Advice for a First Time Mom

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Permalink Reply by SaVonni Yestanti on August 19, 2009 at 8:36am

First Time Mom:

I'd tell her that being a mommy is the biggest honor in this world; be GrateFul that the Creator saw fit for you to UnderStand Him in a deeper manner.

I'd tell her that she is her child's first point of contact with the world: ReSpect that Power and don't EVER take it for granted!

I'd tell her that the bond she creates with her child can not be UnderEstimated; take it seriously and NEVER let another UnderMine You, your KnowLedge of YOUR child or your parenting abilities.

I'd tell her to savor every moment - the good, the bad, and the inbetween - with her child; some ladies aren't blessed to have those sacred moments.

I'd tell her that Patience is Golden; the child is "brand new" or at the very least, "new to you", so cut him/her some slack - remember what it's like to "not know EveryThing"....and remember to do the same for yourself.

I'd tell her to indulge in the "expensive" baby things for a second.....and then be sensible on her dollars when she realizes that that baby is going to grow fifty million and one times in less than a year...LOL.

I'd tell her to Breast Feed; You are your child's best source of sustenance....at least until that lil sucker bites your boob, at which point, all bets are off!

I'd tell her to remember how she was raised: learn from both the good and bad actions of her own parents....then,

I'd tell her: DON'T TURN INTO YOUR MOTHER!!! (even if she was frilly and pink and nice) LOL.

I'd tell her to never UnderEstimate the influence of a Male presence within the life of her child (even if you are not with your child's father, make sure your child has positive male role models early on - and I can't stress that enough).

I'd tell her don't sweat the small stuff; there will be plenty of bigger stuff to sweat about when the child is older...trust me (she says as she takes out her napkin and wipes her forehead, remembering what her child did yesterday..."Lord Jesus!".....lol).

Finally, I'd tell her: WELCOME TO MOMMYHOOD!

(My adopted lil sister and my nephew: Cuties!)

From Savvy!

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Permalink Reply by NoirMommies on August 20, 2009 at 6:12am

Thanks!!!!

SaVonni Yestanti said:

First Time Mom:

I'd tell her that being a mommy is the biggest honor in this world; be GrateFul that the Creator saw fit for you to UnderStand Him in a deeper manner.

I'd tell her that she is her child's first point of contact with the world: ReSpect that Power and don't EVER take it for granted!

I'd tell her that the bond she creates with her child can not be UnderEstimated; take it seriously and NEVER let another UnderMine You, your KnowLedge of YOUR child or your parenting abilities.

I'd tell her to savor every moment - the good, the bad, and the inbetween - with her child; some ladies aren't blessed to have those sacred moments.

I'd tell her that Patience is Golden; the child is "brand new" or at the very least, "new to you", so cut him/her some slack - remember what it's like to "not know EveryThing"....and remember to do the same for yourself.

I'd tell her to indulge in the "expensive" baby things for a second.....and then be sensible on her dollars when she realizes that that baby is going to grow fifty million and one times in less than a year...LOL.

I'd tell her to Breast Feed; You are your child's best source of sustenance....at least until that lil sucker bites your boob, at which point, all bets are off!

I'd tell her to remember how she was raised: learn from both the good and bad actions of her own parents....then,

I'd tell her: DON'T TURN INTO YOUR MOTHER!!! (even if she was frilly and pink and nice) LOL.

I'd tell her to never UnderEstimate the influence of a Male presence within the life of her child (even if you are not with your child's father, make sure your child has positive male role models early on - and I can't stress that enough).

I'd tell her don't sweat the small stuff; there will be plenty of bigger stuff to sweat about when the child is older...trust me (she says as she takes out her napkin and wipes her forehead, remembering what her child did yesterday..."Lord Jesus!".....lol).

Finally, I'd tell her: WELCOME TO MOMMYHOOD!

(My adopted lil sister and my nephew: Cuties!)

From Savvy!

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Permalink Reply by Darcel on August 20, 2009 at 6:17am

I would tell her to go with her gut. Love and snuggle that baby. Lots of skin to skin contact. Babywearing and breastfeeding help build strong bonds.
I also say to ENJOY her baby. The time goes so very fast and we are in such a hurry for our kids to grow up these days.

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Permalink Reply by Tonya W. on August 20, 2009 at 5:22pm

I would also say that a new mom should enjoy her baby and continue to enjoy her as she grows. Talk to your baby and describe the things that you are doing with her even though she can't understand yet. Read to your baby as much as possible. You can began building her faith from birth by reading bible stories and instilling your beliefs. Also, keep her on a schedule as much as possible in the early months and listen to her cries. Most importantly, tell her that you love her everyday.

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Permalink Reply by Linda Burke-Galloway on August 20, 2009 at 8:04pm

It's on the job training. Trust your instincts and obtain advice from wise women, especially grandmothers and great-grandmothers.

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