Do you ever have a day?

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Permalink Reply by Rebecca on January 20, 2009 at 11:02am

It is totally normal to have a day like that. I would not feel guilty about it, we all deserve a day to relax. I think as women we always want to be super mom, super wife, and super homemaker, which is impossible. Some times things done get done, which is ok. Being a mom, wife, and homemaker takes balance; and speaking of sanity, check out my favorite things to keep my sanity http://www.bellytobellybutton.com/?p=7

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Permalink Reply by mel on January 23, 2009 at 9:14am

Sometimes we just have to change our routine. When things get crazy and I can't deal, we go OUTSIDE! Even just in the yard but really I like to hike! We live near a great marsh area and some cool glacier formations and hiking trails. The kids get to run around and explore. And I can think without all the distractions of what I have to DO. It is so encouraging to experience God's creation. It really is almost like church for me. I always come home rejuvenated and ready to tackle home stuff. And my kids are usually more than tired so they curl up with good books or coloring. And we're good until the next crazy day!

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Permalink Reply by Jenny Cabrera on January 23, 2009 at 9:54am

I have one day a week (it's different each week) where I just veg out all day. I usually run around before hubby gets home and tidy but, not actually CLEAN. I will clean up any blankets in the living room, clothes on the floor, bag up the trash (he takes it out), and might do the dishes but no vacuuming or other really deep chores. Just kinda make it presentable. He understands that my job doesn't get weekends off like his job does so he's pretty lenient about my day "off". Now I'll be honest, he wasn't always this understanding but, I just sat down with him and explained that if I didn't have a day off here and there I would go nuts and would be unbearable to live with. As moms we have a hard time doing anything for ourselves and we really need to let go of some of the guilt and realize the first thing we can do to care for our family is to care for ourselves.

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Permalink Reply by Jillian on January 24, 2009 at 7:52am

I do have days like that except I don't have a hubby so I don't get that funny look! lol
I have learned to let it go and NOT feel guilty.
I am one that used to get by the door to go somewhere, only to look back and see a couch pillow out of place. I'd take my shoes off and go fix it. It used to bother me that everyone would think I was a pig if something happened to me and they saw my house when I usually had it clean.
Well, happily those days are LONG behind me. Sometimes I let the dishes sit for not one but TWO days (no dishwasher here, just us), just to know I have let go of trying to be Super Woman!
It has given me great freedom and a weight off my shoulders to be able to "let it go".
I don't live in a pig-pen, I do pick up "as I go along". My home is homey and comfy! Lived in and happy!
Have you ever heard that a clean home is a boring home? :)

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Permalink Reply by Jenn D. on February 26, 2009 at 4:31pm

I have those days, but I guess I'm too selfish to feel guilty. :S
I made a calendar that I follow to keep up on the house and chores and what not, and I have a weekly rotation as well as a daily rotation. I try to do it all in the morning so I have the afternoon to play with the kids, go online, whatever I feel like. Keeping up on things helps me not have as many days where I just can't bring myself to tackle the chores. The less there is the easier it is. But none the less, I still have those days!! And I just say whatever, tomorrow is another day! Mom's tend to work 24/7, even on weekends, so I figure we're entitled to a day off now and then! :D

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Permalink Reply by Jennifer on February 27, 2009 at 9:34am

I have a day like that at least once a week. Maybe more sometimes. I do feel guilty about it because I hate messes. I can not stand having one, but sometimes I am just so not in the mood to clean and just want to relax. My husband doesn't get too bothered by it cause he sees that I just wanted to have a day to relax a little. He helps too when I ask. So if there is a sink full of dishes and I do not want to do them and he hasn't had a major day at work, he will do them for me. I do clean a few things here and there, just not the major stuff, like the WHOLE kitchen or bathroom. Things like that do have to wait till the weekend when mu husband can watch Samara and I can get it done.

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Permalink Reply by Deb on February 28, 2009 at 5:16am

We have days, mostly they happen on weekends which we call "Dumb Days" We don't bother putting on anything but maybe fresh jammies. We take a nap or two and just are plain lazy. My son loves these days and he would be happy every day to stay in his pjs I think. I don't worry about the laundry these days. Dishes can sit rinsed in the sink... No crumbs on the floor because our little Bella Vacuum would make sure that was clean. LOL. Sometimes you do need a lazy day for yourself, certainly and something else... No matter how rough economic times get ... You need to sometimes just do something crazy and spend a few dollars on splurging or a day trip or something. I am in my late 40s now and had I scrimped and saved and put certain fun days on hold... I would have ended up on meds for depression I think. Live for Today because there may not be a tomorrow. Enjoy the moment.

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Permalink Reply by Ashley Moore on February 28, 2009 at 4:43pm

I have those days everyday. I used to stress out about everything getting done NOW but I found out I have a couple of heart conditions so I can't let the small stuff stress me out. I have also stopped and thought about the fact that when I am taking my dying breath I am not going to say I should have done more housework. I just make sure I am available for my hubby and kids when they need me and the rest will fall into place. Sure I feel guilty but as my grandmother always says "Ashley, it won't do itself so it will be waiting for you when you are ready."

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Permalink Reply by Fiona Bryan on March 1, 2009 at 8:06am

Of course! I don't feel guilty either, it will wait. I think sometimes we forget why we are stay at home moms. I stay home to enrich my children's life because I have something to offer them... not to because I am a maid/housekeeper. The laundry and the mess will wait - my babies are growing up and there will be plenty time for that later.

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Permalink Reply by Andi Winterfield on March 26, 2009 at 8:49pm

I have a day like that every now and again. Sometimes, I don't get anything done around the house and the kids and I stay in our jams all day. But there are other days, where I feel like I run all day long and never get a break until it's time to go to bed. We need rest days like these, they're good for us. I know it's hard when hubby comes home and give you that look, but he works too and knows what it means to need a day off. I've never understood how they don't get that. It feels like they think we're on call nonstop. Do what you can to take care of yourself, it's good for the whole family if you do. Take care!

Andi

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