The Best Playdates Ever! - But is it Really the Best?
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My twins are 3 now, and i swear I feel like I've reached the promise land! They play together all day and It's sooooo nice.
But lately, i'm wondering if I/they have missed the 'playdate' boat for both myself and my kids. And with that, am I missing out on making new friends? I think my singleton friends have had to rely on playdates, because...their kids are bored and they NEEDED to find them a playmate. But with twins, I have built in playdates! I haven't had to really look, b/c they have each other. But with no' playdates', I feel like i've missed out on finding more mommy friends for myself.
So this being said- my kids are getting social time- i've been taking them to jr. club (my gym's version of daycare), since they were 3 mo's old and still go ~3x's/week. They're also in preschool 2 days a week, and i do have 1 playdate a week. .
What have your experiences been/ and your thoughts??
Is jbj going to cover a show about playdates, mom's making friends, etc?
But lately, i'm wondering if I/they have missed the 'playdate' boat for both myself and my kids. And with that, am I missing out on making new friends? I think my singleton friends have had to rely on playdates, because...their kids are bored and they NEEDED to find them a playmate. But with twins, I have built in playdates! I haven't had to really look, b/c they have each other. But with no' playdates', I feel like i've missed out on finding more mommy friends for myself.
So this being said- my kids are getting social time- i've been taking them to jr. club (my gym's version of daycare), since they were 3 mo's old and still go ~3x's/week. They're also in preschool 2 days a week, and i do have 1 playdate a week. .
What have your experiences been/ and your thoughts??
Is jbj going to cover a show about playdates, mom's making friends, etc?
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Permalink Reply by Sarah Eisner on -
Hey great idea on playdates show!
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Permalink Reply by Donna E on -
My boys don't get along as well as it sounds yours do,but the second set,they seem to play ogether much better.He seems to rely on her being there for him.I hadn't really done the play date thing either,as not many people had littlies like mine around us. they've been in daycare settings since 2yrs trying to make sure they get the social aspect,but with so much going on at our house we've never really been able to do them.I think I'd like to,as then we'd have other moms & dads to talk with.All my friend either live far,or don't have kids,and DH's friend none have kids so he has no daddy friends except my family.I think it's hard if the other parents you try to befriend don't follow your idea path(nonsmoking,organic foods,limited/NO video gaming,dicipline),we're still working on it.I think a segment on it by jbj would be great!
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Permalink Reply by Anne Marie Sebastiani on -
yeah...the more i think about it...it's a big topic in the mommy world/community- would LOVE to see a jbj video on it!
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Permalink Reply by Donna E on
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Actually, Anne Marie as I think back,the boys got along better with each other when they were the only twins! Now that we have two sets,and the babies are just so different than the boys were. I think that's a part of their fighting problem.They'll be 5 in July,and the babies will be 2 in June. I definitly miss having mom friends with kids roughly the same age as mine. Makes for great times out together either as families,or just moms & kids!
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Permalink Reply by Philippa Smith on -
I think my kids really benefit from playing with their siblings most of the time to be honest. Playdates are good once or twice a week, but if they have too many they are exhausted and over excited. Although they fight like cats and dogs, it is not an event to play with their brothers and they can even carve out some time for "alone" play, which is so important. A playdate is like a party! What with preschool, one class and one playdate a week, their lives seem plenty full to me...
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Permalink Reply by Stephanie Diedrich on -
I think you are providing your children with more than enough external experiences to social and learn to do work within group situations (not to mention taking authority from other adults). I think all of us seem to have this glorified idea that the more playdates, etc. we have, the more friends we will have. I think it will equate to more social acquaintances for us..........but, your children will develope this wonderful relationship with each other while still enjoying time with other kids.
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Permalink Reply by Kat Prock on -
When my oldest was a newborn (now he's 12) another newbie mom and I decided to meet once a week at McDonald's for "playgroup". The reality is, nobody had to clean up before or after someone else had been there, we had time to gab with a girlfriend and had an excuse to eat fattening food. We invited more moms as time went on and we all became dependent on our Friday "playgroup". The kids did play with each other, but mostly it was for us.
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Permalink Reply by Sonia Smith on -
Personally, I feel that siblings are biological best-friends for life! I can understand your sense of "freedom", coming into the preschool years, having a four year old myself. I would strongly encourage you to really embrace the preschool years (3-5), these years are really magical. So the whole, "organized playdate thing", seems so not magical. Children at this time need real life experiences, and your twins seem to be quite involved in some organized activity, with preschool 2 days a week. You can interact with them more now, so take full advantage of "playing" with them!
As far as mommy time, I think it's quite important. Maybe invite your friends over to your place, or have an evening where you get out with the other mommies. I am a stay at home mom and have come to the realization that I NEED to make time to feed my relationships with other women, my friends!
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