Positive Living

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Comment by Nanette on April 8, 2009 at 6:05am

This is so true Christine. Forgiving people that have caused you hurt and pain makes one feel good, free and in control. That is how I like to feel and that is how I like to live. If I can describe it.....it's like breathing fresh air for the first time.

Comment by christine hartridge on April 6, 2009 at 4:28pm

Hi Nanette
To stay positive in times of negative emotion - ah a hard one.
I have grown inside by forgiving and giving love to anyone in my past that has caused me hurt - sounds kooky- but it lets you see the fear and anger of the person (be it an abuser or a violent ex. ) and once you can do this you lose hate and anger of them.This stops so much negativity because you live in "the Now" not the past.
I don't give any power to critisism of another person -If there's no feedback to bad comments about others it;s usually dropped.
If all else fails I go to my "happy place" LOL

Comment by Jen Ohrman on March 28, 2009 at 6:55am

Petra...
What is your own experience in being upbeat, happy and joyful?
Who do you attract into your life?

My experience is one of amazing attractions...I often am incredulous of the upbeat, sharp and joyful people who enter my life..I do sometimes find some people not interested in getting to know me more and I am perfectly fine with that. (afterall, that goes both ways!) Be who you are and never apologize for that! You'll give more people out there permission to be themselves.
I kind of feel like it's the Tigger vs Eeyore syndrome...(One woman I met a few weeks ago said to me, "Hey Tigger..you better chill about being so happy or you're going to get smacked! " I said, "Hey, stop being such an Eeyore!" We were doing some networking and she had a negative energy about her but we very much enjoyed the connection and each other...I learned a lot but I probably won't be making the effort to broaden that relationship...I go for the upbeat, create your life now kind of people...but the lessons we learn from each other are invaluable

Comment by Nanette on March 28, 2009 at 6:34am

Hi Petra to answer your question: for me I pray and try to channel the negative in another direction. It's not easy but I try to see the best or better in everything.


Question for you all:

How do you stay positive in times of negative emotion?

Comment by Petra on March 26, 2009 at 6:02am

Thanks for the great answers and tips!

I try to live in a positive way, think positive and do positive. Sometimes though, I find that the "rational" thinking part of me leads my thoughts in another direction at times and I have to consciously catch those thoughts and turn them around.

I am a firm believer of anything is possible and everything happens for a reason. I also believe that positive attracts positive and negative attracts negative.

I have heard people say though, that when it comes to making friends, if a person who is positive and comes across as quite up-beat, happy and sunny that they think that that person is fake. Do you find this to be a problem when meeting new people or making new friends? I would think that it would be quite the opposite! Myself, I would be more drawn to a person with a positive attitude.

What do you think?

Comment by Jen Ohrman on March 25, 2009 at 2:29pm

Hi Petra, Nancy and All!

The Question..How do you stay positive in times of negative emotion?
Such a great question to put out there... Nancy..thanks for you beautiful sharing of wise and wonderful info!
I second everything Nancy shared and will expound a bit more...
Being positive is a choice..always...and when I really 'got' that..it seemed that my world opened up in miraculous ways! Everyday I take steps to fill my mind with 'positive fuel'...people, books, music etc..that is uplifting to me...I try to avoid the news(tough for a political junkie!)
Abraham-Hicks.com teaches us that we have our own, perfect GPS system called our IGS or Internal Guidance System..which amounts to be conscious of your feelings...there is so much I could say about this and I'm telling you, I get so excited everyday when I read a part of one of my books from Abraham-Hicks!! I also LOVE Byron Katie..and another book that started me on this journey of realizing that I AM in charge of creating my extraordinary life..about 13 years ago...was a book called Excuse Me, Your Life Is Waiting by Lynn Grabhorn....simple to understand and apply to your life right now! Yes, I do feel negative sometimes but I don't judge it..just acknowledge it and ask myself.."Is this how I want to feel?" Sometimes I say YES...but if it's no..then I take simple steps to start changing my energy by choosing different thoughts..I keep my vision of my life near me and read it often...especially if I am feeling down...OH..and here is a sure fire way to help you move in the positive direction anytime you wish..a GRATITUDE JOURNAL...don't go a day without writing down even the most simple and silly things that you are grateful for in your life...I won't get out of bed without running through a gratitude list each morning!
Tell us what works for you Petra...and others!

Comment by AffirmingSpirit on March 25, 2009 at 11:24am

Yes, Delwyn, I can attest that the more you train your mind to be positive, to seek the positive, choose to see the silver lining and imagine the best outcome, the easier it is to do. :o)

Petra, to answer your question, I think every person has to find the answer for themselves. Some folks are religious and find comfort in following their religious leaders/texts. Some folks prefer not to be involved in organized religion. Either way, each person has to find the things/experiences that make them feel good when they do them, and then do those things regularly.

Personally, I do many little things on a regular basis, all of which contribute to having positive energy that feeds a positive attitude: I meditate 2x a day, exercise regularly, take time to visualize/pre-pave what I want to experience, make time for fun & relaxation, and fill my world with positive people/messages. I struggled to learn to meditate, but once I learned I was amazed at what a HUGE difference this made in being calm, not letting things bother me. I wished I had tried harder to learn sooner!

Also, I control how much *media* I allow into my space. I only use my TV to watch positive DVDs I rent or have purchased. I don't watch news or get the newspaper. Any important event I find out about (quickly) on Twitter and can look up on the web if I want more details. It's amazing how much is in the news that neither affects us directly nor is important to be worrying about! Much of the news is reporting on negative decisions that other people have made.

To supplement my life with positive news, I go to goodnewsnetwork.org and DarynKagan.com.

In the rare times that I feel negatively, it's SO OBVIOUS and uncomfortable (because I'm usually feeling great) that I know I need to give it immediate attention. Negative feelings always mean to me that I need to take a look at how I'm viewing/thinking about a situation, decide how I really want to feel, and change my attitude. As I do this, the situation then responds to my changed perspective (claimed by shamans & ancient cultures, and now a Quantum scientific fact).

Einstein (and probably many others have) said, "You cannot solve a problem with the same energy that created it." This means if you want to solve a personal problem, you first have to get yourself OUT of the attitude that you feel when you think about that problem. I love animals and found that no matter how bad my day has been, spending time with my kitties LIFTS my heart *immediately*. I also love nature, certain kinds of music (depends), and uplifting people. Therefore, when I'm feeling negatively, the first thing I do is spend time with my kitties (or think about them if I'm not at home) to shift my thinking to a better place. So, find the things in your life that instantly shift your attitude to a better place, and employ them as needed.

The Abraham (abraham-hicks.com) teachings say we basically have two types of thoughts...those that feel good and those that feel bad. They tell us our emotions are our guide for where our thoughts stand in relation to our higher self/Divine self/Soul:When we feel *good* our thoughts are in alignment with our higher self/Soul. When we feel *bad* our thoughts are NOT in alignment with our higher self/Soul. According to Abraham, we'll have the most success and happiness in life when we keep our thoughts in alignment with our higher self/Soul.

Personally, I have found it VERY IMPORTANT to challenge my negative thinking. Otherwise, those negative thoughts move in, set up shop, and STAY...eventually developing into beliefs that then affect my health, abundance, and well-being. I've had bouts of depression in the distant past because I was not willing to challenge negative thoughts (my own or others). Since realizing the importance of challenging negativity, I have not had a single bout with depression...not to mention better health, more success, and greater well-being!

Byron Katie has developed a process of 4 questions to ask yourself when you are thinking negatively. She calls them "The Work". You can view 12 great video examples of how this process works at www.TheWork.com (Click any image under "The Work In Action").

Thanks for asking the question, Petra. I'd love to hear what others have to say as well!

Many blessings,
Nancy
@AffirmingSpirit

Comment by Petra on March 25, 2009 at 6:25am

Question for you all:

How do you stay positive in times of negative emotion?

Interested to hear your tips!

Comment by Delwyn Hanns on March 25, 2009 at 12:50am

I love the power of positive thought, from the fact that it can change the way you feel in the very minute to changing the way you feel throughout your whole life. It isn't always easy to remember to feel this way but hopefully it comes more naturally the more you do it.

Comment by Jen Ohrman on March 24, 2009 at 11:22am

How cool to be able to consciously surround ourselves with self proclaimed POSITIVE WOMEN! I look forward to learning how each of you stays positive...I for one am a huge Abraham-Hicks fan..anyone else? It's all about creating our own lives...in joy! (and to Sherri Jones..Lousie Hay has some great info as well!)

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