Do you have more or less patience as a "later" mom?

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I feel like I have less...since I'm used to doing my own thing for a long time. Though I am totally grateful for my son. He just tires me out some days.

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Permalink Reply by Jamey on December 24, 2008 at 7:42am: I feel I am pretty patient. I agree about the doing things on my own...everything has to be planned. I can't just run in and out with her on hip as fast as I did when I was alone. I actually find it odd to be in the car without her noises in the back. I have found myself panicked even though she was at home with my husband. Be sure to ask this question when she turns 13.....ahhhhhhhhh! Glad to be part of this group!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Karen Weir on December 26, 2008 at 11:26pm: Much more patience. I think that as an older Mom I realize how quickly these years go by, so I STOP to appreciate them. I really notice a difference with the young moms at my kids' school. They seem to be using their kids in a parenting competition sometimes. I just enjoy my kids - watching their personalities and talents develop and flourish - it really amazes me, whereas 20 years ago I took that kind of thing for granted.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by feja on January 6, 2009 at 12:19pm: I am so much more patient and relaxed now then when I was in my 20's and 30's. A part of me is so glad we waited to have children, but the part that wants more and more wishes I had started earlier.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by FLT on January 7, 2009 at 12:41pm: I am much more patient than when I was 20, having my first and only child at 40. Three weeks into 40, how I wish it was 39...anyway, she's what you call a "spirited" child and if I'd had her in my 20's we'd have both gone bananas by now. Of course, now that I've got the hang of parenting I'm too old to adopt, so one child it is.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Bonnie on January 7, 2009 at 7:16pm: I would like to say that I have more patience, but for me, the opposite is true! I love my daughter to death....but I expect her to understand and do what I'm asking without my having to repeat myself a bazillion times!!! I think I'm older and wiser than I was in my 20's, and probably even my 30's, but as the 52 year old mother of an energetic 7 year old daughter, I definitely find that I'm a little short on patience!!! I'm working on it though!!!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by FLT on January 8, 2009 at 3:16am: In my case having done my own thing for a long time makes me __more__ patient. I have friends who had children younger and as a result didn't get to do the things I got to do (many years of community theater, great vacations, college classes as an adult). It's hard to watch some of my friends blame their kids for their stalled careers. Of course they are right--they would have had more freedom without the kid/s. Because I was in my job for years before having my child I had nothing to prove and was respected enough that I could take time off, guilt free, for a while.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Helene on January 9, 2009 at 9:46am: I think I'm finally getting the patience thing down, but I think that's just more my personality than anything to do with my age. In regards to age, I do wish I had more energy like some younger moms I've seen.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Elise Pailthorpe on January 9, 2009 at 6:31pm: I have much more patience! My husband thinks I have too much patience with our daughter! Ha Ha!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Lisa Thomson on February 21, 2009 at 10:01am: I thought I would have more patience but I don't think that I do. I don't have the stamina I had when I was younger and she just wears me out some days. My husband thinks I have too much patience but then he's 59 and his patience is pretty thin some days, especially since our 3 three year old is very very energetic. We assumed that since we were so quiet and calm that she would be too..boy were we wrong. We are very grateful for her health and energy but we do enjoy it when she goes to visit Grandma for a few hours:); ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by MoreThanMommy on February 23, 2009 at 9:14am: I have more patience, but less energy so I think it balances out a bit. I am glad I didn't have kids in my early 20's, but do wish I had met my husband a bit earlier. We got pregnant right after we got married and it would have been nice to have a bit more time together just us.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Danie Bell on February 27, 2009 at 7:02am: Hi,
It depends on the day and if I feel good or bad. The headaches can make me have less patience.
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Permalink Reply by Deb on February 27, 2009 at 11:00am

I have more patience with all my children I believe now than I did when my older children were growing up although I always was calm pretty much and patient because the biggest problem child I had was my Ex and with everything I went through with him.... The real children were a cinch. I cherish every moment with my young son. I look at every moment as precious especially now in this Child, not Teen stage. He's more like an only child, which I never got the time to experience with my other kids because I only had 15 months between my first two and then they were all about 2 years in between with the other two from marriage 1. I sometimes feel sorry for my young one though that he has no siblings closer to his own age to actually grow up with but he has it pretty good. He's a great little kid and we are so happy to have him. : )