To spank or not to spank
What are your thoughts on spanking?
Overwhelmingly Twitter Moms do not agree with spanking. As a therapist I am very pleased to see these types of comments. Click on the parenting styles link below.
http://www.examiner.com/examiner/x-21085-Atlanta-Northside-Parentin...
Tags: abuse, advice, child, dicipline, parenting, punishment, spanking, styles, tips
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Permalink Reply by Ruth Edensor on
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Spanking is a very negative form of discipline with no learning in it, it makes your child miserable and can mean that they resent you or not like you. If a child is often spanked it can seriously damage their self esteem which along with other negative forms of discipline will just make unwanted behaviour worse. I am always uncomfortable that we would treat our children with less respect than adults. There is never a need to spank a child because there are so many other positive ways to get encourage good behaviour.
Please don't spank !!!!
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Permalink Reply by Brie Padfield on -
"He who spareth the rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him correcteth him betimes" (Proverbs 13:24) and "Withhold not correction from a child: for if thou strike him with the rod, he shall not die. Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and deliver his soul from hell." (Proverbs 23:13-14)
Spanking is a necessary form of discipline. Generations of children received spankings as punishment for their wrong doing, and the world used to be a safer place. Once bleeding hearts started decrying spankings as a form of child abuse, the world started going down hill. Children are killing children. Children are beating their parents. There is no longer a healthy fear of your parents to keep you on the straight and narrow. I was given spankings when I was a child, and I have never even been pulled over, much less been arrested and I would still never raise my voice to my mother. If parents would bring back spanking as a form of discipline the crime rate in this country would drop, people would start taking responsibility for their own actions and people might actually start respecting each other again *gafaw*. I will spank my children and they will turn out just fine.
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Permalink Reply by Chris Tryon on -
NO SPANKING! It is much better for everyone concerned when children are disciplined (discipline means to teach, not spank): with positive attention when they do good things. Negative attention will usually equal negative behavior.
Being the mother of 3 sons, I have seen positive reinforcement work EONS better than negative consequences.
I usually play "Let's make a deal." If you give Mom what she wants you are more than likely going to get what you want. Children are not in charge of our household, the parents ARE.
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Well said Chris :)
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I wholeheartedly disagree, old methods of parenting do not work any more and this is why children are behaving the way they do. Using positive methods to encourage childrens good behaviour will bring out the best in them, teach them to self correct and most importantly help them to keep in touch with their spirit.
Brie Padfield said:"He who spareth the rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him correcteth him betimes" (Proverbs 13:24) and "Withhold not correction from a child: for if thou strike him with the rod, he shall not die. Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and deliver his soul from hell." (Proverbs 23:13-14)
Spanking is a necessary form of discipline. Generations of children received spankings as punishment for their wrong doing, and the world used to be a safer place. Once bleeding hearts started decrying spankings as a form of child abuse, the world started going down hill. Children are killing children. Children are beating their parents. There is no longer a healthy fear of your parents to keep you on the straight and narrow. I was given spankings when I was a child, and I have never even been pulled over, much less been arrested and I would still never raise my voice to my mother. If parents would bring back spanking as a form of discipline the crime rate in this country would drop, people would start taking responsibility for their own actions and people might actually start respecting each other again *gafaw*. I will spank my children and they will turn out just fine.
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Permalink Reply by Michelle Draveski on -
I don't know if I am pro or con but I will say I have came to the conclusion that children today are aweful when it comes to manors, and respect and behavior. I don't blame the children I blame the parents and spanking or not it still is a huge family and have often seen children speak to a parent in a manor I would never have dared too.
For the record I was spanked once in my whole life and my 16 year old son has been spanked twice. I have a 7 month old that it is still up in the air. I never want to touch her but with my son those two times it was the only way to get my message across and the fact it happened so sparingly makes it something he will always remember.
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Permalink Reply by Katie Williams on -
I am against spanking, for the simple reason that it is punishing a bad behaviour with a bad behaviour - which makes no sense to me. I don't understand how it can be a good form of discipline.
No spanking here!
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Permalink Reply by Brie Padfield on
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I respectfully disagree. The reason that it doesn't work is because no one does it. I was out to dinner with Friends last night and there were three children just running around the restaurant getting in the way. All mom would say is oh kids now now, you come sit down. If I had done that to my mother in a public place, I would have been in the bathroom with her getting a sharp smack on my bottom, and I would never do it again. Children ARE NOT adults and shouldn't be treated as such! They have to be trained on how to act and how not to act. Children have to be taught that there will be severe consequences for bad actions. Logic and reasoning can only go so far, and what they can't cover, spanking does. There is no reason that spanking magically stopped working from previous generations. I am only 28 years old, and spanking worked on me as a child. Like I previously stated, Spare the rod spoil the child, just because its an old teaching, doesn't make it any less true.
Ruth Edensor said:I wholeheartedly disagree, old methods of parenting do not work any more and this is why children are behaving the way they do. Using positive methods to encourage childrens good behaviour will bring out the best in them, teach them to self correct and most importantly help them to keep in touch with their spirit.
Brie Padfield said:"He who spareth the rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him correcteth him betimes" (Proverbs 13:24) and "Withhold not correction from a child: for if thou strike him with the rod, he shall not die. Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and deliver his soul from hell." (Proverbs 23:13-14)
Spanking is a necessary form of discipline. Generations of children received spankings as punishment for their wrong doing, and the world used to be a safer place. Once bleeding hearts started decrying spankings as a form of child abuse, the world started going down hill. Children are killing children. Children are beating their parents. There is no longer a healthy fear of your parents to keep you on the straight and narrow. I was given spankings when I was a child, and I have never even been pulled over, much less been arrested and I would still never raise my voice to my mother. If parents would bring back spanking as a form of discipline the crime rate in this country would drop, people would start taking responsibility for their own actions and people might actually start respecting each other again *gafaw*. I will spank my children and they will turn out just fine.
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Permalink Reply by Angela Collins on -
Oh I'm a bleeding heart type, and I spank.
At first, I thought that I would not have to spank my kids. But as time came and went, and when my daughter was 2 years old, I realised that if I couldn't control her at that early age I would not be able to do it by the time she hit 4 (afterall, she's very strong-willed). Well, she's 4 years old now, and I rarely have to spank her these days. All it takes now is a look from me, and she knows I mean business!
So I spank my kids. As a result, it is easier to go out with them, and at least my 4 year old, is well mannered and respectul. My 23 month-old, is a different story...he's a work-in-progress, but I think he's starting to understand that mommy will spank that little butt if he gets out-of-line.
So all-in-all, I personally think spanking works. And of course, what I didn't state above is that I use spanking as a last resort. Spanking is not the first line of arsenal I use to modify my kids' behavior; but I know that if all else fails, I can bring out the rod.
Brie Padfield said:"He who spareth the rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him correcteth him betimes" (Proverbs 13:24) and "Withhold not correction from a child: for if thou strike him with the rod, he shall not die. Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and deliver his soul from hell." (Proverbs 23:13-14)
Spanking is a necessary form of discipline. Generations of children received spankings as punishment for their wrong doing, and the world used to be a safer place. Once bleeding hearts started decrying spankings as a form of child abuse, the world started going down hill. Children are killing children. Children are beating their parents. There is no longer a healthy fear of your parents to keep you on the straight and narrow. I was given spankings when I was a child, and I have never even been pulled over, much less been arrested and I would still never raise my voice to my mother. If parents would bring back spanking as a form of discipline the crime rate in this country would drop, people would start taking responsibility for their own actions and people might actually start respecting each other again *gafaw*. I will spank my children and they will turn out just fine.
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Spanking is disrespectful just because children are not adults we should not treat them with less respect than we would an adult, especially as we are trying to teach them respect. I don't believe spanking teached respect it teaches fear. Children can be taught to behave well without severe consequences, they need fair firm consistant fitting concequences. Positive methods of parenting bring about long lasting positive behaviour.
Brie Padfield said:I respectfully disagree. The reason that it doesn't work is because no one does it. I was out to dinner with Friends last night and there were three children just running around the restaurant getting in the way. All mom would say is oh kids now now, you come sit down. If I had done that to my mother in a public place, I would have been in the bathroom with her getting a sharp smack on my bottom, and I would never do it again. Children ARE NOT adults and shouldn't be treated as such! They have to be trained on how to act and how not to act. Children have to be taught that there will be severe consequences for bad actions. Logic and reasoning can only go so far, and what they can't cover, spanking does. There is no reason that spanking magically stopped working from previous generations. I am only 28 years old, and spanking worked on me as a child. Like I previously stated, Spare the rod spoil the child, just because its an old teaching, doesn't make it any less true.
Ruth Edensor said:I wholeheartedly disagree, old methods of parenting do not work any more and this is why children are behaving the way they do. Using positive methods to encourage childrens good behaviour will bring out the best in them, teach them to self correct and most importantly help them to keep in touch with their spirit.
Brie Padfield said:"He who spareth the rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him correcteth him betimes" (Proverbs 13:24) and "Withhold not correction from a child: for if thou strike him with the rod, he shall not die. Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and deliver his soul from hell." (Proverbs 23:13-14)
Spanking is a necessary form of discipline. Generations of children received spankings as punishment for their wrong doing, and the world used to be a safer place. Once bleeding hearts started decrying spankings as a form of child abuse, the world started going down hill. Children are killing children. Children are beating their parents. There is no longer a healthy fear of your parents to keep you on the straight and narrow. I was given spankings when I was a child, and I have never even been pulled over, much less been arrested and I would still never raise my voice to my mother. If parents would bring back spanking as a form of discipline the crime rate in this country would drop, people would start taking responsibility for their own actions and people might actually start respecting each other again *gafaw*. I will spank my children and they will turn out just fine.
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Permalink Reply by Brie Padfield on
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This is the last thing I am going to say on the subject:
Spanking is like milk: It does a body good — or at least a mind. No, this isn’t the conclusion of traditionalist parenting expert Dr. James Dobson but the finding of a study conducted by psychology professor Marjorie Gunnoe at Calvin College in Grand Rapids, Michigan. FoxNews.com reports on the story, writing, “According to the research, children spanked up to the age of 6 were likely as teenagers to perform better at school and were more likely to carry out volunteer work and to want to go to college than their peers who had never been physically disciplined.”
http://www.thenewamerican.com/index.php/culture/family/2701-new-stu...
If you Google Marjorie Gunnoe you will find several studies conducted by her.
Ruth Edensor said:Spanking is disrespectful just because children are not adults we should not treat them with less respect than we would an adult, especially as we are trying to teach them respect. I don't believe spanking teached respect it teaches fear. Children can be taught to behave well without severe consequences, they need fair firm consistant fitting concequences. Positive methods of parenting bring about long lasting positive behaviour.
Brie Padfield said:I respectfully disagree. The reason that it doesn't work is because no one does it. I was out to dinner with Friends last night and there were three children just running around the restaurant getting in the way. All mom would say is oh kids now now, you come sit down. If I had done that to my mother in a public place, I would have been in the bathroom with her getting a sharp smack on my bottom, and I would never do it again. Children ARE NOT adults and shouldn't be treated as such! They have to be trained on how to act and how not to act. Children have to be taught that there will be severe consequences for bad actions. Logic and reasoning can only go so far, and what they can't cover, spanking does. There is no reason that spanking magically stopped working from previous generations. I am only 28 years old, and spanking worked on me as a child. Like I previously stated, Spare the rod spoil the child, just because its an old teaching, doesn't make it any less true.
Ruth Edensor said:I wholeheartedly disagree, old methods of parenting do not work any more and this is why children are behaving the way they do. Using positive methods to encourage childrens good behaviour will bring out the best in them, teach them to self correct and most importantly help them to keep in touch with their spirit.
Brie Padfield said:"He who spareth the rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him correcteth him betimes" (Proverbs 13:24) and "Withhold not correction from a child: for if thou strike him with the rod, he shall not die. Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and deliver his soul from hell." (Proverbs 23:13-14)
Spanking is a necessary form of discipline. Generations of children received spankings as punishment for their wrong doing, and the world used to be a safer place. Once bleeding hearts started decrying spankings as a form of child abuse, the world started going down hill. Children are killing children. Children are beating their parents. There is no longer a healthy fear of your parents to keep you on the straight and narrow. I was given spankings when I was a child, and I have never even been pulled over, much less been arrested and I would still never raise my voice to my mother. If parents would bring back spanking as a form of discipline the crime rate in this country would drop, people would start taking responsibility for their own actions and people might actually start respecting each other again *gafaw*. I will spank my children and they will turn out just fine.
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Permalink Reply by Kellee Leamy on -
I disagree with the biblical interpretation of "the rod" mostly because the rod as described in Strong's Dictionary of Bible words describes the rod as a shepherding staff, or family traditions there for it is a figurative terminology not literal, just like cutting off your hand if it leads you to sin, I don't see many people cutting off their hands because it leads them to sin.
So I do not agree with spanking, mostly because it is too easy for "a swat" to be taken too far too quickly. I also grew up in the home where I was spanked because it took me longer then an hour to do my homework, or because my mother thought I was "up to something." I was spanked so much that I turned myself off to the world, I was depressed for years. There was one point that I couldn't go to school for a few days because I was spanked so hard that I couldn't sit because my bottom would bleed.
I understand that my story is extreme, and that the spanking on me constitutes abuse and that for most people who are pro spanking don't take it that far, but, I feel that it is a good idea to explore other options rather then to hit.
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