Motherhood Later Than Sooner

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Comment by Teri Martin on December 23, 2008 at 5:45pm

I absolutely LOVED being pregnant. I had my son at 35 and my daughter at 37. I think it's definitely harder in some ways, but the appreciation of it all is better! I didn't really care for being told I was of advanced maternal age all the time though. Thanks for this group :-)

Comment by Eleanor Diekert on December 23, 2008 at 1:45pm

Well, first of all, I like the name Motherhood Later Than Sooner much better than the distinction of "Geriatric Mother" given to me by my doctor. I had my first at age 36 and second at 38. The pregnancies were rough, but labour and delivery was actually fun. And both kids thankfully turned out healthy. The worst thing for me was worrying about complications and birth defects due to my advanced years. I'm just glad to have had them and don't really consider the pros or cons of my age. What's important is being there for them and spending quality time while we're still here.

Comment by Lala on December 23, 2008 at 1:33pm

I had one at 22 and my second wave hit at 36. I had another one three months ago at 38. The circumstances around conception have made a difference in my attitude going forward. Marriage helps too. ;-)

Comment by Stacy on December 23, 2008 at 1:24pm

I wasn't supposed to be able to get pregnant 'normally' due to a brush with cervical cancer when I was 26... Imagine my surprise when I found out I was pregnant at 39! Had no idea I was pregnant, was feeling great, but had a pain in my right side I thought was the return of a cyst in my right ovary. The ultra sound showed my hubby and I the surprise of a baby - at 22 weeks!! She arrived 3 weeks before my 40th birthday... Of the 6 babies that arrived in the hospital we were at that day, our Little Miracle was the only 'natural' delivery...and I was the 'oldest' mom delivering! ;)

Pro's about having a baby so 'late' is that we were at a better place emotionally and financially... Con's is that we'll be closing in on retirement age when she graduates from high school! :D

Comment by Ruthie Appleby on December 23, 2008 at 12:07pm

I had my son ...later...wouldn't suggest it to anyone...I was 28...my aunt had a baby at 50...how she did it I do not know.
Ruthie

Comment by robin gorman newman on December 22, 2008 at 5:23pm

I know what you mean about the aches 'n pains. In the past year, I've had sciatica and hurt my rotator cuff. Ouch!

Comment by Elizabeth Flachs on December 22, 2008 at 5:18pm

I'm a mum of one. I was 35 when i fell pregnant. I think that the only con is that my body has way more aches than it did when i was younger. Also, i have done all my partying and have mellowed out alot and can now be a good role model for my son. I'd love to have another but can't due to medical issues. I'm so grateful for my lil miracle.

Comment by feja on December 19, 2008 at 6:40pm

Pros: Financially stable, calmer, secure relationship, able to stay home and actually raise my child.

Cons: Would like another but not sure if we should....

Comment by avwall on December 16, 2008 at 1:26pm

For me it's mostly pros. The only con I can think of is my body doesn't move the way it used to. I'm just not fast enough to keep up with my very high energy son. There are so many pros. I'm a much calmer person than I used to be. I have an established career and a wonderful relationship (something I didn't have 20 years ago). I think being established in my work makes it a little easier to be a work-away-from-home mom because I don't have the same pressures I used to have when I was trying to prove myself. Being a mommy is amazing.

Comment by robin gorman newman on December 16, 2008 at 12:59pm

What do you think are the pros and cons to being a "later" mom?

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