Are You a Best-Friend Mom?
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The maternal bond between mothers & daughters is getting closer. But just how close is too close?
You've seen them, maybe even are one: The best-friend mom. Once her daughter hits the teen years, she tries to forge a bond by being an intimate rather than an authority figure.
She dresses like her daughter, offers TMI about her personal life and tries to befriend her children's teenage friends. The appeal of being a BF mother, if you are one, is that your daughter will think you're cool, she'll share secrets and you'll be more in-the-know. At least, that's the hope.....You've seen them, maybe even are one: The best-friend mom. Once her daughter hits the teen years, she tries to forge a bond by being an intimate rather than an authority figure.
She dresses like her daughter, offers TMI about her personal life and tries to befriend her children's teenage friends. The appeal of being a BF mother, if you are one, is that your daughter will think you're cool, she'll share secrets and you'll be more in-the-know. At least, that's the hope. More
You've seen them, maybe even are one: The best-friend mom. Once her daughter hits the teen years, she tries to forge a bond by being an intimate rather than an authority figure.
She dresses like her daughter, offers TMI about her personal life and tries to befriend her children's teenage friends. The appeal of being a BF mother, if you are one, is that your daughter will think you're cool, she'll share secrets and you'll be more in-the-know. At least, that's the hope.....You've seen them, maybe even are one: The best-friend mom. Once her daughter hits the teen years, she tries to forge a bond by being an intimate rather than an authority figure.
She dresses like her daughter, offers TMI about her personal life and tries to befriend her children's teenage friends. The appeal of being a BF mother, if you are one, is that your daughter will think you're cool, she'll share secrets and you'll be more in-the-know. At least, that's the hope. More
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Permalink Reply by Lorna Darden on -
I'm more closer to my son he's 14 and my little daughters are 7 and 9. He talks to me about everything.
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Permalink Reply by Suzanne Shaffer on -
It's hard to keep that balance, but I think it's possible to be both: a best friend and an authority figure. The key is to be the type of authority figure that is respected and trusted. When your daughter needs advice she will come to you. You can also utilize the "best friend" time to listen. Teenagers need that MORE than anything. They need to know you are listening to them. I used to sit in my daughter's room while she got dressed and listen to her talk. You would be amazed at what I learned without even asking ONE question!
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Permalink Reply by Michelle on -
My daughter ( she is 16 ) and I are very good friends...have to be with 4 brothers in the house... but first and formost.. as with all the children.. I am the parent.. pretty much I explained to them at an early age that my job is to be the parent and it was up to them if they wanted us to be friends or not... as long as they are following the rules and not causing any trouble then the "friend" part of our relationship can hang out.. if they want to visit with the parent part they just have to 'act up" So far it has worked pretty well. The parent part of the relationship with my daughter was spending a lot more time out than the friendship one.. and then she got really sick and spent a month in bed..I have to say it was one of the best things that happened to us... a chance to reconnect on all levels..and she admitted to needing the "parent" because of some stuff going on other places.. she needed that strength that a mom gives you that a friend doesn't... needed to blame "mom" for why she could not hang out with her friends after school and things like that... communication is so important we learned.
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Permalink Reply by Wendi McNeill on -
I am a mom of four daughters (21, 19, 17 and 14) Over the years I have learned that it is important to be a mom to your daughter and not a best friend because how does a “best friend” discipline? How does that work? You can't try and be a best friend to your daughter and then turn around and discipline her, it doesn’t work. I have a very close relationship with my daughters and this stems from the way they were raised since they were very young, we have a lot of fun together yet they know wrong is wrong and they will be disciplined if needed. I feel that the “best friend” plays in more when they have left home and are living on their own. I say just be the best MOM you can be to your daughter and always there for her as her mom, don’t try and be the best friend…it will only back fire on you.
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