Quit the Rate Race: Break the Cycle of Female Competition
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Over the years I’ve worked very hard to establish my online business. I’ve cranked out blog posts, videos and networked until my fingers about fell off. Now in year four, I’m finally seeing the fruits of my labor. My online business is flourishing -- But not because I’m competent. Other women who believed in me and who were willing to help me climb the corporate online ladder are partly to credit for a lot of my success.
However, there are some women who clearly see doing business with other women as a competition. I do not. The other day a female competitor of mine called to chat (our businesses are very similar). And yes, I took her call. I gave her as much information as I could to help give her a jumpstart. I did not give her the phone numbers of my sponsors, but I did show her how to go about getting her own. There’s enough room for all of us -- the Internet is HUGE. Why be a bed hog?
Don’t you just cringe when you go out of your way for a colleague and then they don’t reciprocate? Even after you’ve sent many gentle reminder emails? Female competition breaks the universal female bond. We hall have personal strengths and weaknesses, however if we choose to conduct business, we shall only put forth our strengths. I excel when I bond with my colleagues in a non-competitive way. The more women continue the cycle of female competition the less chances we have to build a universal female support system. Men will continue to be the CEO’s of companies if women don’t start promoting other women.
I was so inspired and thankful for all the help and advice that was given to me over the years that I wrote a book about it. I wrote the book, “The Internet Mommy” because I wanted to bring to light what mothers are really doing online. We are earning money, changing policy, making friends and learning how to raise healthy kids.
Women need women. Little girls need to be taught to celebrate the successes of other girls while still embracing their differences. If women support other women, and I mean confident women, then our daughters will learn that there is no place for clique-ish, catty behavior and that others who exceed far beyond us shall be applauded. This stance starts in the home and is taught by mothers.
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Comment by Kimberley Clayton Blaine on November 5, 2009 at 12:04pm - Advenline,I know I am successful because of other women who were willing to help me out. I am so thankful and am always open to helping others :-)
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Comment by Adveline J. Minja on November 5, 2009 at 11:38am - Bravo Kimberley! Keep the good thoughts up and out. Looking forwad to get a copy of your book as a "cheers support " for your true comments on how women look/treat fellow women as competitors rather than collegues...partiners in the same cause...etc.
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Comment by Kimberley Clayton Blaine on November 5, 2009 at 7:41am
- Thanks gals! I do hope you enjoy the book :-)
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Comment by Galit Lazar on November 4, 2009 at 5:05pm
- I just love your message. I too have noticed the competition and I must say that instead we should only help each other rather than compete. I work with wonderful lifecoaches and we help each other and I am so happy, grateful and proud to be working with a bunch of people who care about each other and work as a team. I am so fortunate. When I was working outside the home, I didn't have that, everyone competed and now that I work from home, I am so happy. Thank you for mentioning that so we can all remember to be collegues rather than competitors.
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Comment by DiettaGirl on November 4, 2009 at 3:00pm - Very good, FYI I clicked the link on the main page for your book and it did not work :-(
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Comment by Alice Griffin on November 4, 2009 at 2:32am -
Brilliant post Kimberley ... I love to meet other women who like to share their successes and help others, rather than compete. I think this is the message we all want to be passing on to our daughters - bravo!
Is your book available on amazon.co.uk ???
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Comment by Kimberley Clayton Blaine on November 3, 2009 at 1:15pm
- You're awesome Lea! Thank you so much. Two moms that came to our event didn't have blogs, and after the event, they were very inspired and sent me their very first blog posts. It was so humbling...
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Comment by Lea Curtes-Swenson on November 3, 2009 at 12:58pm - P.S. Just bought the book (only $12.95)! Decided to take action and show you my support in a way that goes beyond an easy comment. :) Best of luck, Kimberly.
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Comment by Lea Curtes-Swenson on November 3, 2009 at 12:24pm
- Brava, Kimberley! This message is so important, and I happy to see you shouting it from the rooftops. Can't wait to read your new book... great work!
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