WOW widow

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Permalink Reply by Cara on October 17, 2008 at 6:05pm

Ooooooooooooooh honey honey honey honey!!!!!!!

I am a WoW widow of..... FIVE YEARS.... TWICE OVER!!!! Being my EXhusband and formerly my current husband. Thankfully, hubby dropped WoW and is now on to Warhammer, but he is slowly learning to get better.

But oooooooh lordie lordie do I know of your pain and can tell you that you are SOOOOO not alone. There is a group of us of about 15 who are (or formerly) WoW widows.

And yes, I only played for a few months (trying to get in on it with him).... but I know the game in and out, every special skill and class and every map available up and down and inside out!!

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Permalink Reply by Linda on October 17, 2008 at 6:42pm

Glad I'm not the only one!!

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Permalink Reply by Cara on October 17, 2008 at 8:40pm

Nope you are TOTALLY not the only one!!! And if you ever need to talk about it just gripe, I've always got an ear for ya!!!! Feel free to shoot me a message or comment any time!!

Linda said:

Glad I'm not the only one!!

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Permalink Reply by Pixie91075 on January 12, 2009 at 12:27pm

I used to be a WoW widow... I solved that by starting to play myself. My husband now know how it feels. Sometimes payback can be fun.

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Permalink Reply by MariaD on January 21, 2009 at 4:08am

When I started playing WoW, my husband would not join for a while. Gaming is a big deal, in my mind. It has a bigger influence on your life style than many other life choices. I always say, "Families who play together stay together." It is very hard on the family when one spouse is a gamer and the other is not. I can only compare it to cross-cultural marriages: they are wonderful, but they take special accommodations and a lot of work. "Second-hand playing" like you describe (watching your spouse play) works for some families, too.

I am happy to say that after "helping our kid level up a little" (trying the game) my husband appreciated it, too. Over the almost four years we've been playing WoW on and off, we had many meaningful, beautiful, dramatic or fun experiences together. We only play for a few hours a week anymore. Still, WoW is one of the most significant cultural phenomena of the decade, and I am glad we got to experience it as a family.

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Permalink Reply by Jody on May 4, 2009 at 2:06pm

You are not the only one. I play wow very casually and infrequently, but my hubby is on wow constantly. I hear ya'!

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Permalink Reply by Gabriella Klein on May 5, 2009 at 8:00am

Maria I am sorry but I disagree with you. I think the sole problem to these "games" is when one spouse takes it more serious than it really is. My husband plays WOW and it bothers me to no end. We have come to a compromise of 3 days a week, but it's is very frustrating when he choses the game over his family. We must remember that it is only a GAME! It should be something to pass time, if you have free time! Families should spend more time doing things together, and all playing WOW is not family together time.

MariaD said:

When I started playing WoW, my husband would not join for a while. Gaming is a big deal, in my mind. It has a bigger influence on your life style than many other life choices. I always say, "Families who play together stay together." It is very hard on the family when one spouse is a gamer and the other is not. I can only compare it to cross-cultural marriages: they are wonderful, but they take special accommodations and a lot of work. "Second-hand playing" like you describe (watching your spouse play) works for some families, too.

I am happy to say that after "helping our kid level up a little" (trying the game) my husband appreciated it, too. Over the almost four years we've been playing WoW on and off, we had many meaningful, beautiful, dramatic or fun experiences together. We only play for a few hours a week anymore. Still, WoW is one of the most significant cultural phenomena of the decade, and I am glad we got to experience it as a family.

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Permalink Reply by Bailey Anderson on November 4, 2009 at 9:50am

Even though I play WoW myself, I considered myself a WoW widow for a good while. My husband was going through a difficult time and withdrew into the game to an unhealthy level. It took a rude awakening, some frank communication, and yes, some intentionally hurt feelings to get the point across (something that was very difficult to do for me as a perpetual-pleaser) but he was able to understand exactly what the problem was and we worked together to find a comfortable place for the game in our relationship.

I've got a very strong opinion about "addictive games," in that the games themselves are not addictive, any more than casinos are. There are people with addictive personalities who have a difficult time moderating themselves, and we should help the people who need it, not make activities less enjoyable because a few people can't help themselves. But I guess that's a topic for another day :)

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Permalink Reply by Baba on November 9, 2009 at 11:07am

I am a WOW window too. Have been playing for a few years now. The whole family plays. I play mostly on Nagrand - Oceanic server but have toons on other servers too. My main is a lvl 80 warlock. Though I tend to solo a lot going after achievements. I still need to perk up my gear.

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