Wedding invitation address etiquette

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I am a tiny bit frustrated about the invitations.. okay maybe a little bit more than "tiny".. But I looked online for the etiquette on wedding invitations and it says not to use labels (which I have already bought and intend to use).. to hand write addresses.. blah. AND I am really suppose to put proper names only?? .. well, what if I have only known the person as BOB.. never even heard if his real name is actually Robert? I should address him as Robert? AND why can I not just put "The Smith Family".. Is it really necessary to put John and Jane Smith; Suzi, Lula, and Tim? I just really would like to finish them and get 'em mailed!

So, please tell me your thoughts?

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Permalink Reply by minnemom on December 15, 2008 at 9:15am: Well, there are two ways to go with this-- follow the etiquette books and worry about what people will think

OR

Do it the way you want to because it's your wedding!

Is it going to be a formal wedding or a more casual affair? If it's very formal, I'd probably go with the "proper" way of doing the invitations. If it's more casual, you have more room for tweaking things to your liking. What does your fiance think?

Personally, I think there are bigger etiquette issues than the way the invitations are addressed. I've been married 10 years and I can't remember some of the wedding-planning details that were so big at the time seem so miniscule now.

Congratulations on your wedding, and good luck getting everything to turn out how you want it to!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Leslie on December 15, 2008 at 10:08am: Awe, thanks so much!

It is not formal.. on a deck at the beach.. I even have the seal n send invites.. really cute!

I was concerned what people would think.. Thanks again!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Michele on December 15, 2008 at 10:19am: Since it's NOT formal - do it how you wish. The most important things are that they are clear, correct, and clean (no scratch offs, etc.) If it's on a deck at the beach, it sounds like your wedding is more personality driven, than formality driven - so do your invites like YOU.

Leslie said:
Awe, thanks so much!

It is not formal.. on a deck at the beach.. I even have the seal n send invites.. really cute!

I was concerned what people would think.. Thanks again!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Leslie on December 15, 2008 at 10:26am: Thanks, Michele..

Here is the RSVP.. this is part of the reason I didn't think it was necessary to
put everyone's name - it is obvious that all are invited.. right?

We look forward to celebrating with you.
Please reply by February 14, 2009
Name ________________________
Will attend: ___ Will not attend: ___
Number of Adults ______ Children ______

Thanks again!

Michele said:
Since it's NOT formal - do it how you wish. The most important things are that they are clear, correct, and clean (no scratch offs, etc.) If it's on a deck at the beach, it sounds like your wedding is more personality driven, than formality driven - so do your invites like YOU.

Leslie said:
Awe, thanks so much!

It is not formal.. on a deck at the beach.. I even have the seal n send invites.. really cute!

I was concerned what people would think.. Thanks again!; ▶ Reply to This