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Comment by Sheila Stokes on April 22, 2009 at 7:37pm

I remember I couldn't wait till they could do stuff for themselves and didn't need my help all the time. I had my kids close together and there was hardly any "ME" time. I was always doing something for someone. I agree with Deb that I would gladly welcome that stage in my life once again. When I look back at the videos I wish I could go back in time. I miss them being young.

Now I have grand-animals (3 cats and 2 puppies) and someday i may have some grandkids and I plan on spoiling them as much as I can.

Comment by Deb on April 22, 2009 at 7:24pm

Oh so true... there have been so many times that I myself have realized that the things my mom said were just too true. I recently asked her why...... why did she NOT tell me that the early years were so much easier than the later years???? My first 3 kids are pretty close together, two sons (now aged) 25, almost 24, and a daughter almost 22~ when they were little, I thought I might go insane, lol. The boys couldn't find enough trouble to get in to, especially before and right after my little girl born~ I could not let them out of my sight. One harrowing day~while pregnant with #3, I laid my boys down for a nap and decided it was my only time to get a shower in for the day. As I emerged from the bathroom, I encountered a room full of white "smoke", which immediately alarmed me, of course. As I ran out into the living room, each step I took caused a huge puff of "smoke" to arise from the floor. I noticed at the same time that it didn't smell like normal smoke, but it was so dense, I could barely see my way into the kitchen. Once in the kitchen, I found my lovely sons, only by seeing the outlines of their eyes. They were covered in white, from head to foot~ and my kitchen was covered in white, powdery stuff and some sticky goo. Well, it happened that my boys emptied (all over the carpet and kitchen) a bulk sized container of baby powder, as well as throwing eggs and marshmallows all over the kitchen~ all while mommy was in the shower! My older son had just that day, taught his baby brother how to climb out of his crib! Today though, I smile as I reminisce about those early crazy days~ I would trade for them in a heartbeat, over these days when my kids are all grown, one's moved 800 miles away, and they have a full life of their own. Don't get me wrong... I'm happy they have good lives.... I only didn't realize how much I would miss them, and how much I would worry~ after all, they'll always be my babies, no matter how old they (or I) get.

Comment by Sheila Stokes on April 22, 2009 at 6:33pm

Annette I think that is part of growing up. When you get older and have kids of your own the things your parent say and do make a whole lot more sense and you wonder why you did the things you did when you were younger. There is always that Ah ha, Mom/Dad was right. If only we knew now what we didn't know then.

Have a great day!

Comment by Joanna Trusdle on April 21, 2009 at 9:09am

Deb- you just made my day! I laughed outloud. Thanks for letting me know I'm not the only one - you too Annette. Thanks guys! :)

Comment by Susan Pope on April 20, 2009 at 10:47pm

Sorry, I am so tired - I read over what I wrote and noticed all my typo's! We moved house on Good Friday. It has been arduous with 3 kids, school auction volunteer commitments, ER visit, etc., I think I'm beat! Good night.

Comment by Susan Pope on April 20, 2009 at 10:43pm

You guys are a riot! I love reading all your family personality saga's. We have our own "sock" thing. My middle child, a boy, is normally a sweet easy going kid, except when he has to get dressed and out the door on time every morning. I am constantly at him to put his socks and shoes on. I must ask at least 8 times before we get in the car, head to school and then I ask again "hey, have you got your socks and shoes on?" invariably the answer is "not yet". He's 5 and it is such an ordeal. My 4 year old girl is so so easy. The mere mention or suggestion of getting dressed and she's in her room choosing her outfit. I never have to ask her twice. I figured it was a girl/boy thing. My son would be eternally happy if I did everything for him and my daughter is the opposite.

Thanks to everyone who for your comments on my daughter's trip to the hospital. She is fine and it is amazing how quickly they heal. Already at just 3 days after the stitches have been put in it has healed so well. The Dr who stitched was so careful and delicate with every stitch, she really did a wonderful job. The diaper was to catch the irrigated water run off along with the blood. Honestly, it was funny, but it worked great and blotting up everything.

To all you Mom's of teens, I feel for you. I'm just glad I'm not there yet!

Comment by Mare on April 20, 2009 at 10:20pm

Gosh, glad your daughter is laughing about the diaper. My girls (soon to be 12, 10 and 7 would be mortified.)

As for raising girls, my oldest pulled the I hate you card a couple years ago. She was shocked when her dinner plate full of Chinese food was still on the table when she came down for breakfast the next morning. I told her I didn't do nice things for people who hated me. I haven't heard that line from any of them since, although I know it's more than likely coming again.

My middle one is the hormonal, cranky, sweet, bitchy one. Never know which one of her is coming through the door. The little one just calls it as she sees it, feelings be damned. They are all just SOOOO different it keeps me on my toes.

Comment by Deb on April 20, 2009 at 8:09pm

Hah! I am so glad I took a moment to check in on all you guys.... you're saying everything I think, but I hold back from saying. Joanna.... your description of your daughter; "moody, cranky, bitchy, and occasionally sweet" sounds suspiciously like my daughter, lol! She does have a lot of sweet moments, but boy, she can change her mood so fast your head would spin! She is almost 16, and thank GOD she is getting a bit more mature.... I thought for a while there she might have multiple personality disorder.... and I felt like running away, lol!

Comment by Sheila Stokes on April 20, 2009 at 7:49pm

Guess i was really lucky with my girls. I butted heads more with my son who when you asked him to do something he would look at you and smile and say "NO". He threw fits about socks until he was like 9 years old. I would have bought him any kind of socks he wanted but he couldn't explain to me what he was looking for so no socks were right. He would put them on and then pull them off and throw them and get terribly upset. Made it hard to get out the door on time for anything. My girls on the other hand were pretty easy going. Oh sure they had their moments but I never went through the bitchy, whiney phase as I think my son did more of that so if my girls did a bit I was immune to it. My son was definitely my challenge. My friend and I used it call it the third child syndrome as her third child and my third child (my son) were the hardest to raise.

My son is much better now and more reasonable and doesn't have the sock problem any more *smile* I get along well with all my kids which is wonderful.

I hope your daughter's hormones calm down and that you make it through this difficult time closer and stronger. Hang in there better days are on the way.

Comment by Joanna Trusdle on April 20, 2009 at 6:55pm

Sheila - I have to disagree with you on the difference between raising boys and girls. Whew!! My daughter is a handful! I am crossing my fingers she'll make it the rest of the way through high school without anymore incidents. She is moody, cranky, bitchy, and occasionally sweet. My son, on the other hand, is sweet, patient, quiet, and sometimes I forget he's there. I'm sure it's all based on personalities. Unfortunately, my daughter has a lot of me in her - so at least I understand her and can give back as much as she gives me. She knows she has met her match in me. We actually have a good relationship, though, which helps get through the tough times.

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