What Is Your Best Motherhood /Parenting Tip?

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Hello Ladies,

What advice do you want to share with other mothers that has positively impacted your parenting or mothering experience? How has this tip made your life, labor or parenting easier? We all want to know what works well. Here is your chance to share with other mothers some of the tried and true.

Okay, I'll go first

Tip: Date
I date my husband, children and myself monthly. This process has allowed me to stay connected with myself and these very special people in my life. My husband loves having me all to himself. I love being able to have adult fun with him.

My children, now 4yrs, 7yrs and 10yrs love and look forward to one-on-one time with mom without competing interest.

I enjoy being alone frequently to simply hear myself think. My alone time is truly a treasure in my life. Renews and refuels me.

Now, it's your turn.......
Live fully,

Mia
Finding Definitions,LLC ( a company created to empower mothers to practice better self-care)
www.findingdefinitions.com
www.timeformom-me.com

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Permalink Reply by Mia Redrick on April 23, 2009 at 10:01am: Hi Lisa,
Yes," what the world needs now is love sweet love". Self love is a huge piece of the life puzzle as well as love, respect and appreciation for others.

Lisa Highfield said:
I feel children need to know that they are loved unconditionally, cherished, respected and that that we have high expectations for them. Lots of hugs and keeping a great sense of humor are very important. I have always played and acted totally silly with them and continue to do this now that my three are in their early 20's.
I have always believed in teaching them the importance of integrity and character and to have a love for learning. The "person" that they are is far more important than whether or not they win awards. They know that they are very special to us and that we feel so fortunate to have them for our children and we tell them these things often. I also think that a key to their success is that we have always set goals. We would set goals for what we wanted to learn about each summer, goals for the new year and then a plan for how to achieve these goals. This has carried over into their adulthood and we still set goals for things we want to accomplish and learn about. I try to also plan one meaningful activity per month that makes those special memories. Make the very most of each day and let them know that putting God first in thier lives usually makes life and difficult decisons and choices easier.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Naomi "Digitalfangirl" on April 24, 2009 at 6:14am: My girls are 12 and 15 and one of the most important things I've done is talking openly and honestly about EVERYTHING. Many parents stray from talking about touchy topics like sex, boyfriends, drugs, etc, etc, but it is so crucial you never put up a wall around these topics and never be close-minded because what you fail to talk about at home will most definitely be talked about at school or outside in the neighborhood when they're playing/hanging out with their friends and I can guarantee you; what they hear will almost always be one or all of the following: disgusting, wrong or just outright ridiculous.

Prime example: Yesterday my 12 year old told me a boy in her class was going around talking about how girls can get pregnant if a girl gives a boy bop (that's the term kids use which means a blowjob) and he "you know whats" in her mouth. See, outright ridiculous and disgusting.

My girls tell me all kinds of stories and never fear asking me questions about things that may make some parents blush. So, be open with your kids and talk openly and honestly.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Mia Redrick on April 24, 2009 at 7:22am: Yes my mother communicated openly with me as a child. I love her for it! This is great advice. Thank you.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Jennifer Leigh Rice on April 25, 2009 at 11:41pm: I'm the mom of a beautiful 12 year old boy. Being a mom changed my life on all levels: physically, emotionally and spiritually...especially spiritually. What I've learned over more than a decade of parenting is that letting go of the "role" of mom allows me to be myself with my son as is age appropriate. we get to know each other not only as mother and son but as human beings, foibles and all. As a result, no topic is taboo as he passes from the tween to pre-teen years.

Warm regards,
Jennifer
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Permalink Reply by Mia Redrick on April 26, 2009 at 7:40am: Wonderful advice. Thank you.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Martha Scully on April 28, 2009 at 9:44am: My words of wisdom that I feel the need to share often, and would love someone to sit on my shoulder to remind me are " Be in the moment " Don't be so overwhelmed with the organizing, growing pile of to-dos, what someone watching may think. The way to create memories and make the best of everything, is to be present, whatever you are doing.

Good Luck
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Permalink Reply by Mia Redrick on April 28, 2009 at 9:10pm: Sooooooooooooooooooooooo true. Great advice.

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Permalink Reply by Martha Scully on May 8, 2009 at 11:06am: Have a caregiver you can trust. Weather it is your mom, his mom, the next door neighbor, or hired help. If you don't have to worry about leaving your kids for a couple of hours, you don't look at them like an anchor. You can grocery shop, date your husband, or go for a coffee to read the paper. It may cost you $20, but you will be a happier mummy.

~ Martha
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Permalink Reply by Mia Redrick on May 8, 2009 at 2:12pm: How true and so overlooked by mommies. Sometimes this is the very reasons that parents stop dating and moms stop doing things for themselves because of fear, worry and anxiety about who is caring for our precious little ones. Thanks for you insight.

Martha Scully said:
Have a caregiver you can trust. Weather it is your mom, his mom, the next door neighbor, or hired help. If you don't have to worry about leaving your kids for a couple of hours, you don't look at them like an anchor. You can grocery shop, date your husband, or go for a coffee to read the paper. It may cost you $20, but you will be a happier mummy.

~ Martha
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Permalink Reply by Mrs. C on May 9, 2009 at 9:11am: Make it very easy for your children to talk with you about anything and love them no matter what...; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Mia Redrick on May 9, 2009 at 10:10am: DeAnna,
This is great advice. My mom always said,"You can talk to me about anything--No matter what". I really needed her my teenage years and was glad that she could always listen without judgement.
Mia

DeAnna Chandler said:
Make it very easy for your children to talk with you about anything and love them no matter what...; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Nanette on May 14, 2009 at 7:25pm: Now that I have read your tip....THANKS. I will have to take time out for each child, husband and myself (date). I like that.; ▶ Reply to This