When is the best time to find out the baby's gender?

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Hubby and I have been going to the doctor for check ups. Also had my sonography session. At first I wanted to know the baby's gender but hubby wanted it to be a surprise until the actual birth. So we agreed not to ask the sonographer if we will be having a baby boy or a girl. As the weeks passed by we realized that it is hard to conceptualize the nursery, think of a name and buy stuff if you don't know what you are having. Hubby wants to buy boy toys and I've been checking out baby bows but we can't buy a thing. Everything seems to be on hold.

So last night when we talked and agreed that we will find out the baby's gender on the 20th week of my pregnancy. I'm so excited about it. I hope this bump will be a girl! ^_^

How about you? When did you find out your baby's gender? Did you want to know it soon or just waited for the birth?

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Permalink Reply by ECHOage on September 25, 2009 at 7:18am: A wise friend said to me "you know there are so few really great surprises left in life, waiting until the baby is born to find out the sex is really a wonderful feeling."
During my first pregnancy, I was absolutely positive I was having a boy - low and behold out came our little girl. Was I disappointed? Absolutely not. You will love that child whether it's a boy or a girl I guarantee you.
I have no regrets that I waited until delivery day to find out the sex for both of my babies.
Good luck deciding.
Roz
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Permalink Reply by Kathleen Hogg on September 27, 2009 at 8:24am: With my first, I wanted it to be a surprise; I did not care. I also did not get any of the tests for Downs etc. As it really didn't matter to us either, I was keeping the baby, so why worry about a false positive etc. But in my gut I knew it was a girl and out she came.
For the second, I was sure: boy, totally different pregnancy. I started to bleed in my first trimester, I am RH- and my eldest was RH+, got the Rogam shot after her birth, but it did not take. 3 trips to the ER and 3 extra Rogam shots later, I was terrified I would lose it. I asked the gender, in a wierd attempt to connect with the baby and make sure it survived; GIRL. I talked to her, painted thier bedroom fairy pink, did blue and pink butterflies and after 5 days of labour, 3 weeks early, 3rd degree tearing and an epidural leaving me disabled later, I got Jessica (hebrew for Wealth). She was the easiest baby ever and the best Birthday present ever (1 day after mine). My eldest is Jan 3rd, so I got the best Christmas present w/ her. I just didn't tell anyone else it was a girl. Either way, happy to have 2 girls and thankfully healthy. So, I guess it just depends.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Arlene Gianelli on September 27, 2009 at 1:29pm: Well, I had two sonograms that showed I was having a boy. I knew in my gut that I was carrying a boy. We had a boy baby shower, and anxiously awaited the arrival of Nicholas Andrew.
When the baby was born, the nurse said, "Here she is" I said, "Here HE is"
The nurse said, " No, here SHE is" I said, "But we're having a boy"
The nurse said, "Honey, this is a girl." Then she called over to the doctor to please bring the baby over so the mom could see that she had a girl.
So we had to explain to my difficult-adapting-to-change 4 year old daughter that her little brother Nicholas was actually little sister Kristina.
Kristina wore boy clothes until she outgrew all the newborn clothes we were given at the shower and we had to buy new bigger GIRL clothes.
SO.....to answer your question when is the best time to find out the baby's gender?? AT BIRTH!!!!!!!!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Dominique on September 27, 2009 at 3:43pm: I wanted to know the gender! I don't really get the surprise thing. I would have had no clue how to prepare. But I guess part of the appeal is buying stuff neutral so you don't buy all the streotypical stuff for baby? I knew in my gut I was having a boy too. And I did. In the end I don't think it matters much.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Eren Mckay on September 27, 2009 at 5:48pm: I wanted to find out all of my babies' genders as soon as possible.
All 3 of my kids were boys and I wanted time to be able to buy all of their baby things with the gender theme. I love having time to plan things and finding out (for me personally) right after birth wouldn't give me the time to do so. I also wanted time to be able to choose the best baby name based on meaning. This took time to reflect and find peace with the right names.
The other things is if you have the desire for a girl in your heart and if the baby turns out to be a boy , then there is that little feeling of disappointment that is best to be dealt with before the baby comes than when you're recovering from childbirth and dealing with a newborn.
Those are my thoughts but ultimately do what's best for you my friend ;-)
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Permalink Reply by Tiffany on September 28, 2009 at 9:12am: I am 18 weeks pregnant with baby #3. We found out last week that he is a boy. After having 2 girls I am very glad to have the time to prepare myself and get used to the idea. Of course after having had 2 girls and having several ultrasounds because they were both 2 weeks late- I would have had to not look at the monitor to keep the secret, it was easy to see he was a boy.
We found out with both the girls too- and honestly I really believe it helps with bonding- especially for dad.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Denise Doxilly on October 1, 2009 at 11:49am: I waited with both my boys to find out at the time they arrived into this world what sex they were. I feel like after those nine month and that delivery there is no more exciting new than to ask, is it a boy or a girl! I believe in waiting! Thats my opinion, I absolutely did not want to know until they were born.

ECHOage said:
A wise friend said to me "you know there are so few really great surprises left in life, waiting until the baby is born to find out the sex is really a wonderful feeling."
During my first pregnancy, I was absolutely positive I was having a boy - low and behold out came our little girl. Was I disappointed? Absolutely not. You will love that child whether it's a boy or a girl I guarantee you.
I have no regrets that I waited until delivery day to find out the sex for both of my babies.
Good luck deciding.
Roz
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Permalink Reply by Lorie on October 1, 2009 at 2:02pm: Here is wishing you lots of pink thoughts. My first was a boy and I really thought it was going to be a girl, but there is really something special about the way a boy loves his mama! ;D; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Ann on October 2, 2009 at 9:37am: All three of mine were boys, with the first I was shocked (at 20 weeks), with the second one, not really that shocked (also 20 weeks), and I went in for a regular appt with #3 at 15 weeks, and the doctor said we could peek with an internal u/s to see if we could tell yet...and I knew before he said ANYTHING.

Really it's just as big of a surprise at 15 or 20 weeks as it would be at birth, Still the same odds, and same news. I loved being able to prepare. One of my best friends did not find out and people drove her crazy analyzing everything from her hair (super thick so it must be a _____) or how she was carrying (big/small, high/low, wide/narrow), even her ankles. She was so over it!!

Congrats and good luck!! :) :); ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Cute Girl on October 5, 2009 at 4:48am: I prefer to know before

In order to know what is appropriate clothes; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Tricia Honea on October 5, 2009 at 8:44pm: I waited to be surprised both times. I had two boys and was so happy that I waited. The only thing I did to prepare was buy onesies and diapers. I received a lot of green and yellow clothes as gift which was fine by me.

My husband also say that there are few great surprises in life and this is one of them. It was so much fun to wonder and the surprise was well worth it.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Beth Blair on October 7, 2009 at 3:52am: Congratulations! It seemed we found out right away with my son, as soon as it was possible to tell. As for my girl, we were never "really" sure until she was born. Four or five times we were told "we think" it's a girl. Therefore, I never went crazy with pink, pink, pink until she was born.; ▶ Reply to This