Time To Think
Aren't I good hey, blogging from my holidays. Just a brief one though. I'm still alive, having a good time. Plenty to tell, although yet again a bit of a roller coaster. But that can all wait till week two is over and there will probably be more to tell.
But in the meantime I've had a bit of time to think. This is what I'm going to do;
Batman
For some odd reason, please don't ask me why, sometimes I feel guilty about knowing that I am gearing up to give him a really hard time. Now don't get me wrong, I think we all know at this stage that he's got a lot coming to him and karma is gonna bite him so hard some day, but you know what. It doesn't have to be like this does it? It really doesn't and shouldn't be like this. I mean, for gods sake, we have a child together, we are both loving parents, we are stuck with each other for the rest of our lives, like it or not.
So, deep breath, don't panic, I'm not about to give in. He's taking small child away on holiday next week, when he returns I'm going to have one last go at sitting him down, as calm as possible, point out all the potential pitfalls and minefields that lay ahead. Tell him in no uncertain terms that if things carry on like this, no matter what the courts say, it can't ever end nicely. There are too many other things hanging in the balance here, and unless we sort this out, like adults and he starts playing fair and accepting that the past is gone, he needs to also be thinking of his new family now and the potential disaster he could also be creating for them as well. I'll try to again make him the best possible offer I can and at the same time make sure he understands that he can put an end to all of this right now or face possibly years of the same crap over and over again.
He probably won't listen and will tell me where to go. But at least I will have tried. At least my conscience will be clear when the shit really does hit the fan.
Toyboy
I just have to remember that;
He is younger
He isn't a mid 30's divorcee with a child
He doesn't know how to act with me sometimes (in public)
He hasn't mastered the art of communication all that well
He isn't as experienced as me
I have to be gentle with him
Take each day as it comes
Not read too much into things
He is the loveliest bloke I have ever met
I have all the time in the world to sort the finer details out later (after all I am currently living in limbo)
Just stick with it, be patient, this one's a keeper.
Always easier said than done isn't it!
But in the meantime I've had a bit of time to think. This is what I'm going to do;
Batman
For some odd reason, please don't ask me why, sometimes I feel guilty about knowing that I am gearing up to give him a really hard time. Now don't get me wrong, I think we all know at this stage that he's got a lot coming to him and karma is gonna bite him so hard some day, but you know what. It doesn't have to be like this does it? It really doesn't and shouldn't be like this. I mean, for gods sake, we have a child together, we are both loving parents, we are stuck with each other for the rest of our lives, like it or not.
So, deep breath, don't panic, I'm not about to give in. He's taking small child away on holiday next week, when he returns I'm going to have one last go at sitting him down, as calm as possible, point out all the potential pitfalls and minefields that lay ahead. Tell him in no uncertain terms that if things carry on like this, no matter what the courts say, it can't ever end nicely. There are too many other things hanging in the balance here, and unless we sort this out, like adults and he starts playing fair and accepting that the past is gone, he needs to also be thinking of his new family now and the potential disaster he could also be creating for them as well. I'll try to again make him the best possible offer I can and at the same time make sure he understands that he can put an end to all of this right now or face possibly years of the same crap over and over again.
He probably won't listen and will tell me where to go. But at least I will have tried. At least my conscience will be clear when the shit really does hit the fan.
Toyboy
I just have to remember that;
He is younger
He isn't a mid 30's divorcee with a child
He doesn't know how to act with me sometimes (in public)
He hasn't mastered the art of communication all that well
He isn't as experienced as me
I have to be gentle with him
Take each day as it comes
Not read too much into things
He is the loveliest bloke I have ever met
I have all the time in the world to sort the finer details out later (after all I am currently living in limbo)
Just stick with it, be patient, this one's a keeper.
Always easier said than done isn't it!
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