Can you be a single mom and have a sexual life, too?
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I was watching "Cougar Town,” the new Courteney Cox show in which she plays a recently divorced 40-something who, according to ABC, “explores the honest truths about dating and aging in a beauty and youth obsessed culture."
OK, fine. I'm not big on labels and think the "cougar" label is, well, stupid. But what bothered me most about the show is that Cox’s Jules Cobb keeps rubbing her sexuality in her clearly distressed 17-year-old son’s face. As a sexually active divorced mother who keeps her hanky-panky as private as I can, I want to grab Cobb, look her in the face and scream, “No Botox for you if you keep this up!”
There’s lots of debate on single-parent blogs on when to introduce the kids to your love interest, let alone have him join you and the kiddies at the breakfast table for a bowl of Cheerios the next morning. But most agree with the experts — you don’t bring a date home unless you both believe the relationship’s going to be around a while. Kids dealing with the reality of divorce aren’t too keen on getting close to their parents' new partners only to have them disappear and be replaced, over and over again.
My full discussion is on Mommy Tracked, but how do handle your sex life as a single mom?
OK, fine. I'm not big on labels and think the "cougar" label is, well, stupid. But what bothered me most about the show is that Cox’s Jules Cobb keeps rubbing her sexuality in her clearly distressed 17-year-old son’s face. As a sexually active divorced mother who keeps her hanky-panky as private as I can, I want to grab Cobb, look her in the face and scream, “No Botox for you if you keep this up!”
There’s lots of debate on single-parent blogs on when to introduce the kids to your love interest, let alone have him join you and the kiddies at the breakfast table for a bowl of Cheerios the next morning. But most agree with the experts — you don’t bring a date home unless you both believe the relationship’s going to be around a while. Kids dealing with the reality of divorce aren’t too keen on getting close to their parents' new partners only to have them disappear and be replaced, over and over again.
My full discussion is on Mommy Tracked, but how do handle your sex life as a single mom?
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Permalink Reply by Joanna Trusdle on -
I agree with you, but it's Hollywood. Nothing is ever portrayed properly or according to reality there. I highly doubt too many women even consider themselves "cougars" let alone behave like this character. It's there for entertainment and laughs. By the way, I think that term "cougars" is stupid, too.
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Permalink Reply by Ruth Suquinahua on -
Hi Vicki,
I agree with Jeri and Joanna's replies. I also believe that divorced moms should keep their hanky-panky as private as possible. So far I have been divorced for over 10 years and my 16 year old son has never met anyone that I have dated.
I don't have a sex life, so that is how I handle that as a single mom.
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Permalink Reply by Ly Syin on -
Interesting I have been talking to a guy for some months and we have decided to start dating and he told me was okay with the kids being around. I thought is this a good thing because he's serious about me or is that he is child molester or something. I am not going to leave him alone with my daughters and I am going to keep my guard up for a while until I feel safe.
I know I have made a lot of mistakes as single mother. I should have not brought my boyfriends home but went to a hotel or something. Also overnights did knowing to help my spiritual which I compromised.
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