So I set the date
Yup that's right, my return to work date. March 16th. In Canada, we are fortunate enough to get 1 year's maternity leave. In France you can take up to 3 years off! But I digress, because well, i don't live in France.
I never thought i'd be loving this "mom" gig. I hate to say it but I really don't want to go back to work. If it were feasible, i'd stay at home. But alas it's not, at least not right now.
I thought about selling something: Norwex, Passion Party stuff, supplements, even Avon, but I just don't think that's going to work out for me.
One of my girlfriends was so surprised to hear me say this, because for years i was always saying that i didn't want to stay home with the kids, i'd gone to school for too many years to spend it at home. Now i feel like that doesn't matter.
But as much as i'd like to stay at home, I feel that i'd be cheating my son out of some really great experiences that he could get by going to my IL's for day care. I'm pretty mellow and laid back, i'm not much of an out doorsey person and I know that i should try to get out more. I know that when i send him to my IL's he'll get so much attention, he'll have scheduled outings and all that jazz, so how could i not give him that opportunity! Honestly, that's what makes me feel better about going back to work, i know they'll give him experiences that i might not! Thank God for grandparents!
I never thought i'd be loving this "mom" gig. I hate to say it but I really don't want to go back to work. If it were feasible, i'd stay at home. But alas it's not, at least not right now.
I thought about selling something: Norwex, Passion Party stuff, supplements, even Avon, but I just don't think that's going to work out for me.
One of my girlfriends was so surprised to hear me say this, because for years i was always saying that i didn't want to stay home with the kids, i'd gone to school for too many years to spend it at home. Now i feel like that doesn't matter.
But as much as i'd like to stay at home, I feel that i'd be cheating my son out of some really great experiences that he could get by going to my IL's for day care. I'm pretty mellow and laid back, i'm not much of an out doorsey person and I know that i should try to get out more. I know that when i send him to my IL's he'll get so much attention, he'll have scheduled outings and all that jazz, so how could i not give him that opportunity! Honestly, that's what makes me feel better about going back to work, i know they'll give him experiences that i might not! Thank God for grandparents!
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Comment by Apryl on October 13, 2008 at 8:22pm - Erin, Don't feel guilty about going back to work. Your son will be in great hands with his grandparents and it's wonderful you have that option. I'm a WAHM but if I wasn't, my son would have to go to daycare. We don't have -anyone- here to watch him. I never thought I would say this but I really, really miss having family around to help out. When they come to town, I feel so rejuvenated because I'm able to let them watch him for just a couple of hours and take that time for myself. I'm glad you've gotten a whole year to be at home. That is fantastic!!
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Comment by Nichole_S on October 12, 2008 at 1:14pm -
If you need help on the post, I'd be glad to help you! Plus, I think that there are many ways you could work (I do but from home) and still give him the great connection and time with grandparents. I know how you feel though as I've been on both sides of the fence.
Trust me when I say there is no shame in posting how you really feel. I understand about the boss - It's a good thing you can vent to all of us here!
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Comment by Erin on October 10, 2008 at 8:11pm - i think i'll write a better reasearchd post for people to see, i dont want m boss seeing this. He has issues about me coming back to work (he thinks i dont want to--i don't but not because of this) so i posted it this. But good idea for a post.... American women and babies... wonderful material... sad story :(
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Comment by Lisa Survillas on October 10, 2008 at 7:47pm - don't hesitate to post stuff that's true! it was a great post and many women in the US don't know about the maternity leaves of other countries. my dr. informed me of how much better other countries were about it than us after I had my first baby. =) i loved this post! (as i do most of your posts!)
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Comment by Erin on October 10, 2008 at 7:38pm
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yes i was hesitant to post this because i feel you get jipped from raising your children, i would be so unprepared to go back to wokr at 6 weeks.. let alone 12... the gov't needs to do something about this... i didn't even feel connected to my son until 3 months...I never knew how little you American mom's get to spnd with your children, it's such a same. If any of you move to Canada look me up :) I help run an employment agency :)
You know for the amount of work childcare workers do they sure don't get paid enough... i mean it's expensive for child care but the gov't should pay for some of it!
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Comment by Lisa Survillas on October 10, 2008 at 6:08pm
- Well...as hard as it is to go back, your son will be in great hands with grandparents and he will have priceless memories and connections to them for the time they are together. Also...in the US we only get 6 weeks of State Disability and then we can add (unpaid) 12 weeks of family leave available to add to it. So, although you may not have what the French do, you have far more than us! You are very lucky!
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