What is the hardest part about raising mulitples?
If you had to pick ONE aspect of raising multiples that was the most difficult, what would it be?
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Permalink Reply by Lisa J on -
From what I can tell, I think I'm a "veteran" multiples mom here - and probably have a totally different perspective on things. (I have 15 year old quadruplets).
It is really hard to pick only one hard part of raising multiples! Spending individual time with our multiples is tough no matter what age they are, deciding how to split them in school is tough, the constant crying, sleepless nights....well, you all know what that is like. I think my #1 hardest challenge I had with them was keeping them in bed at night after moving them into toddler beds. If I didn't sit in the doorway telling them to get back in bed, I would find the room totally destroyed...drawers full of folded clothes dumped, sheets off beds, mattress off of their beds - total chaos, but when I think about it (now), they were having the time of their lives! The tears were not coming from my four....they were coming from me!
I don't think that life with multiples gets easier from year to year - it just gets different. With infants/toddlers we were physically exhausted....with school age chldren we are mentally exhausted! With every age and stage that our children go thru there are new challenges that we face daily....enjoy the choking hugs, sloppy kisses and beautiful smiles because before you know it......the hugs and kisses are few and far between, and the smiles turn into sulking teenagers!
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Permalink Reply by Shelly on -
When they were younger I'd say potty training, now I agree with others that it's finding one on one time with them. And it doesn't get easier it's just a different kind of hard.
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Permalink Reply by yadayada6 on -
Thinking they would take off in two different directions while shopping and I'd have to make the heart-wrenching decision of who I would chase after first, while praying I didn't lose BOTH!
I actually hated shopping for years.
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Permalink Reply by RunningKicksButt on -
The whole first year. I don't remember being happy much. I can remember me crying, screaming and feeling as if I was going mad (insane). Breastfeeding non-stop, cleaning, changing...it was around the clock with little to no sleep. I remember calling my husband and crying/screaming at him several times during the day/week because the babies were both crying non-stop or were both having a poopfest. Thank goodness things got better-easier. Ages 1 till 2 wasn't as hard but still had it's days full of cranky babies wanting to be carried. Ages 2-3 was full of happy times. Learning to walk, run, climb, color, build...so much fun.
Ages 3 (currently) are full of imagination, building, art, going to shows/movies/zoos/shopping. They can keep themselves entertained allowing me to complete chores. Yes-things are getting easier. :-)
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Permalink Reply by Donna E on -
Yadayada6 - I totally know where you were coming from,mine are 4yrs & almost 2yrs and thats STILL a huge fear for me!
The one-on-one time is biggest for me! I've enjoyed every harried minute of having 2 sets of twins,there are a few moments I could have missed -surgeries,hospital stay for lead poisoning! Otherwise,life here is twintastic! I do however vote for more time in the day! LOL
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Permalink Reply by April watkins on -
My profile picture is my esdest he is pretty funny. Anywho dealing with their different needs and wants and personalities equally at the same time is one issue. A lot of the time I have four who wants this and one who wants that. And boys well boys will be boys. They are teens now so I try to do enie meni mini mow, but often one is the mow vote so I feel like that one is getting the short end of the stick. They fight all the time and 3 of them have adhd. 2 have odd as well as the adhd. 1 is not diagnosed and I am sure she has add. She is not hyper which is good I guess. The other 1 is actually the youngest of the bunch. She is not to bad however she does sware alot. Wow. I would like to get her outta that. So I have to say the hardest part of raising them is the teen years. I think it was eaiser when they were younger. For sure.
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Permalink Reply by Planet Mom on -
yadayada6 said:Thinking they would take off in two different directions while shopping and I'd have to make the heart-wrenching decision of who I would chase after first, while praying I didn't lose BOTH!
I actually hated shopping for years.
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Planet Mom said:
Shopping????! Are you kidding??! I didn't possess enough courage to even entertain the notion of shopping with them till they were MUCH older...5-ish maybe? Kudos to you for even attempting such a daunting task! :-)yadayada6 said:Thinking they would take off in two different directions while shopping and I'd have to make the heart-wrenching decision of who I would chase after first, while praying I didn't lose BOTH!
I actually hated shopping for years.
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Permalink Reply by Angie Cleland on -
If I had to pick one, I would say balancing the one on one time... Making sure that they get time with Mommy and Daddy not as a set.
If I could pick a second, I would say logistics. I have a 3 year old also, so trying to grocery shop, or run errands, can be a logistical nightmare.. who sits where, can I carry them in or do I need the stroller? Little things like a day at the pool is something I can no longer do alone, finding an extra set of hands isn't always easy.
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Permalink Reply by Michelle Cromeenes on -
Where do I even start?! There's more to love and we're definitely blessed, but it's definitely double trouble and hard work! My best friends are all mother's of twins and triplets, so it's been wonderful to have support from people who are experiencing the same things.
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Permalink Reply by Momma to 5 under 5 on -
for me it is giving my attention to them equally. having 2 sets of twins definetly makes this much harder. its hard being pulled in 3 or 5 different directions everyday. i do try my best to give them the same amount of attention but it is much harder. my 3 yr old daughter mainly gets the most because she is the most difficult out of all 5 of my kids. but i do my best and thats all i can do. some days are easier then others.
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Permalink Reply by Amanda Quraishi on -
Sharlene said:The first 9 months. No sleep! Constant, feeding, rocking and changing. Its a long, sleep deprived stretch that I wouldn't change for anything.
I'm with Sharlene.
The first year, in fact, was awful for me. I was totally overwhelmed and my husband had started a brand new job which he had to devote a lot of time to. Both of our moms lived out of the country and I was just totally drained in every possible way. Looking back I think I may have had PPD, but when you're going through it you just don't know up from down.
As soon as I was able to establish communication with them (i.e., not just having them cry and trying to figure out what they needed) my life got a LOT easier. Now, I think it's actually easier to have two because they are playmates and keep each other entertained. But, wow. That first year was H-E-double-hockey-sticks.
Sometimes I feel like I didn't really have enough time to bond with each of them because I was juggling so much at once.
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