Spell our names right, please..
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Okay. I know this is going to sound so petty and there are so many other things in the world to be bothered by...but it drives me nuts that my sister-in-law does not spell my or our daughter's name correctly. Whether it's in e-mail, on FB or in cards she sends, she consistently gets them wrong. I purposely find ways to put our names in correspondence so that she'll see it.
I am stumped on how to approach this with her. I do recall, about a year or so after my brother married her, that he made a point of telling me how she spells her name. I've respected that ever since.
Any thoughts on how I can diplomatically address this or do I need to move on and just be glad that we're friendly.
I am stumped on how to approach this with her. I do recall, about a year or so after my brother married her, that he made a point of telling me how she spells her name. I've respected that ever since.
Any thoughts on how I can diplomatically address this or do I need to move on and just be glad that we're friendly.
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Permalink Reply by Pat Graham-Block on -
Some people are dyslexic or have other reading/writing disabilities, including the inability to proofread stuff. I would focus on all the things you love about her and "leave the rest". :-)
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Permalink Reply by MCardin on -
My daughters name is Hannah, but you would be amazed at how many people leave off the last "h". I've never seen Hannah spelled without the "h." I don't know how to approach it with people either, because the people that do it I KNOW don't have any disability.
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Permalink Reply by Lana on -
You know what's worse? When everyone badgers you name. My name is Lana, like the actress, Lana Turner. I have been called Lay-na, Lena, Lan-nah and other variations. And when I correct them, they tell me my name should be spelled Lonna. Huh?
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Permalink Reply by Marlene M. Linke on -
Have you asked your brother to speak to her? If he can approach her, it could take you out of the mix so there's no ill feelings. If she's already been told, then there's no excuse. You would have every right to offer gentle correction. I hope you have a good relationship. If not, it could be a form of passive aggressive behavior; a way to zing you without doing so overtly. If you don't suspect ill will, perhaps you could say "I don't know if you realized that you've been misspelling both my daughter's name and my name. I don't think you did it intentionally, but I thought I would write it down so you would know for future reference." Mazeltov!
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Permalink Reply by Nanci Schwartz on -
That's a great suggestion, Marlene. You put it appropriately and delicately. Thank you!
Marlene M. Linke said:Have you asked your brother to speak to her? If he can approach her, it could take you out of the mix so there's no ill feelings. If she's already been told, then there's no excuse. You would have every right to offer gentle correction. I hope you have a good relationship. If not, it could be a form of passive aggressive behavior; a way to zing you without doing so overtly. If you don't suspect ill will, perhaps you could say "I don't know if you realized that you've been misspelling both my daughter's name and my name. I don't think you did it intentionally, but I thought I would write it down so you would know for future reference." Mazeltov!
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Permalink Reply by Sheryl Loch on -
This is making me laugh!
My daughters are Shanda, Nichole, & Caitlinn (don't ask about the last name problems). If anyone including family & teachers ever spelled or said their name right it would shock me.
I learned to just forget about it. Heck, most people do not spell or say my name correctly.
As long as she can spell it close enough to write a check for them to cash on their birthday - don't worry. When your daughter gets old enough to notice SHE will straighten it out. ;)
If you have a name that is difficult for people to decide how to pronounce then you always know when it is a stranger calling - they seldom say it right & I know that they do not know me right away.
Sheryl Loch
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Permalink Reply by Mary on -
I thought that was a race thing! When I lived in Ohio people would not say, spell or pronounce our last name correctly and everytime we corrected them they would always reply "whatever". I thought they were just a bunch of racist and poorly educated people!
My advice...start misspelling her name on emails, Facebook and so on and she will soon figure out what's going on and how to fix it. That's what we did and even though I hate such a lame reply as "whatever" we would tell people the same thing everytime they would correct our pronunciation and/or spelling.
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