it's for the same reason I left CAFEMOM.com all I ever received was business SPAM those women there weren't into building lasting friendships and adding value to people lives like here on TMs. I'm sure regardless, female or male I have faith that Megan is watching over us. I made a friendship with a single dad who is raising 3 kids on his own and has always spoke of fatherhood, never business. If my accepting his friendship, I've add value to his families life than that is a blessing. I have to admit though some of these other guys spook me out. I personally will not type anything that I consider private feelings on the internet anywhere, because whether it's a male or female everything we type is up for grabs and can be copied and paste anywhere on the internet.

Christopher said:

I got an OK before I signed up. I'm not a dad, but I think I can speak to this issue of male-ness on the site.
I actually stayed away because I thought it was exclusive until I got an invite. I just stuck to talking to Megan on Twitter about the site and about supporting moms and women. Then I asked about the invite and whether I could join because after the invite, I thought of what a nice way to meet and talk to moms and women about solving problems and such.
She expressed the same concern on behalf of worried members. But I asked her to check me out and let me know.

I wouldn't take away the name of the site nor would I change the theme. I'm a social media enthusiast. I help moderate a major authority ning site on the subject. Having said that, I have a good understanding on how to navigate these networks. There's a certain finesse in treading these sites. I believe that you have to be there for an appropriate reason. The community can judge a member by his interaction with other members.

So for here, obviously I wouldn't think to inject myself into a discussion where my input just wouldn't flow with the direction of the conversation. Unless of course I was asked. Like I wouldn't comment on questions of breastfeeding and motherly opinions on certain things. Really is none of my business, at least not the degree where my male presence is absolutely warranted.

On the other hand, SAHM or mompreuer based conversations are. So I may or may not see fit to offer something to the dialogue. And it would be received well because it's appropriate, that is, it does not disturb the theme of the site, or the general direction of the dialogue.

So if I may lead a good example, my hope and expectation (perhaps yours as well) is that my interaction here is well received and nonintrusive ... supportive and not subversive ... congruent and not intersecting :) ... and may set a tone for other male and non Dad members. And that would allow the site to keep the name, and keep the theme, keep free from conflict, and continue to be such a valuable resource and community for moms and women across the world.

Would you agree?

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Permalink Reply by ShriNagesh on November 14, 2008 at 3:33am

I see no harm in having twitter dads around. Any subject should be weighed with both male n female perspectives. There is a special group for twitterdads, though n if u ask me, i wont join that club though. (IMO)

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Permalink Reply by Andrea Baker on November 16, 2008 at 5:49am

After reading Christophers reply, I think its okay as long as the moderators have checked them out to be sure they are not pervs.

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Permalink Reply by Lauren Weitzman on November 16, 2008 at 7:41am

no menz allowed!!! lol

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Permalink Reply by Sheryl Loch on November 16, 2008 at 10:29am

Ok, Just have to ask -

What do they do if the 'man' that just gave birth wants to be part of Twitter Moms? That would be a real brain racker. Heck, I am not even sure yet if he is male or female or should I say if she is male or female.

Or what if a man had a sex change & is now a female but, wasn't one before?

Or what if a woman is already a member here & then gets a sex change & becomes a man, can she still be a twitter mom?

OMG! This is just way out of hand. At 40+ years old & I still am not sure who is what.

Maybe we should hire an FBI investigator to do research on all members to see if they are who they say they are, if the picture they display is really them, Is the photo up to date so I would recognize them if I saw them on Americas Most Wanted, what gender is on their birth certificate, & do they fulfill my idea of what a mom is?

Ok, it has been a really boring day & thought I would stimulate my brain with all of this.
Sheryl Loch

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