Texting and Teens
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Permalink Reply by Joanna Trusdle on -
To me, it's just another form of emailing or instant messaging. They just do it on the phone. It's just another form of communication, and honestly, it's sometimes better than listening to my daughter talk and talk and talk and talk ..............
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Permalink Reply by mal000colm on -
These days it is inevitable. It seems like they are texting every minute because it is so quiet in the house. However, there are rules - no texting at the dinner table and the phones are shut off at night. I do check who they are IMing so it isn't that bad. Besides I am probably worse then they are.
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Permalink Reply by Judy on -
Have you seen the entire Wales PSA on texting? Your might want to. Warning graphic and sobering.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DGE8LzRaySk
Joanna Trusdle said:To me, it's just another form of emailing or instant messaging. They just do it on the phone. It's just another form of communication, and honestly, it's sometimes better than listening to my daughter talk and talk and talk and talk ..............
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Permalink Reply by Tina Ranieri on
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I feel the same way, its just another way for them to keep in touch.
but like phone calls or anything else, it can be misused
I did not let my kids have cell phones or pagers, nuttin' unitl
they were 18, they are not old enough to regulate the kids
that do call all nite and text all nite.
It interferes with their sleep, school, homework, dinner and our family time.
I tried it briefly with my oldest, or rather he'd sneak and get
one and it didnt take long for me to find out, it was a night mare!
I threw the phone away!
then he got a pager and I found it, it kept going off while he was
in the shower, I threw it away too! a year later he bought another phone
and after just a couple days his behaviour told me what was going
on again. I found it and threw it away, he threw a small tantrum complaining
about the money spent each time.
But I told him the house rule is the house rule, you should have learned
that lesson 2 times by now. He never bought one again.
I just sat down with him and talked calmly about his health and his grades
and told him that some things are better left for adult hood
you still have the internet and the house phone.
He was completely happy with that.
And told me so after he turned 19
My 2nd child respected this rule and never got one at all during her teens
during the last 6 months of her senoir year I bought her one
she never had a problem not having one
I told her my issues and reasons for it her mental health and her grades
and my famous speech, if you do it all now, before 18,
what will you have left as an adult to do
at 18 he got one on his own that he paid the bill for and
after the 3rd month had a $300 cell bill, and came crying to me
I said you know the rules of the phone we went over the contract and what the charges were.
Its your responsibility, I wont help you pay for it.
He alo had a very controlling nightmare of a girlfriend at the time
and she called him incessantly.
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Permalink Reply by Debbie Buck on -
It doesn't bother me, because I do a lot of texting, too. My kids who are both teens have cell phones and most of the time, I will text them versus calling them. My daughter is a super texter lol. She punches those keys 100 miles per hour and will usually text around 4,000 messages a month! She would rather text than talk!
I just think of it as another way of communicating with her friends, like instant messaging.
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Permalink Reply by Joanna Trusdle on
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Texting while driving is just plain stupid, and I have discussed this with my daughter, even though she's not driving yet. I would be happy to see it outlawed at the federal level, but I don't think this discussion was about that.
Judy said:Have you seen the entire Wales PSA on texting? Your might want to. Warning graphic and sobering.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DGE8LzRaySk
Joanna Trusdle said:To me, it's just another form of emailing or instant messaging. They just do it on the phone. It's just another form of communication, and honestly, it's sometimes better than listening to my daughter talk and talk and talk and talk ..............
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Permalink Reply by Tamara on -
I dont mind it now that we have unlimited made the mistake of letting him do it before that fact not a pretty day at the house when we got that bill.
We have set rules on his phone, along with hours he can use it (set through the phone company) For us this is working so far.
I agree it can get out of control and can be dangerous, I remember a few months ago a girl walked in to a man hole while walking and texting.
I guess it can also teach responsibility with the limits they can/should use it.
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Permalink Reply by Kathleen Stanley on -
I had a problem with it until my daughter was in a "lock-down" at her school. She sent me a text to let me know that everything was OK & it was not as dramatic as the news was making it sound. Since then, it gives me peace of mind knowing that she can reach out if she needs something.
Less worry for us (her parents)!
Tamara said:I dont mind it now that we have unlimited made the mistake of letting him do it before that fact not a pretty day at the house when we got that bill.
We have set rules on his phone, along with hours he can use it (set through the phone company) For us this is working so far.
I agree it can get out of control and can be dangerous, I remember a few months ago a girl walked in to a man hole while walking and texting.
I guess it can also teach responsibility with the limits they can/should use it.
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Permalink Reply by Lessa on -
I text with my teens. I also have their friends phone numbers and such on my cell phone, and they all routinely text me just to say hi, too. It's another line of communication, and whenever I can get them to talk to me willingly - I'm gonna take advantage.
And it's so much part of my daughter, that if I ever need to threaten her so that she behaves, I just gesture to her phone. Hehehe.
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Permalink Reply by Cynthia Boris on
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I found that my son communicates with me better through text than in person. He's sent me some very heartfelt thoughts that he couldn't say out loud - for that, I love it.
What I do worry about is texting while driving because I know kids do it!
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Permalink Reply by Audrey on -
I have 3 teens and one pre-teen and they all have phones. My daughters (oldest and youngest) text the most. They have never been ones to talk on the phone.
I'm the parent that does check their text usage and who is being texted. We have Verizon, and I'm able to check Online the numbers that are being texted, as well as the numbers that are sending them texts. I have set rules as to when (no dinner table, and can't text after certain hours) they are able to use their phones. I have even sent texts back and forth to all of them when I used to work (since we weren't able to call on business time).
I think it's fine, as long as they are respecting the rules that you have set.
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Permalink Reply by Michelle on -
I have five teenagers.. we all have cells... my first choice is to text messages with my kids.. or with anyone... what needs to said can be said and no useless jabber.
Number one worry of mine is texting while driving..number two worry with me is sextexting...the third thing I watch is that the phone time never cuts into our family time or their time. Meaning.. that there are no phones at the dinner table or at while we are watching movies or having family time of any kind. Their having a phone/texting is also based on thier attitude around the house.. are they getting their chores done with out being asked and doing a good job and choosing to be part of the family times.
If not they may lose part of thier phone time.. texting is the first thing I take away from them. When I first heard about sextexting I figured my kids knew better... we have real open conversations and none of them were involved with anyone.. then i brought it up to my kids... they were in high school and jr high at the time... sending sex texts messages/photos was totally common the schools they were.
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