What Hardships in Life, have made you stronger??
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I have so many things that have happened to me, and I use to see them in a negative way.
But as I grow older I realize those things, were what made me who I am.
All of it, Being abused by my father, sexually assaulted by my uncles, losing my sister..
I could go on and on..
I can honestly say...that all those things as horrid as they may seem, were needed for me to become a Wonderful Understanding Person...
What is it that made your life..What it is now??
But as I grow older I realize those things, were what made me who I am.
All of it, Being abused by my father, sexually assaulted by my uncles, losing my sister..
I could go on and on..
I can honestly say...that all those things as horrid as they may seem, were needed for me to become a Wonderful Understanding Person...
What is it that made your life..What it is now??
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Permalink Reply by Ruthie Appleby on -
I can do all things through Christ who stengthens me... Okay...get your hankies out...
I was born number 6 of 7 children and my sister's and brothers picked on me terribly ...I used to hold my head down all the time...I married a man that beat me, gave me a black eye,...etc...I divorced him..I have gone through Depression not once, not twice but 3 times in my life! My favorite 2 years...All in 2 years...- My family moved away...I mean...mom, dad, brothers, sisters, etc..., I went bankrupt, I moved out of my 3,000 square home to 900 , I got rabies shots after being bit by a bat, I had a major car accident and only had my seat left...a truck hit me, I almost left my 2nd husband because I was so home sick I didn't know what to do. I went through depression, I left my business because the stress was so bad that I my doctor told me I had to because the people in the company were so mean to me all the time, I got so physically sick my doctor didn't know what to do with me with sinus, etc..and allergies, my father died after being picked on by my older siblings who were angry because he sold the house to my sister, they wouldn't stop until he had a heart attack and then they started picking on my mother. my extended family who never fought before all started fighting and wouldn't talk to each other,..and those are just the things I can remember! ...
Here is what I learned...
Never ever feel sorry for yourself... causes a lot of problems
MOVE FORWARD>>>>
YOU MUST HAVE GOD IN YOUR LIFE>..
My Bible verse
When I am weak then I am strong...I could have gone on a big drunk , got a boyfriend, ...etc...but when I was weak...I was strong because I clung to God...
I think God is so good...it is probably hard for someone to understand this...but it only made me stronger as now I know I am more than a Conqueor! I have now a great marriage, a beautiful home, a high paying job and some home businesses too, The respect of myself and others...and I found that families make up and relationships can be a 200% improvement..and I can look at the future and laugh :)
TD Jakes talked about this...God why are all these things happening at once...it's not you...it's just life..
Ruthie
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Permalink Reply by Ruthie Appleby on
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I agree totally. As a church person sometimes medication was discouraged...but if you need it ...go ahead and take it in faith ha!
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Permalink Reply by Carolyn on -
tHIS IS SOMETHING AS i CHRISTIAN i STRUGGLED WITH TOO, EVERYONE JUST KEPT TELLING TO GIVE IT TO GOD, FINALLY THREE MONTHS AGA, I GAVE IT TO HIM, BY VISITING A DOCTOR HE MADE, AND NOW I AM ON PROZAC, AND I AM SO GLAD I DID, MAN LIFE DOESN'T HAVE TO BE A BIG BALL OF EMOTIONS..GOD IS GOOD... AND PROZAC IS SO NOT A DIRTY WORD!
Michelle said:There is absolutely nothing wrong with psychotherapy, and prozac is not a dirty word.
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Permalink Reply by Carolyn on
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TAKING MY PROZAC IN FAITH!
Ruthie Appleby said:I agree totally. As a church person sometimes medication was discouraged...but if you need it ...go ahead and take it in faith ha!
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Permalink Reply by Ruthie Appleby on
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I met a woman today at my full time job who was crying because her child is dying. She just found out. I work full time for Lazboy and we made sure we made a special delivery to get her child a chair this day. I see a lot of older people and over the holidays it is tough...many go through hard times ...but I think through the years we get stronger and learn to help one another.
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Permalink Reply by Carolyn on
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I couldn't even imagine losing my child. We may have had hard times but that mommy she needs all the love she can feel. I pray she is okay, and you are wonderful for helping her.
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Permalink Reply by Marlene M. Linke on -
When I read your discussion post it was as if a knife went through my heart. I am so sorry for the difficult and horrible things that have happened in your life. In some ways, I think these things cause the splintering and death of a small piece of our soul. That death can either change the course of our life for the worse by causing dysfunction and bitterness or we can resurrect and reclaim that part of our selves and allow transformation to occur by embracing the blessings we have been given and opening our eyes to the true, glorious and miraculous ways that God holds us dear to His heart. You are a beautiful example of someone who has transformed into a healthy productive beautiful soul.
This is why I identify so closely with your story:
My father studied to be a priest but was asked to leave the seminary due to mental illness. He married my mother without ever disclosing that he was a manic depressive. Being that they were both staunchly catholic, divorce was out of the question. He would use his mental illness as an excuse for every indiscretion including molesting me as a child. My mother would always forgive his vile behavior saying he couldn't help himself. To the public and our church my parents portrayed themselves as the very model of catholic piety. However, behind closed doors, my father was a sick, twisted, perverted piece of crap. (Being a manic depressive does NOT automatically make someone a pervert!) He was abusive and demeaning towards women yet had numerous affairs and frequently visited strip clubs and paid prostitutes for their services. I had to uncover the disgusting details of his indiscretions following his death by discovering graphic written details including anatomical descriptions of all of the strippers and prostitutes and homewreckers he visited with.
I will never forgive him for what he did because of the blatant arrogance of his hypocrisy against his professed faith in God. My mother forgave him enough for a thousand lifetimes. Therefore, I feel no compulsion to join in the dysfunction. He and my mother are an affront to the sanctity of religion and of God.
As you have done, I transformed my wounds by fervently searching for and fostering an unbelievably healthy connection with God in a manner that is glorious and magnificent. I don't think my faith would be as strong had I not experienced the senseless false virtue of my parents. I have not allowed what happened to me to change who God meant me to be: a loving caring, deeply empathetic and mentally whole person. This is my triumph; this is how I have ascended out of what could have been a lifetime of dysfunction and bitterness. In lieu of forgiveness I have chosen transformation as my path to peace.
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Permalink Reply by Christine Karis on -
Well....I have 2 things that have made me stronger..much stronger!! At 18 I was diagnosed with Stage II Hodgkins Disease..went thru a year of chemo and 8 weeks of radiation, I then went into remission. Unfortunately, a year later it was back..but this time it was Stage IV and in my Lung!! My new oncologist came and sat at the end of my hospital bed and said "do u want to live or die", well obviously I said live, he then proceeded to tell me that I needed a Bone Marrow Transplant to survive. Because I am adopted, I had to have an "Autologous" transplant (means that they harvested my own bone marrow, sterilized it, preserved it and gave it back to me when it was time) I went into the hospital in Sept of '90 and had intense chemo and then had the transplant, during which I "died" three times! The dr's had to do the paddles on my heart to bring me back..and then realized that I was alergic to the preservative!! They cleaned it up and continued. Once done..I stayed in the hospital till March of '91..yes..6 months! It was a nitemare! Though I came out much stronger and a better person in the end! At the present time....We are going thru our second adoption (because of all my treatments, I could not have children the natural way) Our first adoption went so beautifully..we advertised in August and adopted our beautiful daughter in November from Tennessee! This time around, 5 years later..we are living a nitemare. We advertised again..and after several duds of phone calls, I got a great woman (so I thought) she is older..and has 2 kids that she does not have custody of. She is going thru a lot of Hell with her ex..he is suing her for child support..which she does not have. (she is on gov't assistance and has no money) we have been talking for over a month. I helped her thru all her ups and down with her legal problems...I kept her spirits up....she signed all the paperwork for us to get all non-identifying info on her along with her health reports..she is having a baby boy on June 15th! I am crying as I write this because after all our hard work and me falling in love with her baby boy..she found herself a "bottom feeder" of a lawyer..the total worst of the worst..and he is not even an adoption attorney! He has advised her that we are trying to "stiff her" and she can get a windfall of money as long as she waits for the right couple! He said we are just trying to cheat her! I explained to her more than once how he is suggesting that she sell her baby and that is against the law. I also said how even if she finds someone to give her a lot of money for the baby..they could all end up in jail and the baby will end up in foster care!! She is so clueless..she has no idea the falsehoods this guy is telling her.So now after we were told we were the parents of a beautiful little boy and how much she loves us..and is excited for us to adopt her son...now, she says she is going to look around and see how much more money she can get..and we'll see what happens. "Maybe you will get him in the end, its up to the lawyers" thats the last thing she told us! I even tried to reason with her how my 5 year old is so disappointed because she thought she was going to be a big sister....nothing works. This whole experience had made me so much stronger..sad..but stronger. We have come to the realization that we will most likely just be a family of 3..and be happy like that..but man, it still is breaking our hearts....
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