Question: Are Dads Allowed on TwitterMoms?

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Permalink Reply by Shannon on November 16, 2008 at 1:58pm

Meh, I don't see an issue. It's obviously a community built by and for women, but if men want to join with the full knowledge that it's a mom-centric community, there's no harm. I believe everyone's perspective is valuable whether you have a penis or a vagina.

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Permalink Reply by Anita Hampl on November 24, 2008 at 4:42am

Don't know the answer, I'm new here. BUT a guy on Twitter asked if I knew any Dads who wanted to (join or start, I forget) Twitterdads.FWIW!

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Permalink Reply by Louise on December 2, 2008 at 3:03pm

It did at first, but there are some SAH dads out there.

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Permalink Reply by Louise on December 6, 2008 at 9:58am

I wanted to add something to this. I was thinking about this at home and I wanted to change my answer. I think YES, dad's should be allowed to join twittermoms. Dads are a very important part of taking care of children. Some dads are the only parent. They may work from home or be the stay at home dad.

I also think we shouldn't worry too much about them being perves. If someone wanted to sign up and be disgusting, they'll get kicked out or they'll pretend to be a mom. I'm glad these men are being honest about being a man. So YEAH! keep joining and networking. Dads need support out there too. Taking care of children is hard.

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Permalink Reply by Amydeanne on December 18, 2008 at 5:49am

it feels really odd to me. I purposely go to places are are "mom" only... so yes it bothers me. I have noticed a few men in here and I understand they've been invited reading some of the posts.. but that being said, you can't tell me you can't find a female photo guru? Or female IT persons ? I've been on enough parenting sites to see it done.. or if they are here, they're in the background... not in the chat area.. (at least the IT person).. i know many many female photographers.
Don't get me wrong, I like men, just not on mom boards.. there are places SAHD's can go and they would play a different role than mom's regardless..
and if it was suppose to be a parent board, it should be labeled as one.. if it's a mom board it should be labeled as one.. each one is fine in it's own category, but when you are expecting "mom's" only, and you get men in here.. it's deceiving ... call it moms and a few males ... but call it what it is.

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Permalink Reply by Jeff on December 18, 2008 at 6:34am

Very interesting discussion and it’s a good question. I’m also questioning whether it was wrong for me to join. Some of the main reasons I jumped on board are:

1) I’m fascinated by social media and think it’s great that this group branched off from Twitter.com. And to see that there were around 1,500 members in September and now 5,000+ in December is impressive. So I’m interested in seeing the future growth and following how this group evolves.

2) I oversee the Upromise Community (deals, tips and discussions on saving for college) and am interested in making it as vibrant as possible. What I’m seeing here in TM is giving me some good food for thought. And from time to time I’d love to ask a question or two to get this group’s take on ideas.

3) From time to time I’m looking to hire mom bloggers for the Upromise Community, and the Twitter Mom Mommy Bloggers group caught my attention.

So, I realize I can do all of the above without necessarily being a TM member, although I wouldn’t be able to chime in, ask questions and contact fellow members. But I certainly appreciate why TM was created and don’t want to disrupt that in any way.

-Jeff

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Permalink Reply by Christine on December 18, 2008 at 6:34am

I am totally not bothered by the presence of men on TwitterMoms. As long as they are up front about being men I am fine with it. What I have a problem with is when men join womens sites and pretend to be women, I'm sorry but that is creepy. I like that the site is called TwitterMoms because it does let people know what kind of topics are being discussed and all, but I don't think that anyone should be excluded because if you try to exclude people they will just join under false pretenses and I for one would rather know that the men on here are men and the women on here without children are women without children. This is the internet and nothing is safe or sacred and honestly you really can't expect anything on the internet to be safe or to be exclusive of anyone. When you are on line you really need to use your brain and realize that people aren't always who they say they are and you just need to expect that. How do you know the other Moms on here are in fact Moms? I am guessing that you are just taking their word for it that they really are Moms, but they may not be.

As far as TwitterDads goes I know that it is there as many of you also seem to know, but did you know there aren't very many Dads on TwitterDads and there aren't too many groups or too much activity. I know that my husband was very excited and joined TwitterDads when I told him about it months ago, but was disappointed that it is no where near as active as the different sites for Moms. Some Dads are very involved parents and are looking for a site to get tips and advice and suggestions on raising their children and I for one commend them for being so involved and interested in parenting. I don't think that we should condemn men for being interested in parenting topics as that will just set us back 50 years or so to when women did everything and I for one don't really want to move backwards. I am very happy that my husband is an involved parent and tries to learn about parenting. I do feel bad for him though since there aren't any good communities that are supportive of men who are interested in patenting issues. I feel even worse for all of the single Dads and gay male couples who are trying to raise children and have no communities that are really open to their presence.

I really don't understand what the issue is with being accepting of others. We are all here for different reasons. Even the Moms on these social sites are all here for different reasons so what does it matter if some of the members are here because they are interested in parenting or some other aspect of our network even if they aren't a mother. I did encourage my husband to join TwitterMoms months ago when he expressed his dissatisfaction with TwitterDads and their lack of activity, but he was afraid to join TwitterMoms because he thought that the Moms might get upset with his presence even though he would have been here because of his interest in being a better parent and knowing more about all there is involved in parenting. I don't think that we should be discouraging men from being interested in parenting. I think that we should really encourage that kind of interest. After all wouldn't you rather have your significant other be interested in parenting and being an involved parent rather than expecting you to do everything yourself?

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Permalink Reply by simple on December 18, 2008 at 11:07am

You can be sure there are guys on this site as you mention. Doesn't bother me. They are the other half of the world.

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Permalink Reply by Christine on December 18, 2008 at 5:08pm

I asked hubby how many members TwitterDads has now and he said it is less than 100 and it is still not very active. The most interesting thing might be that he said that there are a handful of women on TwitterDads and he hasn't noticed any uproar over their presence on TwitterDads.

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Permalink Reply by simple on December 20, 2008 at 1:23pm

Christine said:

I asked hubby how many members TwitterDads has now and he said it is less than 100 and it is still not very active. The most interesting thing might be that he said that there are a handful of women on TwitterDads and he hasn't noticed any uproar over their presence on TwitterDads.

Maybe some guys are more chatty than the average, and like women, they enjoy chatting.

Some guys would go nuts about all this chat. I have one at home. his chat meter is limited. Beyond that and he's chatted out for the day-- usually about an hour.

I suppose there's some 'different' ones in the mix, since good and bad seem to come together...

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Permalink Reply by MarlisaOK on December 20, 2008 at 5:51pm

Twitter Moms should only be for MOM's. That means a baby had to come out of your stomach or vaginal region. To qualify for Twitter Moms membership. :)

They can start Twitter Dads if they want.

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Permalink Reply by meat99 on February 14, 2009 at 7:37am

Well, I'm a dad and very happy to be here... And i love my kids just as much as you love yours...

But if TMoms decides to boot us, I guess I'd understand. Happy to be here either way and hope to make some new friends.

tom
www.kideoplayer.com

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