BLENDED FAMILIES

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Comment by Carolyn Grona on August 30, 2009 at 5:24pm

Hi everyone! Just wanted to drop a quick comment to tell you about my blog. I'm a grown up child of divorce and blended families (both my mom and dad remarried). On top of the obvious issues I had as a kid, I find that divorce still reaches it's fingers into my life now. So I write about how divorce still affects me, co-parenting, blended families, etc. Come by and check it out! (I was also recently listed as a Definite Divorce Read by totaldivorce.com!)

Also, I have a community forum there. If you find you're struggling with an issue or pondering a question. Swing by and post! You'll be sure to get some insightful feedback. See you around!

http://thegrownupchild.ca

Comment by SexyBabyJ on August 12, 2009 at 9:43am

i wish you ladies could do posts for us to comment and not leave a comment for you to get a answer by a another comment but i'm just say it would be nice to put it up as a post. thank you ladies.

Comment by Sheila Stokes on August 11, 2009 at 10:08pm

Melissa my guess would be that the kids would move in with you but after a short while they will see that there are rules at your house too and the grass isn't always greener on the other side. My husband's kids when they lived with their mother always wanted to be with Dad. They moved in with us 2 days after we got married and now Mom's the best. At our house they have to go to school and do homework. Mom's the place where they get to play and have fun and absolutely no rules.

Your husband's teenagers sound like typical teenagers. My kids are 20, 23, 25 and 26. My husband's boys are 15, 16 and 17. So as you can see I have had plenty of experience with teenagers.

I think if they move in with you there are going to have to be ground rules set. It will be an adjustment for everyone involved.

I feel for you. I had not planned for my husband's kids to move in with us. He would see them 2 days during the week and would have them every other weekend. But I quickly learned that his ex is total moron and lousy mother. We took the kids in as it was in their best interest. She barely sees them now (every other weekend) and does not help with expenses for her own children. I have nothing good to say about her. As for her kids we get along pretty well most of the time but I have the main responsibility of them but none of the authority. I'm looking forward to the day that they move out and are on their own. Their favorite activities include watching way too much TV and going on the internet. I don't agree that they should be able to watch so much TV and would love to have a timer put on the TV so that they couldn't watch it until after 8pm at night. But that is the way they were raised.

Try to keep a positive attitude and talk to your husband about your concerns in as nice of a way as possible. Maybe the two of you can come up with a solution that will help the situation.

Comment by Melissa on August 11, 2009 at 1:11pm

Ok - just recently my significant others children claimed they want to move in with us. (custody belongs to their Mother)

First is a boy, 14, who is the all-knowing of all subjects, and believes himself to be an all star football player - also addicted to internet and video games.

Second a girl - 17 - who for the last two years wouldn't even speak to us. (Apparently we are now better than her mother, who has just gotten married - and we are not the evil beings that her mother has portrayed us to be) She is addicted to the internet and texting on a cell phone.

I am concerned that this situation will breed, bad habits, words, and and an immense number of other things that my 5 year old son will pick up on...

After 10 years of being with this man and having a son together, we never thought that we would have two teenagers with us on a full time basis. Not bad for him because he gets to have his kids, that we were not allowed to have time with because of his ex. When school starts, I will be the one with the brunt of the work because he works second shift. I will be the one left toting children to extra curricular activities, etc. Hoping that I don't sound too bitter, but this is not what I have planned for my youngest son?

Comment by Kara Wright on July 27, 2009 at 1:52am

Hi All,
I joined Twittermoms a while ago but am now just starting to become more active in the community. I have one daughter who is 6. The work that I do involves talking about differences (often times race) with parents who want to raise open-minded and compassionate children. I thought this would be a wonderful community to support, learn from, contribute to...

Comment by Sheila Stokes on May 28, 2009 at 8:22pm

Tracy I thought we had a lot. You have me beat. I have 4 kids of my own ages 26, 25, 23 and 20 and my husband has 3 boys 17, 16 and 15. At one time they all lived with us but now we're down to just 4 of them (all boys). My girls have moved out. We also have a zoo over here with 3 dogs (1 of them is my son's), 4 cats, 2 birds and some Koi in the pond.

Nice to meet you.

Comment by Tracy Thorley on May 27, 2009 at 9:17am

Hello everyone. I am in my third marriage. I have 5 boys of my own, ages 17, 15, 11, 10, and 4. My husband has 5 kids also (the 4 year old is ours together) His girls are 28, 26, son 24, 21 and 19. We've been married for 6 years now. When we first got together the youngest of his two children and mine were all together under one roof. Now, we just have 2 of the children with us, my 15 year old and our 4 year old although during the summer, my 11, and 10 year old come stay with us. Things tend to get hectic when all of them are together...lol Talk about DRAMA.

Comment by Jeri on May 21, 2009 at 10:58pm

Good and u

Comment by Nikki @ Blasian Baby on May 16, 2009 at 9:38am

Visiting the group after a little break. How are you moms?

Comment by Jeri on April 30, 2009 at 6:28am

Hey everybody!My name is Jeri and single mother to a 7 month old son James whos mixed.I'm white and his daddy is black.He has a half brother and another half silbing on the way

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