Time of confidences

All of us, the parents, long for our children’s confidences, we would like to be their friends and to be told of all their problems. Psychologists advise us the necessity of dedicating some time every day to our children, so they are considered valuable for us. And of course, in this short amount of time that we can dedicate them, we expect that our child explains her/his problems. But not always he/she will be ready to talk when we are available.

Perhaps some children need to talk at the outing of school but take the bus home, some others want to talk when doing the homework but we are busy at home at this moment, some others during having dinner, but they eat before us, some others before going to bed, but we believe they are old enough to go alone to bed.

In my case, my eldest daughter, 9 years old, often talks me about her problems at school when she goes out school, and luckily, I pick her up, so we can be together during this important moment when she talks me about has happened with her that day at school.

On the other hand, my youngest daughter, 5 years old, is very much active, and she is always playing during the day, she doesn’t use to think about her problems. But when she goes to bed she is more relaxed, and then she begins to think about what has happened during the day. Fortunately I use to be with her some time while she is calm in bed before sleeping, and she explains me her problems then.

It’s very difficult in our stressful lives to be available when our children need us, perhaps we can not be with them when go out school, or doing the homework, or having dinner, but surely we can dedicate some minutes almost every day before going to bed, reading a book, or when they already are in the bed, keeping him some company. In this quiet moments, of reconciliation and affection is a good time for confidences. While they were not old enough to explain us their problems, they will be not old enough for some minutes of keep them company before sleep, it’s worth!