What is the hardest part about raising mulitples?
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Permalink Reply by Mathilde on -
Having to leave them cry. When my two first children were babies, I attended always to their needs at once when they cried. With the twin babies, it makes me sad to have to let one baby cry while I attend to the other.
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Permalink Reply by Amanda on -
for me personally, i would say.....giving equal attention to both of them. I want them to feel like they are individuals when they are grown up, and i find it hard to have one on one time with each of them. Another thing for me is how much space we have. We live in a 2 bedroom apartment. I guess this issue can be for anyone with more than one child. But i feel like the older my boys get, the smaller this place gets!
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Permalink Reply by The Soap Buffet on -
Trying to have people understand that they are two different people. I have identical twins and just because they look alike people assume they are alike in every aspect. My girls would hate that. I never dressed them alike or insisted they do the same things. They are two seperate people. They will always have the twin bond....they didn't have to share everything or dress alike in order to be twins. It was very hard getting others to understand and see that.
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Permalink Reply by Miriam on
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Dealing with their different needs and wants and personalities equally at the same time. A lot of the time I have two who want X and one who wants Y. I try to do majority vote, but often one girl is the Y vote so I feel like she is getting the short end of the stick.
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Permalink Reply by KristinsFourKids on -
I think the hardest part is giving time to each one of them. For me it's even more difficult since I have 2 other children, and there just aren't enough hours in the day to give everyone one-on-one attention. The twins NEVER go anywhere without another sibling in tow, even to the doctor.
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Permalink Reply by twinmama on -
Absolutely not being able to give both of them what they need at the same time. It is very difficult when they are babies to hear someone cry while you are helping the other.
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Permalink Reply by Sandy on -
Being the step mom I did not go through the baby phase with my crew. I would have to say I would think that would be about the hardest. My husband actually did most of that on his own and I tell him he has "traumatic baby syndrome" because of it. Hee hee One of the challenges we face with the 3 of them in 2nd grade is the academic competition. Alex and Elise are very quick to pick up and learn and are both at a level higher than most of their classmates. Zach is average and although he has no learning disabilities...it takes him longer to catch on and much more repetition. So keeping the others from answering questions when asking Zach is tough. He gets very upset when Dad works with him because he thinks he can't do it. He can! Maybe not as fast as the other 2...but he does fine. Of course we have them in separate classrooms (which is a very very good thing..he doesn't feel that competition in his class)
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Permalink Reply by Tami on -
One-on-one bonding time, that's been consistently difficult through the different phases. My husband and I try to each take a kid a couple of times a month (when you're used to managing multiples, having a single child seems like a "break"!), but you really have to be mindful and make an effort to do this. During the school week, it's almost impossible. Sometimes we split up and read to the kids separately.
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Permalink Reply by Lisa Mills on -
Mine are 17. For me, it's been the competition. Mine are fraternal. They are opposites in looks, personality, temperament, everything. One is blond with blue eyes and very serious, academic. The other is a brunette with brown eyes, carefree, and happy go lucky. And yet, they're still very competitive. Friendly, but competitive. It's gotten better in the past year or so though. I think they're finally seeing that they both can excel in different areas, and that's okay.
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Permalink Reply by Sharlene on -
The first 9 months. No sleep! Constant, feeding, rocking and changing. Its a long, sleep deprived stretch that I wouldn't change for anything.
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Permalink Reply by Helene on -
I think the hardest part for me is feeling guilty about not being to spend as much one-on-one time with each of them as I'd like to. I often feel so spread thin between the 2 sets because they have such different needs. I wish there were more time in the day where I could spend at least 15 minutes alone with each of them, reading stories, baking cookies, etc.
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Permalink Reply by Gemini Greetings on -
I'm with the majority, giving each individual time to make them feel special and loved as any other sibling. The only time I find they receive this attention is when they are home sick. I know personally, I love this day (except for them feeling bad) b/c I can play with them, read with them, talk to them with out another speaking over, vying for attention or other distractions.
mom with 3 yr old twins + 2 yr old
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