Challenges?

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Permalink Reply by Nicole Adams on October 17, 2008 at 9:36am

I felt uncomfortable going out in public at 17 pregnant, people staring and talking about me when I passed by! Then after I had my son some older lady said to me oh what a shame babies having babies! In the first years at school the mom's in my community were not so friendly they would keep their distance, when they would speak to me they would throw in comments like you couldn't understand sweetie your too young! I finally would stand up for my self and say, well that's not true, what does my age have to do with living through the tuff moments with kids, fevers, sleepless nights, crayon on the walls, potty training, etc. etc. I still get a few winces here and there when people figure out the age difference between my son and I, but now I really don't care. It was the best choice I have ever made! When they make the comments like your too young I just smile and say yep, and loving every moment! I refuse to let anyone make me feel bad for being me! If they don't like it, not my problem!!!

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Permalink Reply by Nicole Wells on October 25, 2008 at 7:48am

I totally understand what you mean. I had my son when I was 16. People assume that you're too young to know how to parent but you deal with the same things that older mothers deal with. One good thing is that now all my friends are starting to have babies and I'm an old pro with a nine year old : )

Nicole Adams said:

I felt uncomfortable going out in public at 17 pregnant, people staring and talking about me when I passed by! Then after I had my son some older lady said to me oh what a shame babies having babies! In the first years at school the mom's in my community were not so friendly they would keep their distance, when they would speak to me they would throw in comments like you couldn't understand sweetie your too young! I finally would stand up for my self and say, well that's not true, what does my age have to do with living through the tuff moments with kids, fevers, sleepless nights, crayon on the walls, potty training, etc. etc. I still get a few winces here and there when people figure out the age difference between my son and I, but now I really don't care. It was the best choice I have ever made! When they make the comments like your too young I just smile and say yep, and loving every moment! I refuse to let anyone make me feel bad for being me! If they don't like it, not my problem!!!

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Permalink Reply by stacey on February 23, 2009 at 6:29am

challenges that's a tough question for me because i have a child with a bad heart and that is a major challenge in itself lol uhh i had her at 19 and i would have to say aside her heart it would have to be growing up so fast i was not ready for it and that was a challenge oh and like Nicole said all the colds, fever, Gas on the tummy, etc. but i love my little one so much and she is my miracle i thank god for her everyday!!!

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Permalink Reply by CantHardlyWait on March 10, 2009 at 9:36am

I never went to college. So now my biggest challenge is finding the right time to go. It sure isn't easy juggling motherhood, school and work.

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Permalink Reply by Ashton Crew on April 1, 2009 at 6:29am

I understand what you're saying, Nicole. I was pregnant with my son at 21 but I still looked like I did at 16 and I got a lot of stares too. There was a teenage girl and a mom who actually got in fight in a store because of my presence. The daughter saw me and said how she couldn't wait to be a mom someday and the mom sort of flipped out and they got into it when the mom turned to me, and said "Please tell her it's not fun to be a pregnant teenager!" What could I say? I wasn't! I just said it wasn't for everyone and get the hell out of there.

I think my biggest challenge is not having anyone to really relate to.

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Permalink Reply by Savanah Hawkins on April 3, 2009 at 12:58pm

Well I just turned 24 in Dec and had Jackson in February. One of the biggest challenges for me is seeing all your friends that don't have kids getting to go out and just be carefree. Realizing, and actually really GETTING IT that your are completely committed to this little life, for better or worse for a really really long time, was sort of hard for me. But I love him so much and I know that it made my life better in ways that I don't even know yet.
Another BIG challenge was the lack of sleep the first several weeks. I love to sleep..lol But when I think of those things, It just doesn't compare to getting to watch him learn new things everyday, and holding him while he's sleeping, and my little guy is such a cuddler... so it all works out.

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Permalink Reply by Bay Area Baby Blog on April 19, 2009 at 10:10pm

I'm 27 now. I had my son at 8. So by far I am the youngest of the parents at his schools, his friends, our neighborhood. My husband and I are young parents, but we live in a decidedly upper-middle class neighborhood full of people who did "all the right things, at all the right times." In many ways this is nice...we are in a comfortable place, but it's hard to relate sometimes when a lot of my experiences are vastly different (ie - living at home trying to raise a baby while going to college, not having a husband at the time to help, struggling to find friends). It's also hard having a lot more progressive outlooks about things. I'd have to agree about the whole friends your own age don't have kids yet...mine are just starting to get married and even think about babies!

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