Things you DONT like about being a SAHM
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What are the things that you dont like about being a SAHM? Kids whining? Hubby not helping? Anything you can think of, list them here for discussion!
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Permalink Reply by Cara on -
My worst part of being a SAHM is the lack of adult interaction. Right now hubby and I only have one car that he, of course, takes to work each day. I was never very much of a socialite before anyway, and now being home has restricted that even more.
Thank God for AMAZING sites like this one to find others who have many of the same things in common, right??!
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Permalink Reply by Tamara on -
I agree with Cara the worst part is no real adult interaction. It is difficult to get out of the house with everyone DH works a funky schedule so its usually just me with the kiddos.
I think the other is people assuming all you do is sit at home and do nothing. being home with 4 is not a walk in the park. Especially if they are sick like the last few days.
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Permalink Reply by Amanda on -
Cara said:
SAME HERE! Ben takes the car, so if the weather is horrible, the boys and i are stuck inside! I have to walk to the playgroup, so if its raining hard, i wont go because i will get drenched!My worst part of being a SAHM is the lack of adult interaction. Right now hubby and I only have one car that he, of course, takes to work each day. I was never very much of a socialite before anyway, and now being home has restricted that even more.
Thank God for AMAZING sites like this one to find others who have many of the same things in common, right??!
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Tamara said:
Exactly! It makes me very angry that there are some people out there that think we have it all easy and its all fun and roses. Its not. Yes its nice some days, but it is hard. I could make an entire list of things that i do around here. I take it like a job, like any other job ive ever had, i put my all into it!I agree with Cara the worst part is no real adult interaction. It is difficult to get out of the house with everyone DH works a funky schedule so its usually just me with the kiddos.
I think the other is people assuming all you do is sit at home and do nothing. being home with 4 is not a walk in the park. Especially if they are sick like the last few days.
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Permalink Reply by Erin on -
apart from the assumption that it's not hard work the other thing I hate is people asking me with that super understanding look 'so how are you coping with the two kids' like it's absolute hell and something only the completely insane would contemplate, or that I do cos I have to not cos I want to.
The other thing is those days when you get to the end and struggle to see what you have actually acheived. Mostly for me that comes down to perspective and having reasonable expectations but nonetheless, it's not exactly the sort of job you ever finish or leave at the end of the day. Funny I recall saying the same thing when I was a student!!!
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Permalink Reply by Amy on -
My worst thing about SAHM is that I never get a break...there is no break time like a real job...my oldest doesn't nap anymore and my youngest doesn't take one everyday anymore. I do get out of the house occassionally by myself, but sometimes that isn't enough:( In desperate need of a private vacation!
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Permalink Reply by Cara on
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I totally relate to that!!!!
Hubby comes home and immediately jumps on his computer to play his games (which is thankfully getting better at). His excuse is always that "he's so tired from work".... well how do you think I feel when I never get to LEAVE work!! That's just one of those things that has yet to be pounded into the guy's head hehe!
Amy said:My worst thing about SAHM is that I never get a break...there is no break time like a real job...my oldest doesn't nap anymore and my youngest doesn't take one everyday anymore. I do get out of the house occassionally by myself, but sometimes that isn't enough:( In desperate need of a private vacation!
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Permalink Reply by LissaBell on -
adult interaction for sure. i've gone to 2 playdates in 16 months of living in NC. i have no car and i only get to go to the grocery store. and of course my darling hubby when he's tired he get crabby with the kids. being an isolated sahm was the downfall of me selling mary kay i didnt know anyone and couldnt get out without the kids and when we had no car it was the pits. i'm trying to make new friends but its almost like dating again
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Permalink Reply by Lynn C on -
I think the worst part about being a Stay at Home Mom is...
Hmmm... Lemme think about this...
I'd say lack of social interaction, but I belong to a TON of online groups and have a lot of good friends that I've met online. It does get me sometimes when people want to talk about their office job, but aren't the slightest bit interested in listening to me talk about my kid. I mean, HELLO, your job is NOT more exciting than mine. At least let me have my TURN, sheesh.
Also, people assume I have tons of free time. I mean, yes, I have *some* free time, but NO, I can't do this and that and the other for you, people, please!
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Permalink Reply by Stephanie on -
I am in total agreement with Cara. I'm a social person anyways and staying home with no adult interaction is hard sometimes, escpecially when we are sick and don't go anywhere. I do have a car, but that is not always easy to pack up two kids who are grumpy and crabby and try to take them shopping even for groceries.
Break out the BonBons and hot baths!!
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Permalink Reply by Missives From Suburbia on -
The lack of a break really does suck. Especially when I'm sick -- there's no calling in and laying in bed for the day. My husband travels for work, so there are times when he's gone for seven days straight. That is particularly draining, because he's such a hands-on dad when he's home.
But I think the most frustrating thing for me is the neverending cycle of chores. To have a day on which the house is clean and stays that way or the laundry is all done and stays done would be a dream come true. Just 24 hours of feeling like I'm not constantly chasing dirty dishes, dirty clothes or dust bunnies would be AWESOME.
